I've been getting a lot of play lately. This one hit out of no where. I have no ****ing idea where to take a girl who is under 21. Usually I go for drinks or something. This chick doesn't have a fake ID. She's on me like herpes. I have no idea where to take her. I don't want to take her to dinner, I don't want to go to a movie. I don't feel like going to a frat party at the age of 32. Any thoughts? First time was some coffee. This would be the second time.
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Ummm.........Where do you take a girl who is 20, when you're over 21
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
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Have a few drinks at yours. Invite a few friends of yours and a few of hers as well if you want.
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Ahem...
Short answer:
Picnic - bring a kite.
Long answer:
Man, I dated a chick who was 18 when I was 21, and I thought THAT was too young. Guess it's cause I was always the youngest through school, so I tended to date older.
Anyway, as someone who's 32, you know exactly what you want out of this. Whatever it is, you know what you want.
All I'm saying is that if I were 32 and I were dating (ahem) someone who was 20 (you taking her to the carousel? Hahaha! J/k, man, I feel ya)... well, yeah. There's a 98 percent chance I'm in it for the sex. There's a 2 percent chance my 2 percent is already in there. Ha!
But, you're the one who knows her. If you know there's something boiling under that's worth following up on, just keep it light and funny for a year 'til she turns 21. Then you can really start dating outside of the daycare. (BAHAHAHAHA)
Be creative, you're god damned 32. Go on rerun dates from when you were under 21. Or if you're a regular at a pub, take her there. She'll be all like "Wow! It's like going into a club with a celebrity." (HAHAHAHA)
Although, to be honest, I can't imagine that you can't find someone who you'd relate to better. It would be fun with this girl, no doubt. We all know that chemistry is chemistry. But, intimacy might be a problem, if you're thinking long term. She just hasn't met as many people or knows what she wants quite as much. It's not impossible, no. But you will face more hurdles than you need to.
Yup, I just mentioned feelings and long term crap in the DJ forums. But hey, you're 32, and you know what I'm talking about.
It will work out. Good, bad, or sideways, it will work out. Peace, brotha.
Short answer:
Picnic - bring a kite.
Long answer:
Man, I dated a chick who was 18 when I was 21, and I thought THAT was too young. Guess it's cause I was always the youngest through school, so I tended to date older.
Anyway, as someone who's 32, you know exactly what you want out of this. Whatever it is, you know what you want.
All I'm saying is that if I were 32 and I were dating (ahem) someone who was 20 (you taking her to the carousel? Hahaha! J/k, man, I feel ya)... well, yeah. There's a 98 percent chance I'm in it for the sex. There's a 2 percent chance my 2 percent is already in there. Ha!
But, you're the one who knows her. If you know there's something boiling under that's worth following up on, just keep it light and funny for a year 'til she turns 21. Then you can really start dating outside of the daycare. (BAHAHAHAHA)
Be creative, you're god damned 32. Go on rerun dates from when you were under 21. Or if you're a regular at a pub, take her there. She'll be all like "Wow! It's like going into a club with a celebrity." (HAHAHAHA)
Although, to be honest, I can't imagine that you can't find someone who you'd relate to better. It would be fun with this girl, no doubt. We all know that chemistry is chemistry. But, intimacy might be a problem, if you're thinking long term. She just hasn't met as many people or knows what she wants quite as much. It's not impossible, no. But you will face more hurdles than you need to.
Yup, I just mentioned feelings and long term crap in the DJ forums. But hey, you're 32, and you know what I'm talking about.
It will work out. Good, bad, or sideways, it will work out. Peace, brotha.
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