I've been getting a lot of play lately. This one hit out of no where. I have no ****ing idea where to take a girl who is under 21. Usually I go for drinks or something. This chick doesn't have a fake ID. She's on me like herpes. I have no idea where to take her. I don't want to take her to dinner, I don't want to go to a movie. I don't feel like going to a frat party at the age of 32. Any thoughts? First time was some coffee. This would be the second time.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ummm.........Where do you take a girl who is 20, when you're over 21
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Have a few drinks at yours. Invite a few friends of yours and a few of hers as well if you want.
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Ahem...
Short answer:
Picnic - bring a kite.
Long answer:
Man, I dated a chick who was 18 when I was 21, and I thought THAT was too young. Guess it's cause I was always the youngest through school, so I tended to date older.
Anyway, as someone who's 32, you know exactly what you want out of this. Whatever it is, you know what you want.
All I'm saying is that if I were 32 and I were dating (ahem) someone who was 20 (you taking her to the carousel? Hahaha! J/k, man, I feel ya)... well, yeah. There's a 98 percent chance I'm in it for the sex. There's a 2 percent chance my 2 percent is already in there. Ha!
But, you're the one who knows her. If you know there's something boiling under that's worth following up on, just keep it light and funny for a year 'til she turns 21. Then you can really start dating outside of the daycare. (BAHAHAHAHA)
Be creative, you're god damned 32. Go on rerun dates from when you were under 21. Or if you're a regular at a pub, take her there. She'll be all like "Wow! It's like going into a club with a celebrity." (HAHAHAHA)
Although, to be honest, I can't imagine that you can't find someone who you'd relate to better. It would be fun with this girl, no doubt. We all know that chemistry is chemistry. But, intimacy might be a problem, if you're thinking long term. She just hasn't met as many people or knows what she wants quite as much. It's not impossible, no. But you will face more hurdles than you need to.
Yup, I just mentioned feelings and long term crap in the DJ forums. But hey, you're 32, and you know what I'm talking about.
It will work out. Good, bad, or sideways, it will work out. Peace, brotha.
Short answer:
Picnic - bring a kite.
Long answer:
Man, I dated a chick who was 18 when I was 21, and I thought THAT was too young. Guess it's cause I was always the youngest through school, so I tended to date older.
Anyway, as someone who's 32, you know exactly what you want out of this. Whatever it is, you know what you want.
All I'm saying is that if I were 32 and I were dating (ahem) someone who was 20 (you taking her to the carousel? Hahaha! J/k, man, I feel ya)... well, yeah. There's a 98 percent chance I'm in it for the sex. There's a 2 percent chance my 2 percent is already in there. Ha!
But, you're the one who knows her. If you know there's something boiling under that's worth following up on, just keep it light and funny for a year 'til she turns 21. Then you can really start dating outside of the daycare. (BAHAHAHAHA)
Be creative, you're god damned 32. Go on rerun dates from when you were under 21. Or if you're a regular at a pub, take her there. She'll be all like "Wow! It's like going into a club with a celebrity." (HAHAHAHA)
Although, to be honest, I can't imagine that you can't find someone who you'd relate to better. It would be fun with this girl, no doubt. We all know that chemistry is chemistry. But, intimacy might be a problem, if you're thinking long term. She just hasn't met as many people or knows what she wants quite as much. It's not impossible, no. But you will face more hurdles than you need to.
Yup, I just mentioned feelings and long term crap in the DJ forums. But hey, you're 32, and you know what I'm talking about.
It will work out. Good, bad, or sideways, it will work out. Peace, brotha.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.