"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ultimate **** test sent over txt? no idea how to respond..."what do you want with me?

ecilop

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hey guys.

so i've known this girl for about 2.5 months now...we're both 18 y/os
Farthest we've gone is heavy makeouts although she has stopped it TWICE via LMR into escalating further.
We talk maybe 2-3 times a week, sometimes more. Met up like 8+ or so times.

She just sent this text, and I have NO idea what to say back...any help, tips, suggestions?
Personally I'm pissed that we haven't had sex yet and it's really bad that we've known each other for this long and haven't ****ed...but I have a feeling she is the type of girl that becomes bf/gf and holds sex until wayy deep into a relationship.

"ok i have a question cuz i wanna b on the same page...what do you want with me?"

thanks guys
-ecilop
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would say i have no idea what i want from you im still a little unsure of you.
 

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update:here's the convo so far:

her: ok i have a question cuz i wanna b on the same page...what do you want with me?

me: dunno considering you haven't been very open to explore new opportunities;) why what do you want with me...im still a littile unsure about you

her: explore new opportunities...what?

me: why are you trying to logicalize(shutup its a word) things that just workout as we get to know each other more

her: haha cuz some guys like to do the whole leading on thing and then r like oh i just wanted some fun so i just wanted to kno if thats the case so that i dont get hurt. and im kind of unsure bout u too but less so than b4
 

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i would have said,

"what a guy wants from a girl"

you cannot escalate until u take a step forward. it's two steps forward, one step backward, remember. take the risk, if this chick wants u, she is all urs if u say that. if she is trying to find faults in u, then u can't help u, can u?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DonGorgon

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MacAvoy said:
Never have an important conversation via text message.
Many young immature girls use texting as their main modus of phone communication... So many times if you dont play that game at least for a while you will be out...

To the OP: Its a test to see is you are trying to lock her down and control her.. So tell her you want to experience her wonderful passionately sensual being .
 

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"I'm not sure. I just follow my instincts. I wasn't given an instruction book on how to be human, ya know."

Let her work with you while you figure out the answer to the question.
 

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Is that the new trend or something. I was dating this girl and everytime she had something to say to me she would send it via text. She wouldn't ask me while we were on the phone but as soon as we hang up she would send a text asking me some crazy questions. I always ignore them because we was just on the phone and she could have ask it right then and there. As soon as she called me she would ask if I got her text.
 
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