She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Leben holds titles in 3 MMA organizations and now he's a full time UFC fighter. In his last fight he defeated Canadian light heavyweight champ Patrick Cote.Originally posted by tristan22
I was glad when the black guy got booted off. He reminded me a lot of Chris Lebon from last season! They both talk way too much trash and the funny thing is, they couldn't back it up!
Don't give up on Leben just yet. He's fighting live on Spike TV Oct. 3rd.Originally posted by tristan22
I don't care what he holds! I've seen him fight; and each and every fight i've seen him fight in has been a snooze fest! I will be shocked if he lasts long in the UFC!
What are they paying guys in the UFC/PRIDE?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yea you just realized that? boxers except for the handful thats on top have been underpaid for years and years.Originally posted by tristan22
THe reason why i ask, a guy that goes to my gym has fought in the UFC (on pay-per-view) and he still lives with his parents.
Those guys are sooooooo underpaid considering the amount of training and skill level required to be successful!
gettin started in that real soon man, gonna give it my all so probably starting next summerOriginally posted by 007~JC
Cool man. Hey do you post on Sherdog.net?
I'm into Muay Thai.
-007
Who is your friend, if you don't mind me asking?Originally posted by tristan22
THe reason why i ask, a guy that goes to my gym has fought in the UFC (on pay-per-view) and he still lives with his parents.
Those guys are sooooooo underpaid considering the amount of training and skill level required to be successful!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
A good friend of mine is bobby southworth, we went to the same highschool together (Soquel high), bobby's a really cool guy, does anybody know about him????Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
Who is your friend, if you don't mind me asking?