Uhm, I'm obviously a noob at texting

[donaldduck]

Hi,

Hope you guys are doing well.

I'm new to dating, as a matter of fact, I'm new to 'Online dating'.

I was talking to a girl on a dating app and she seemed really cool and wifey material. Do note , I have no experience on 'Online Dating', or dating in general, and I've researched that there's a method to talking to girls online?

I just can't believe that it can't be simple in this day and age.

For example, 'I like you and you sort of like me?' -- Lets go on a date and see where it this goes.

Why can't it be like this? It's never the case. Why do some girls want to be chased? Why do some girls reply late? Why do some girls play hard to get? Its not a bloody game. It annoys me because you invest your time and effort into someone who get around with you playing childish games.

Anyways, long story short, we were texting back and forth on this dating app. I started off texting really quick because I get a notification on my phone. She would text me back quick as well. As time went on, she started replying late to me. Obviously I ****ed up something along the lines. She started replying late to me. So i started playing her game. I would reply late and she would instantly get back to me. So i figured she was playing games with me?

Later on, she told me some bull**** excuse 'Oh, sorry, I have a hard time getting back to people' but then on other days she would want my attention like this one time she said 'Omg I'm bored at work and hungry'. Knowing I got her notification of my phone I texted her back 3 hours later and I felt she was annoyed that I didn't text her back quickly. So what the **** am I supposed to do?

In the end, I just couldn't bare the texting so what I did was I told her that I was going off this dating app and I wanted to grab her phone number so I could call her or arrange some plans.

She got back to me saying 'Let me grab yours and I'll call you at some point' -- I gave her my phone number but she never got back to me. I started researching on this and found out that girls do this because they have low levels of interest in guys but I genuinely thought we had something. Why didn't she just ignore me? Why give a guy hope? Why not just say 'Look, you're a nice guy and i'm sure theres someone out there for you', I just don't see us compatible' Why not just write this and get it over with?

Another thing, since I'm back on this dating app, should i replying quickly to girls or not? Like I obviously don't understand any of this and seeking genuinely help.

I was reading another forum on here 'Called 'What should I write when a girl says I miss you"?' And the guy wanted to know what to write back to his girl-friend.

For me I'd write back 'I miss you too' but like I said, its not as easy as saying that. Because a girl could just be bored, or testing to see your level interest level.

Someone answered 'why? well, it causes her to work a little more in expressing her feelings. it causes her to go into her memory of good feelings with you and dig up emotions from events... AKA: it causes her to invest further in our interaction.'

Now that makes sense to me.

Anyways, im going off topic here
Cheers lads.
Any advice?

 

[RangerMIke]

Hi,

Hope you guys are doing well.

I'm new to dating, as a matter of fact, I'm new to 'Online dating'.

I was talking to a girl on a dating app and she seemed really cool and wifey material.....

I stopped reading right here. If you are already thinking about chicks you see online in terms of 'relationships' you are already fvcking up. Never NEVER give any chick ANY thought at all until you are fvcking her. Then and only then does she matter to you. If you do not fix that about yourself right now, nothing else matters.

 

[donaldduck]

I stopped reading right here. If you are already thinking about chicks you see online in terms of 'relationships' you are already fvcking up. Never NEVER give any chick ANY thought at all until you are fvcking her. Then and only then does she matter to you. If you do not fix that about yourself right now, nothing else matters.

Cheers, I've noted that down. Honestly, I'm just here to learn.

 

[RangerMIke]

Cheers, I've noted that down. Honestly, I'm just here to learn.

You have to believe you are the prize. If you do not yet believe you are the prize and chicks should be wanting relationships with you... then you need to work on self improvement and become the man you want to do be. Then all the traits chicks like in men will be you... and you will not be putting on some kind of bvllsh!t act. You will act like a man because you will be a man... not an actor. It might take you a couple of years.... depending on where you are at now, but time will pass anyway and in the end be MUCH better off.