Uh oh..

[illmatic1005]

ok..i was watching a show with my GF about a bulemic girl, and all of a sudden my gf was like 'i use to be bulemic and anorexic"...i was shocked when she said that because she doesnt seem like the type of girl who would do that...

a few minutes later she also told me she use to cut her wrists and showed me the scars on them...i even remember asking her if she did that a while back and she said "no i got them cut on a fence..everyone says the same thing"... but out of nowhere she finally admitted to me the truth..

she told me she stopped all that now (she did it in the summer) and that was back in her 'depression and self-hate stage''..which i wouldnt have ever thought she had because she is very beautiful...

also, she also is serious about becoming anorexic again and starving herself to become skinnier...she is not fat at all..she has a nice body but she is so insecure about it..i dont kno why?

why would she tell me all this out of the blue and is ther anything i could do to help? at least 5 times a day she says,,'eww dont touch me there,, theres so much gross fat'

 

[Desdinova]

One word: RUN.

You cannot help women with low self-esteem. They can only help themselves.

at least 5 times a day she says,,'eww dont touch me there,, theres so much gross fat'

That's only going to get worse and more irritating as time goes on. It will eventually affect your dating life, your sex life, and your personal life. Personalities also rub off on people you're close to, and you may end up finding yourself whining about your own weight problem.

LSE women will only drag you down with them. You should be out looking for women who will ADD to your happiness, not take it away.

 

[illmatic1005]

she does add a lot of happiness to my life tho..i just find it weird that she is like that becasue shes very pretty with a nice body..i dont kno why she doesnt it..

that just reminded me: i asked her why and she was like "my mom always use to tell me i was ugly and fat..so it stuck with me"

 

[Desdinova]

Look it up on google and see what a physcologist would do to treat her problem.

WTF??? He is NOT her psycologist. He is her boyfriend. It's her job to get help with her problems, not his.

she does add a lot of happiness to my life tho.

In the beginning, every woman adds happiness to a man's life. As time goes on, she'll stop the charade of being a great girl and her real personality will come out. It's already begun with her telling you about her cutting problem and her anorexia. Eventually, you will likely experience these events and it's not fun. It's stressful as fvck when you devote your life to helping someone who cannot help themself. I've lived it, and it fvcking sucks.

 

[illmatic1005]

Eventually, you will likely experience these events and it's not fun. It's stressful as fvck when you devote your life to helping someone who cannot help themself. I've lived it, and it fvcking sucks.

i dont think ill experience her doing those because she told me she really stopped doing it after she met me..she even drew a picture and it said "Happy days Ahead"....at first i didnt think anything of it, until she told me what she used to do

 

[Desdinova]

i dont think ill experience her doing those because she told me she really stopped doing it after she met me

Then why did you say this:

she also is serious about becoming anorexic again and starving herself to become skinnier.

and

at least 5 times a day she says,,'eww dont touch me there,, theres so much gross fat'

These are problems, and they're going to affect your relationship whether you like it or not. Women who think they're extremely unattractive won't want you looking at them, touching them, or fvcking them. You'll still be expected to turn around when she's changing, even if you've lived with her for five years.

Annorexia will bring on health problems that you'll have to deal with:

http://ezinearticles.com/?What-Are-the-Effects-of-Anorexia?&id=803413

Because the anorexic is starving themselves, they tend to have numerous health issues, such as low blood pressure, brittle nails, and irregular heart rhythm. Because many anorexics also refuse to drink enough water, they can also experience kidney failure.

Other effects of anorexia include changes in their personality, fixation on food, lying about the food they have eaten, and hiding the food and disposing of it later. Some anorexics also suffer from bulimia, which is where they gorge themselves on food and then regurgitate it later.

And a cute little picture she drew does not hold promises of a better life ahead.

 

[Desdinova]

if it's too hard for you to help your girlfriend then you may need to throw in the towel and give up on her

You cannot help somebody who cannot help themselves. I've done it, wasted my time, and it helped destroy the relationship. You become the enemy who thinks she's fvcked in the head, and nothing you say will change that.

 

[Potbelly]

Dude, this is where you must use common sense and not be a jacka55.

Tell her she is beautiful and have sex with her a lot and just don't neghit her or any of that bullsh1t dj crap. Don't supplicate, but there's a difference between that and being a good person.

 

[I-tallionStallion]

A girl who isn't happy with herself makes for a poor relationship. I'l take an slightly uglier confident chick over some pretty girl who complains how ugly she is and won't let you fvck her the way you want to. And if you broke up with her....would she start cutting herself again and blaming you? I was in a situation like this one....and you know what i did. I fvcking left her. Not worth headache when there are more fun chicks out there who aren't damaged goods

 

[tsmith2334]

I was in a similar situation and it sucked. The girl was very cute, made me happy at first, but boy did she have a troubled past. I'm not sure about weight issues, but she did cut herself, sometimes over me even.

Back away when you can, it's not worth it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

A girl who isn't happy with herself makes for a poor relationship. I'l take an slightly uglier confident chick over some pretty girl who complains how ugly she is and won't let you fvck her the way you want to. And if you broke up with her....would she start cutting herself again and blaming you? I was in a situation like this one....and you know what i did. I fvcking left her. Not worth headache when there are more fun chicks out there who aren't damaged goods

I think that needed to be emphasized.

 

[aliasguy]

This girl is trouble, and the sooner you get rid of her the better.

Probably a Borderline. Big mess.

Bail. Today. The longer you wait, the more "sucked in" you will be, and the worse this will all play out.

Google "BPD".

 

[demonic]

You know i'm in the process of leaving a girl after 3 months that i thought i loved because of the following things i found out as we got close.

Raped
Cutting
Wants to be anorexic

It's like every damm day is a new drama and i hate myself for not being a man and walking away the moment i smelt trouble.
Instead i stayed because i thought i loved her, it got worse as time went on to the point she basically would'nt get close to me because of that stuff.

She even tryed to make me not wear a condom after the 4th time we had sex saying that condoms reminded her of her rape...yeah ok BS!

Get any girls like the above...RUUUUUN!!!

 

[Bible_Belt]

crazy girls are good in bed

 

[reset]

What would you do if you guys found out a chick did something like this years ago, but got herself help and changed. Would you still split?

 

[aliasguy]

What would you do if you guys found out a chick did something like this years ago, but got herself help and changed. Would you still split?

YES. Split (after a few f*cks - but be careful not to get "addicted.")

There's NO "fixing" this sh*t.

(BTW, they really ARE great in bed. Bible belt's right on the mark.)

 

[reset]

But men can change, right? Isn't that the whole point of this site... improve your life so you can have better experiences (including with women) because you worked at changing and improving yourself?

But maybe it's a man/woman thing. I've had a crazy girl and there was no way in hell she could look at herself objectively. If I heard that I would probably leave too.

Maybe I'm projecting down the road if I ever admitted to a girl I was in a LTR with that I wasn't always Mr. Confident. I would hope she wouldn't judge me on who I used to be.

But maybe I'm getting off topic. As for the OP, yeah. She probably won't get better.

 

[Desdinova]

(BTW, they really ARE great in bed. Bible belt's right on the mark.)

My experience has been the opposite, they're terrible in bed. They just lay there and take d1ck, sometimes they start crying, and they're always asking if you're sure it feels good.

The most fun women in bed are the nerdy / brainy ones.

 

[demonic]

My experience has been the opposite, they're terrible in bed. They just lay there and take d1ck, sometimes they start crying, and they're always asking if you're sure it feels good.

The most fun women in bed are the nerdy / brainy ones.

the girl i was with just laid there and said "does it feel good?" lol

 

[Desdinova]

the girl i was with just laid there and said "does it feel good?" lol

Yeah, you might as well be fvcking your hand because you KNOW it feels good. You can't help but wonder if these women were born without a clyt.