Uh oh, oneitis? Where the hell did that come from? Agh!

[Hellboy]

Whoah... I'm starting to piss myself off here. Need to vent some steam.

I've been out and about, meeting new people, enjoying myself. Improving myself. Not looking for anything serious. Few casual flings here and there. And then...

WHAM! Oneitis!

All of a sudden there's this one girl... who may just be everything I've ever looked for in a woman. Try as I might I can't fault her. I have racked my brains to come up with something, ANYTHING, no matter how mundane, just to bring her back down to my level. Could it be this girl is perfect? It's not just that this girl is gorgeous, or intelligent, or funny, or sweet, or sexy, or sensual, or stylish, or affectionate... she is also exactly the style of person I have been looking for all these years. Petite, gothy, exotic (she's Greek), spiritual... Man I could go on for hours. Her face is so expressive. When I'm saying something she's interested in, her wide eyed smile almost brings a tear to my eye. When I tease her she sticks her tongue out and gives me a playful punch. When I stroke her neck she tilts her head and closes her eyes, licks her lips. She loves to be caressed and is very tactile, and she is happy to return the favour.

She's fascinated with history, travel, culture, architecture, psychology. She in in the 6th year of her psychology degree. She's also into ghosts, witchcraft, and anything spiritual and gothy. She's tiny, about 6.5stone, and I love to feel like her protector (I'm nearly twice her weight). She's 27 but I swear to god she looks about 19.

I'm fairly gothy myself but haven't made it into a lifestyle in the same way she has. I'm also starting to feel very uncultured and untravelled compared to her. I'm fighting a losing battle in my head and already feel as if I'm gonna lose her.

Fvck. Someone slap me.

 

[Hellboy]

Oh, worst thing, this has been going on ONE WEEK. :crazy:

 

[frivolousz21]

just ask her out?!

 

[Dominant]

How are you going to lose her? Do you even have her?

And how is this one-itis? Does she being in your life effect you meeting other women?

Look, you want her? Either do something about it or don't. Simple as that. All this extra analyzing and thinking and blah blah is worthless. Think about what you want and go for it.

Otherwise, replace her.

-Dominant

 

[Hellboy]

Ask her out? Okay maybe a little history would help.

I met her at a club a few months back. I made a beeline for her and hit her with everything I could think of. I later found out that she was seeing another guy I know, Barry, and backed off a little.
Since then I have been in the same social circle and seen her a good few times. Always I try to be interesting and forward, even though she is seeing this guy Barry - as I discovered he is pretty much ignoring her. Throughout this time there was another mutual friend Jason who was also making moves on her.

She knows I like to cycle about the city, and had joked about coming to see her. Last week I sent her a text saying "Good evening Morticia, and how are you on this mysterious moonlit night? This dark rider is considering a westward adventure tomorrow night, any suggestins?" Her reply: "Well rider Gomez, if you can make it out to the Wild West then perhaps we could meet for a safari. I don't know any adventure parks but I'm sure we can think of something. x"

So I went out to see her the next night, Thursday, and we had a little fun. It took me hours to even get a kiss from her and I couldn't strip her any further than her tights and panties. She was determined not to have sex. But we did have a lot of fun and I left the next morning (Friday) covered in biite marks.

Things seem promising this far but the next night things got a little wierd. Saturday night this whole social circle reassembled for a goth night out. Significant events in order.

1) I grabbed her and we went to the bar for a drink. Things seemed okay at first but once Barry's friend came over she started acting wierd. We ended up drifting apart for a while.
2) Jason chatted to her and was told by her that if she wasn't with Barry she would have ended up with HIM.
3) At a party afterwards Barry begged her for another chance (even though apparently they were never together in the first place) and she said YES.
4) Me and her spent the next 5-6 hours of the party pretty much inseperable, during which time she told me she agreed to get back together with him out of PITY and she greatly regretted it. My focus of attention didn't go unnoticed by other partygoers, with varying reactions. But by then I didn't care.
5) I said "Whatever, it's done now. Take care, all the best. See you later." And I left the party.
6) She FOLLOWED me out of the party (uninvited) and we got the bus together, back to her place, and had amazing sex on and off for about 8 hours. During this time she explained to me that although she had once liked Barry, she had gone right off him. She had since been faced with a decision to choose between ME and JASON. She had decided that I am a player (hence why she wouldn't sleep with me on Thursday) who will say anything to get laid, and that Jason is a sweetheart who is relationship material. Hence why she had told him that earlier. However, since we had spent the time together at the party she had seen a new side of me and had changed her mind about me.

Hmm oneitis... This is why. This chick is so great... I'm not even INTERESTED in my other prospects any more. Hell I'm not interesting in ANYTHING else right now.

 

[CraigMack]

WHOOOOO.....HOLD ON NOW....

Didn't you recently post about the morals on having a few girls???

 

[Hellboy]

Originally posted by CraigMack
WHOOOOO.....HOLD ON NOW....

Didn't you recently post about the morals on having a few girls???

Um yea... and she was one of them.
But this isn't about morals. I like this chick a lot. If this works out I don't want anyone else.

 

[Recluce]

ok dude...im not seeing the problem here. you met a chick, almost had sex with her, then had sex with her... on and off for 8 hours after which she told you that she doesn't see you as a player anymore. WHERE'S THE PROBLEM?

you've been doing everything correctly man. IMO you are just thinking about it too much.