"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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uh oh...is the 18 year old interested in me?

Tboner

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"Whenever there is a significant age gap involving someone who is considerably young, the scenario raises questions. Yes, young teenage girls are attracted to older men, but it is one thing to think about something as opposed to acting out on it. Yes, it is legal for a man of the mid-twenties to engage in sexual relations with an eighteen year old girl and is not inherently wrong; that so long as a girl is legal and not a relative, things are kosher; but the scenario always raises peripheral issues. Usually with this type of situation something is significantly wrong in terms of mental health of the participants. Usually how things pan out is the girl comes from an abusive or neglectful/abandoned childhood and attaches herself to a guy who is either taking advantage of her or is immature. So, I would say go for it but that to evaluate what’s wrong with either her or yourself and if so that you may want to get that checked out."

Some of these young women who become quickly attached to an older man have been abandoned by their father or are escaping an unpleasant family life. These will usually lead to unhealthy relationships regardless of the age of the man. These women are escaping something and immediately want the perfect family that they never had. I try to screen out these and stay away from them.

However, there are many 18 y.o. women who feel uncomfortable or incompetent in the bedroom and want to learn how to please a man and experience the ultimte pleasure from their bodies. They will frequently go to an older, patient, experienced man for this training. I've seen some of these young women gain so much confidence and change all parts of their life after they've been with me. (get rid of their abusive BF, go to college, move out on their own, stand up to people, become responsible with money, etc.) I've been told a few times that they want to learn bedroom skills for use in the future when they find Mr. Right. I have a 19 y.o. FB in training right now.

There is another group of young women that guess me at 25 to 28 y.o., failing to ask my real age (44). This happened 2 nights ago, so I have a phone number for a 20 y.o. When they come home with me, it's because I make them feel so good about themselves. The next morning, I just give them driver's license and hear them say "WTF, you're older than my dad" while a big smile appears on their face.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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