"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ugly girl pursues YOU: compliment or insult??

Kool4Katz

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I've recently had two pretty nasty girls pursue me. Going out of their way to propose we get together etc. thank God I have some standards and they are even higher than these two freaks.

Howver I'm disturbed by the implications. Is this flattery - these beasts are just shameless and are doing what many others would like to? Is it a compliment?

Or is it an insult?? They think they can get me and that I need to be overtly shown how to "chase" them?? I mean if a poor dude walked into a caddy dealer thinking he could afford such a car it sort of shows the car isn't perceived as a high value item.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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backbreaker

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blow jobs.

girls that are... atheistically challenged, enthusiastically give the best blow jobs. they don't have a choice. you don';t even have to ask if they think they have a chance with you at all they black hole your package.
 

Handsfull

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"nasty girls?"

Have standards, dude. Be polite and decline.

Ugly girls give the best blow jobs? You've still got an ugly girl, sucking your ****. I'll pass.
 

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Kool4Katz said:
I've recently had two pretty nasty girls pursue me. Going out of their way to propose we get together etc. thank God I have some standards and they are even higher than these two freaks.

Howver I'm disturbed by the implications. Is this flattery - these beasts are just shameless and are doing what many others would like to? Is it a compliment?

Or is it an insult?? They think they can get me and that I need to be overtly shown how to "chase" them?? I mean if a poor dude walked into a caddy dealer thinking he could afford such a car it sort of shows the car isn't perceived as a high value item.
Consider it a compliment if you don't fvck them but an insult if you do.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Wildebeest

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ugs have lower self esteem.
you do not insult insecure people, you build them up
 

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ugs are ugly....
so they adjust their behaviour and sexual strategy; they become more slutty to get sex and they try to be less selfish when they perform sex, to retain you as a sexual partner.

you think hot girls need to act slutty and be selfless when they ****? no, they dont need to compensate for their ugliness. So they are seflish and dont act OPENLY slutty in public.They already have a constant and abundant supply of sperm.
 

Wildebeest

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it is flattery but their behaviour isnt a complete reflection of you...they are optimising their own sexual strategy based on their lower genetic quality.

but take it as flattery by all means, they know you have nice genes and they want your sperm
 

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If even the ugly ones avoided you, would that be a compliment or an insult? Think about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LostAndConfused

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It's a compliment, up to a point. It means that the girl recognizes that you have more value than her, and should you guys actually hook up, she'd need to be the one to initiate the meeting (Ie she's a 5, you're a 7).

The limit of this compliment happens when your value gets even higher - at some point, uggos realize that you're so out of her league there's no bother even trying (ie she's a 5, you're a 9).
 

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I was having trouble thinking of a good answer.

I think it's safe to say that if a lower-league person is attracted to a higher-league person, the lower-league person won't make their attraction obvious (they won't flirt, pursue). Which means that if a person is making their attraction obvious to you, they think you are in their league.

From a low-quality person, obvious signs of attraction are always an insult and never a compliment. However, from anybody, unobvious signs of attraction (stares, nervousness) are always a compliment and never an insult.

Now, there is one scenario where obvious signs of attraction from a low-quality person aren't an insult. The low-quality person may be deluded and think they're in a higher league than they really are. But I think this scenario is rare.

This being said, keep in mind that the reason why a low-quality person thinks you are in their league can vary. Remember that your league is defined as a combination of 1.) attributes (looks, intelligence, etc.) and 2.) game (with game being more important than attributes). So, if an ugly/fat girl is making her attraction obvious, that doesn't necessarily mean you have bad attributes (you yourself are ugly/fat). It could just be your game which is down (you are acting beta or whatever).

I noticed that this happens to me a lot. I mean, my attributes are fine but I find I get a lot of chubby girls hitting on me or pursuing me. I realise that it's because I wasn't acting outgoing (I came across as introverted, reserved).
 

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Hott chics complain about fugly dudes chasing them all the time, and then they come on here whining about how girls are bishes.
 
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I take it as a compliment when anyone is attracted to me, regardless of their appearance or whether or not I find them attractive.
 

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The only time I've had ugly/fat girls chasing me is when they're drunk. Even then they're kind of hesitant. Sober ones tend to be really b*tchy towards me, so I guess I'm pretty f*cking sexy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Down Low

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Nor Cal? As in Bay Area? Populated by flotsam and jetson, social rejects, misfits, neurotics, and their spawn. Piss poor selection of women.

Could be the build up to "I'm a lezbian" and "eww you're weird" to try to build up their low self-esteem by tearing down someone normal.

Could be they just do that to every man they run across.

Could be they are friends who are trying to draw you into some automobile insurance scam.

Who knows. You're in control of your behavior -- not them. Just check your cell and "oh I'm late gotta go."
 

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Fat and ugly girls tend to flirt with me a lot for some reason. I know they want me really bad. I rarely see one of them not smiling nor acknowledging me.

I dont feel bad for them because they are even very manipulative. Two of them I know really wants to fvck the jizzle out of me. They have boyfriends and had used them in some way to try to get me jealous. I know I can get laid with them given the right circumstances but I have standards and I'm going to do things the right way.

It's mostly the cute ones that are snobby. Hate them *****es (in a good way that I only want to fvck them). Must keep working out in the gym till I surpass above their expectations.

It's crazy how girl's standards aren't even real. In order to make her feel attraction you must be like... WAY above her instead of people within her same range.
 

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This is kind of a silly question. Just stand in the mirror and look at yourself...

Muscle tone?
Clear skin?
Quality clothing?
Disfigurement? (acne, strange shape to head, etc)

Now look inside:

Outgoing?
Chatty?
Motivated?

If you are majorly lacking in any of these things then you may not be in the big leagues. If you find even one of these things lacking in your persona, then your no hot tamale...

Me? i'm no hot tamale. I just look for a decent rack and i'm happy...
 

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Down Low said:
Nor Cal? As in Bay Area? Populated by flotsam and jetson, social rejects, misfits, neurotics, and their spawn. Piss poor selection of women.
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I completely disagree.

There aren't as many dimeshow hotties as SoCal, granted, but where the hell are you going out in NorCal where you aren't findin any? Maybe it's cause I'm sticking to SF and Santa Cruz but some of the most attractive women I've ever dated/banged were from that area

In fact, if you aren't a stereotypical alpha male, you'd have better look in NorCal than SoCal. The competition for women is more aggressive and fierce down in LA
 

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Leopold said:
It's crazy how girl's standards aren't even real. In order to make her feel attraction you must be like... WAY above her instead of people within her same range.
I have talked about this in a previous post because I have been quite blown away how unrealistic expectations of some are. They really live out the stereotypes in movies.

Frankly I feel ashamed to be a man sometimes, I wake up and go to bed feeling this way. What am I supposed to be sufficient to turn a girl's crank? As for me? Maybe I just want sl*ts. I didn't choose my gender.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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