jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
I was just wondering if anyone here watches it? and if so who is your favorite fighters?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm ordering that tomorrow night.Skel said:If anyone cares here is the upcoming ufc card this saturday
Main Card Bouts:
-Anderson Silva vs. Nathan Marquardt
-Antonio Rodrigo Nogueira vs. Heath Herring
-Tito Ortiz vs. Rashad Evans
-Sean Sherk vs. Hermes Franca
-Kenny Florian vs. Alvin Robinson
Preliminary Bouts:
-Frankie Edgar vs. Mark Bocek
-Chris Lytle vs. Jason Gilliam
-Jorge Gurgel vs. Diego Saraiva
-Stephan Bonnar vs. Mike Nickels
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Skel said:If anyone cares here is the upcoming ufc card this saturday
Main Card Bouts:
-Anderson Silva vs. Nathan Marquardt
-Antonio Rodrigo Nogueira vs. Heath Herring
-Tito Ortiz vs. Rashad Evans
-Sean Sherk vs. Hermes Franca
-Kenny Florian vs. Alvin Robinson
Preliminary Bouts:
-Frankie Edgar vs. Mark Bocek
-Chris Lytle vs. Jason Gilliam
-Jorge Gurgel vs. Diego Saraiva
-Stephan Bonnar vs. Mike Nickels
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It's not acting. I don't know anybody famous, but training partners of mine have fought on at least the undercards of UFC and strikeforce shows. And they are no actors. I have also sold many thousands of tickets in person at amateur events. Not one person has ever complained that a fight was not real. We actually do a lot to conceal the level of violence when it gets ugly; it is supposed to be an all-ages show.goundra said:it's still mostly jusst acting. when guys who caan REALLY kick, etc, go into the ring, it's OVER in a few seconds, and somebody is maimed for life. Fans won't PAY to see that, much, anyway, so it all has to be stretched out for several minutes (most of the time, at least). So it's bs, acting, for themost part.
LOL my friend fought Diego Saraiva down at Wild Bill's Fight Night in Atlanta. He ended up opening his own gym in SC.Skel said:Preliminary Bouts:
-Frankie Edgar vs. Mark Bocek
-Chris Lytle vs. Jason Gilliam
-Jorge Gurgel vs. Diego Saraiva
-Stephan Bonnar vs. Mike Nickels