"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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U only luv 1ce

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I heard my uncle say this 2 my older brother many years ago. Recently this statement 'u only luv 1ce' has been resurfacing in my head. Yeah like so many who discover this site my reason is no different, i had a MAJOR heart break. Anyway blah blah that ws about 11 months Ago. Since then ive been with 2 extraordinary women smart & beautiful. In fact its safe 4 me to that the 1 is even more beautiful then my Ex. Im fine now, but matter Here is that i cant get myself 2 say i luv u back n mean it. Any advice?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DarkShade

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I think it's a philosophical idea, depends on your definition of love I suppose. I've loved several times and been loved back, but it's not because of a lack of love that some of those relationships ended.

I think the idea of 'true love' trumping all other love is the same idea as the 'soulmate' or 'love at first sight' type of romanticism BS we got from the 19th century.
 

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I guess i tend to compare the girls im with now 2 that ex. I dont now maybe am not 100% over her or ill be nomal after a few more months
 
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