"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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u guys ever try the random pickup and -aren't u scard of doin it

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any guys here ever try to pickup girls -imean random girls like girls you see working at starbucks, working at retial stores or jsut girls you see and like -at malls, library, starbucks, grocery store, on the bus.
these girls are random girls you don't now or ever met. jsut casual hello, how ya doin, and then ask for her # and email for possible later contact.


what did u say to em and what did they say back? did it ever work out and u met up later on for coffee, date ..etc.
did it ever work out?

also aren;t you guys scared of picking up girls-i mean u never now when her bf/date is around-possible in the other corner or late coming and later she tells him-ah that guy try to pick me up. ah then you get beaten up or what not. has it ever happen.

i mean u talk and chit chat with a girl u like-random-starbucks , at club, bar pickup and then her bf or guy friend comes in-ahh wow so embarasssing hey. what usually happens ? do they beat u up, tell u to get lost and swear or what.

i was thinkin of picking up this gal ,but was too chicken b/c i thought her bf/date or guy freind might come in later or arrive in later. ah yikes.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i've done it before, i was always hyped up somehow though. last one i remembered i had just got into a nice debate with my friend's gf, and i felt pretty invincible.

otherwise, if i'm not hyped up, it's pretty nerve racing to cold approach
 

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I think of it this way. If she's making out with me, and her boyfriend is in the club, well...he's got a hell of a girlfriend then. :rolleyes:. Never had the problem.

Cold Approaching, I do it too, depends on the mood I'm in, I'll fire right into calling girls sweetheard or hun, and hoping they sync with me.
 

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Where are you going to apply your skills if you don't cold approach?

Now, it's pretty nerve-wracking and my skills are very average when going in cold, but pulling any kind of favorable close after a completely cold approach is like a mental orgasm.

I don't think an encounter of the boyfriend kind would be that bad. Most likely you could just say you're sorry and didn't know she had a boyfriend, and excuse yourself. If it gets physical... break the bastard's nose!

Anyway, I'd say you should approach cold. How else are you gonna get over it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I felt pretty sick (must've been the Vietnamese I had Friday) so I actually stayed in. I know, I know, staying in on St. Paddy's sucks, but I'd rather stay in than puke all over the place after one beer--I could barely keep water down, let alone food or booze.

Sounds like you had a reasonably good time, though.
 

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That sucks! There's always rolling sober?

I had a pretty good time. The Grizz, it's actually pretty hoppin, seeing as we always hit there, lol. Man, I wish I could of taken her home, not only cute, but she was riding me hard. Damn it!
 

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I don't get nervous unless a whole mess of other chics are around,you're really putting her on the spot if you do that.

But yeah I do it all the time at least once every few weeks I try to PU a girl but I stick to the clubs/parties/hookups for my chics.
 

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You see that's the difference I don't go after a chic that's giving me zero signals that's what perverts do.

I give them eye contact first if they don't reciprocate then fawk them.

That's why so many guys get rejected here,you come off awkard to women when you do approaches in public without
"permission" so to speak.

Unless she's absolutley gorgeous and you can't help but talk to her I would wait for a signal.
 

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Post 999? Nice.

Not a nice post however. You do not need any signals to approach. You can come off as just asking a question, and you start talking to this person, and before you know it, she'll be dropping signs all over the place.

If you approach 10 people and get 1 positive, yet I approach 50 and get 5, that's 4 more positive responses then you, which means while you're focused on one target, I'm on 5, which means I have to lessen my attention, and as a bonus, I can do things out of spite on the lesser targets.

And the best part about randoms. You probably won't see them again. All the more reason.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I used to think like that but really it's not the way it looks on paper.

You initiate a conversation with women a--with no signals at all and you get the number fine.

But what happens after?

Usually either it's a fake/disconnected number,she doesn't wanna date,she's married or in a relationship,she doesn't pick up.

One thing is grabbing a chic and trying to convince her to sleep with you and the other is going after woman that is attracted and interested in you to begin with.

I don't waste my time ..unless she's really hot.

That's why I stress working on your image and presentation,you get more attention and looks.
 

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I talk to girls for the EXPERIENCE, not necessarily for future contact. I always hope I can get a number, a date or whathave you, but I'm one of those really social ones that will strike up a conversation at random.

My inner game, solid. I know I'm the man, and that a girl that doesn't like me, is a girl that doesn't deserve me. I have so many good qualities that I know what I'm about.


And really...it's not wasting your time. If I'm in a store, and the cashier is cool, I'm opening them up.

Remember, girls are for enlightenment to an already established life.
 
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