txt my phone 1.30am. reply back now or later?

[tony-montana]

so i was wonderin where this girl was... she was quiet for a while cause she went up to another state to work for a few months. we kept in contact for a couple weeks but it slowly died off (we've been on one date by the way - and she pretty much had a sad cause i didn't hug her or kiss her - she told me in another way) so i'm thinking txt her later on... real later on. don't want her thinking i'm awake or sitting there thinking about her all the time like a desperate man. what you guys think?

 

[smooth guy]

I think you should text her whenever you feel like it and quit over thinking this DJ stuff.

 

[Vulpine]

Or better yet, don't text her back at all.

I swear, "DJ's" and their texty games.

 

[tony-montana]

Or better yet, don't text her back at all.

I swear, "DJ's" and their texty games.

haha, that's not very nice

 

[Vulpine]

Hey, I'll say it again, text/chat/online dating are all just video games for women. They play and play until they get the new attention high score. Whereas men kill monsters, race cars, play football games, women boop*beep*clickety-click for attention.

If she wants to talk to you, have her not play games and talk to you. Simple. If she left you a voicemail message at 01:30, it would be an entirely different scenario.

But as it is, she went home from the bar (or wherever) alone, wanted some attention, and started playing video games. You are just the little Mario jumping around for her amusement.

So, you flip it on her. You don't respond. She's already demonstrated that she was thinking of you. Give her the gift of missing you. Let her wonder. Let her text until her fingers fall off. When she wants to see you, she'll call.

 

[Bonhomme]

If it's someone who you rarely communicate with and it came "out of the blue," it's probably a "drunk text," from a gal who's attracted to you, but has something holding her back, and it's best to get back with her immediately, before her left brain is fully working again.

 

[Vulpine]

it's best to get back with her immediately,

Yeah baby, mash that "send" button to get Mario jumpin'!

He SHOULD have got the text at 10:00 because he was balls-deep in some other chick - so he couldn't be bothered with texty games.

Damn text messages are EXACTLY like passing notes in class.

And, replying to text messages at 01:30 is like you were still sitting in class just waiting for someone to pass you a note. Desperate. Needy. Sorry.

 

[tony-montana]

haha... i don't see the hate for text messages and online chat. i've chat to girls for hours online and text them on the phone. they turned out to be a fuk* still or a girlfriend. that is not true at all man. nothing wrong with texting girls. besides, i've already been out with this girl and she TOLD me she liked me. the only thing i do agree on is replying to a girl at a time like 1.30am. so i'm not going to.

 

[Vulpine]

For hours?

See, this is what you aren't seeing: there are more productive things to do "for hours".

Ask yourself, "would I have still ƒucked those women if I didn't spend hours online or texting?"

Then ask yourself, "what could have I done better with that time?"

If you answered "No" and "nothing", it speaks volumes about your game and your life.

 

[tony-montana]

wtf are you on about man. maybe you aren't seeing what i just said.

"i've chat to girls for hours online and text them on the phone. they turned out to be a fuk* still or a girlfriend."

and a few times the girls were the ones asking to meet me.

 

[Vulpine]

For hours?

See, this is what you aren't seeing: there are more productive things to do "for hours".

Ask yourself, "would I have still ƒucked those women if I didn't spend hours online or texting?"

Then ask yourself, "what could have I done better with that time?"

If you answered "No" and "nothing", it speaks volumes about your game and your life.

Read before replying.

 

[Touchout]

Well I'm sure you already texted back...but next time just don't answer. I've found this raises interest tons for the reason Vulpine is saying.

Trust me I used to be just like you and text all the time, and it really doesn't get you anywhere...those girls that you say still hooked up with you would have done it regardless of the texts or online chats just because they were attracted.

Give it a go next time and see the girl desperately trying to get you to answer, she will send duplicates, then different messages, and then if she likes you enough call...probably all in the matter of about an hour, just about how long it takes to send about 10 txt messages.:rockon:

 

[Bonhomme]

People rarely text me, because I always call instead, unless I really want to reach someone and their voice mail is full. Then I tell them to clean out their voice mail.

I've done the "not replying" thing. And what happened? Nothing. Just didn't hear from them again.

I've "overgamed" myself out of so much easy action (and even relationships) it's ridiculous!

And, replying to text messages at 01:30 is like you were still sitting in class just waiting for someone to pass you a note. Desperate. Needy. Sorry.

Not necessarily. If it's during the week you're probably sleeping or want to be and don't get or acknowledge it anyway.

If you're out or burning the midnight oil (I work for myself, and people know I'm a "night owl,"), just say "I'm at _____, or busy (working on whatever), who is this?"

Remember, I'm talking about "drunk texts" from someone you don't talk with often at all, who's attracted enough to "booty call," but not interested when she's thinking with her normal inhibitions.

If you're regularly in touch with them, whole different story.

There's a difference between "neediness" and "striking while the iron is hot." Learn it.

 

[Vulpine]

I've done the "not replying" thing. And what happened? Nothing. Just didn't hear from them again.

Which is good because you just filtered out an AW with low IL looking to play video games with you.

I tell women flat-out: "I don't play texty games. You can send them all you want, but don't bother to get p¡ssy when I don't respond. If you want to talk, call. If you can't call, call later."

My rules. My hoops. My frame.

 

[tony-montana]

i haven't replied to her for those wondering... the girl and i have talked plenty online before we met... when we did meet the attraction got even higher as she has told me she wanted a hug/kiss (after the meet). i really hate the fact that alot of guys pretend they don't wanna do this or that. there's alot of us who would love to talk to a girl more than they do. its just this stupid game that girls play how .. if we text or chat to them online... or call them same day we get their number we are desperate or something.

why do we have to force ourselves to ignore them and be a jerk? although it has truth to it. the women like a challenge and like it when we are *******s to them and ignore them. i really hate that in women. i wish i could just be myself and do the things i really want to do. you know what i mean?

 

[Vulpine]

Force ourselves to be jerks?

Naw, man, you've got it wrong. I'm too busy to bother with button mashing on and on about idle chit-chat. It's a virtual reality. My realtime life is far too full to bother cultivating a fake one. There's no force to it, there's no jerk, there's only my life. My virtual life detracts from my real life.

Speaking of which, I'm pretty much done with work, so, sayonara. Take what you like and leave the rest.

 

[thefemaleperspective]

If it's someone who you rarely communicate with and it came "out of the blue," it's probably a "drunk text," from a gal who's attracted to you, but has something holding her back, and it's best to get back with her immediately, before her left brain is fully working again.

this is the best advice. from both sides of the coin, this is golden here. lol.

 

[Bonhomme]

Circumstances alter cases, and a woman's sexual desire in general can change like the weather ... which is not such a bad analogy, because it can follow very similar cycles.

I mainly get texts from gals who may be plenty attracted to me, but would not be caught dead with a man of the age they think I am (let alone my real age, which is probably way beyond what they think), unless they're starved for some booty and their inhibitions are down. Then anyone to whom they're attracted is in their sights (remember many women do not know many men to whom they're sufficiently attracted to have sex with). I've come to realize if I want to hit it with them, I have to seize the day. Then it's amazing what a gal could rationalize away after experiencing some mind-blowing sex.