Part 1.) I've been doing some thinking lately and connected a few recent trends when it comes to girls that don't want to date me and how they go about demonstrating this. I wanted to know if the correlations I made have any merit:
-In high school, I was small, skinny, and a pushover. I had little confidence in big social situations (I had no problems talking to people...I'm referring to cliques, parties, etc). Every girl I asked out rejected me. Not only that, but these rejections were very loud, rude and caused a scene. If a girl wasn't ridiculing me, she'd openly say she'd date one of my friends, but not me.
-During my first 2-3 years in college (beginning to noticeably get buff, also gaining confidence), I had a little more success. However, still several rejections. Unlike high school, these rejections did not cause a scene. Rather, the girls flaked on me at the very last second with a bogus excuse or stood me up.
-Over the past 1-1.5 years (I am considered very athletic/buff and have more confidence than at any point before), I have had more dates than in any other span of my life, even though my last real date was back in February. At the same time though, the way I have been turned down has changed again. Now, they just ignore the whole thing. No straight rejections, no flaking, they just quiet up and won't respond to it.
What's my hypothesis? I think girls may be scared/intimidated by me. While I may be muscular and athletic, I'm not mean (in fact, I may be a little too generous). I joke more than I probably should. There are no signs of my snapping at anyone. The differences in ways I've been rejected is interesting though. I could very well be wrong, as this is simply a guess.
Part 2.) The part above is more of an interest piece than a problem. This part I'm about to express is a little concerning. Recently, I've really improved talking to girls. I can make them laugh and smile. They're not particularly shy around me when it comes to talking. If we are in the same class, they'll sit next to me. However, the moment I suggest plans to hang out - or even ask them to a place directly - they stop communication instantly. Some girls dodge responding to the question. Others just end the conversation and I never really hear from them again. Aside from the obvious, this is very frustrating because they seem energetic/very friendly, but the second I make plans, they're out. I don't really understand it. If they're not into being around me, they wouldn't keep chatting and being outgoing in the first place. I've dealt with attention wh*res before and can understand why this would happen with them, but a lot of the girls I know do not appear to be attention who*res. I'm not really sure what to do about this: if we're talking, getting along and she's laughing/smiling, I'm going to suggest hanging out. Why wouldn't I?
Any thoughts on either issue? They are simply things I have picked up on recently.
-In high school, I was small, skinny, and a pushover. I had little confidence in big social situations (I had no problems talking to people...I'm referring to cliques, parties, etc). Every girl I asked out rejected me. Not only that, but these rejections were very loud, rude and caused a scene. If a girl wasn't ridiculing me, she'd openly say she'd date one of my friends, but not me.
-During my first 2-3 years in college (beginning to noticeably get buff, also gaining confidence), I had a little more success. However, still several rejections. Unlike high school, these rejections did not cause a scene. Rather, the girls flaked on me at the very last second with a bogus excuse or stood me up.
-Over the past 1-1.5 years (I am considered very athletic/buff and have more confidence than at any point before), I have had more dates than in any other span of my life, even though my last real date was back in February. At the same time though, the way I have been turned down has changed again. Now, they just ignore the whole thing. No straight rejections, no flaking, they just quiet up and won't respond to it.
What's my hypothesis? I think girls may be scared/intimidated by me. While I may be muscular and athletic, I'm not mean (in fact, I may be a little too generous). I joke more than I probably should. There are no signs of my snapping at anyone. The differences in ways I've been rejected is interesting though. I could very well be wrong, as this is simply a guess.
Part 2.) The part above is more of an interest piece than a problem. This part I'm about to express is a little concerning. Recently, I've really improved talking to girls. I can make them laugh and smile. They're not particularly shy around me when it comes to talking. If we are in the same class, they'll sit next to me. However, the moment I suggest plans to hang out - or even ask them to a place directly - they stop communication instantly. Some girls dodge responding to the question. Others just end the conversation and I never really hear from them again. Aside from the obvious, this is very frustrating because they seem energetic/very friendly, but the second I make plans, they're out. I don't really understand it. If they're not into being around me, they wouldn't keep chatting and being outgoing in the first place. I've dealt with attention wh*res before and can understand why this would happen with them, but a lot of the girls I know do not appear to be attention who*res. I'm not really sure what to do about this: if we're talking, getting along and she's laughing/smiling, I'm going to suggest hanging out. Why wouldn't I?
Any thoughts on either issue? They are simply things I have picked up on recently.
