Back when I was 18, a young man who is finishing high school, I used to dream about a perfect girl. Come to think about, I dreamed about sex with hot girls, not relationships, not girlfriend, but just straight up sex. As most of the virgins in this world, I had this high set of standards, which I applied to every girl who could be a prospect. Every single girl failed my standards test. There was a pretty good number of girls that I decided to let go, I even rejected a threesome, that got me some “yeah right” responses from guys afterwards.
Fast forward two years. I am in college now a good amount of sexual experience under my belt. However, if you check the “stats”, you might notice that the number of girls I’ve been with is not huge. Some guys might boast, “Well, I slept with 30 women, what do you have to say to that?” and I will simply reply, “How many of those women were attractive?” the number then drops down significantly.
It seems now that I have had sex, having it again with a girl who is not up to my standards doesn’t seem fun.
I am a face man, so when I wake up the morning after, I want to see a cute face smiling back at me.
The thing is, I am looking for beautiful women. Notice that I don’t say “perfect”. I get approached and flirted with by cute girls. I get bedroom eyes from girls at the parties, and it is really funny because they think I might not know that I have the green light, where I actually know what she wants me to do…and yet I just smile and keep on having fun. It’s almost sad to see the girls let out a sigh after they come very close to my mouth and I turn away. Damn, reading what I just wrote almost makes me sound like an egoist. But hell, as I said, I want a girl who I am into, so I am willing to pass all the girls who don’t light my fire.
Quality over Quantity is my rule of thumb right now. I will give up 20 average girls for 3 beautiful girls in no time.
On patience.
I’ve been told by a couple of friends recently that I am too aggressive with girls. I thought about that. I had four girls that interested me in my classes. I talked to all four may be four times each. When I asked all four out, I got four rejections. You bet your ass off I was surprised! You know, when I read Pook’s patience post it seemed obvious. Don’t fall in love, don’t hang on a girl from the first time you meet her. However, the ice seems even thinner in real life. The guys I know that are successful with girls seem to take their time TO GET TO KNOW the girl first. These guys would talk to the girl for quite a good amount of time. I once saw my best friend talk to a girl for 4 hours.. I almost killed him when he told me they didn’t even touch year other. However, as me and my friends sum this guy up is: “He shows the girl that he is definitely interested in her sexually, but he is willing to get to know her first, and let her decide when she is ready” It might seem a bit strange to some of the guys here, but trust me, girls are girls. They want to have sex just as much as we do. Don’t think you will be talking for a month before you kiss. Remember my friend who talked to a girl for 4 hours? Well, it happened yesterday. Today the same girl invited him over to her place to enjoy a dinner she just cooked for him… and he didn’t come back till next morning. See, I used to wonder “Why do I seem to pick up so many sluts?” I think I found the reason. I didn’t want to talk to the girls I met. I wanted to have sex. I would talk to a girl for a bit, and then make my move. Most of the time it was just a one night thing. No wonder the same girl goes out and has sex with another guy a week later, she barely knew you so she doesn’t think you guys are trying to establish a relationship. I still bust my friend’s balls for talking too much to girls, but it seems like I could learn a thing or two. Next time I meet a cutie, I think ill get to know her better first, and not rush it just for some quick action.
Let her come to you, instead of chasing her away.
Fast forward two years. I am in college now a good amount of sexual experience under my belt. However, if you check the “stats”, you might notice that the number of girls I’ve been with is not huge. Some guys might boast, “Well, I slept with 30 women, what do you have to say to that?” and I will simply reply, “How many of those women were attractive?” the number then drops down significantly.
It seems now that I have had sex, having it again with a girl who is not up to my standards doesn’t seem fun.
I am a face man, so when I wake up the morning after, I want to see a cute face smiling back at me.
The thing is, I am looking for beautiful women. Notice that I don’t say “perfect”. I get approached and flirted with by cute girls. I get bedroom eyes from girls at the parties, and it is really funny because they think I might not know that I have the green light, where I actually know what she wants me to do…and yet I just smile and keep on having fun. It’s almost sad to see the girls let out a sigh after they come very close to my mouth and I turn away. Damn, reading what I just wrote almost makes me sound like an egoist. But hell, as I said, I want a girl who I am into, so I am willing to pass all the girls who don’t light my fire.
Quality over Quantity is my rule of thumb right now. I will give up 20 average girls for 3 beautiful girls in no time.
On patience.
I’ve been told by a couple of friends recently that I am too aggressive with girls. I thought about that. I had four girls that interested me in my classes. I talked to all four may be four times each. When I asked all four out, I got four rejections. You bet your ass off I was surprised! You know, when I read Pook’s patience post it seemed obvious. Don’t fall in love, don’t hang on a girl from the first time you meet her. However, the ice seems even thinner in real life. The guys I know that are successful with girls seem to take their time TO GET TO KNOW the girl first. These guys would talk to the girl for quite a good amount of time. I once saw my best friend talk to a girl for 4 hours.. I almost killed him when he told me they didn’t even touch year other. However, as me and my friends sum this guy up is: “He shows the girl that he is definitely interested in her sexually, but he is willing to get to know her first, and let her decide when she is ready” It might seem a bit strange to some of the guys here, but trust me, girls are girls. They want to have sex just as much as we do. Don’t think you will be talking for a month before you kiss. Remember my friend who talked to a girl for 4 hours? Well, it happened yesterday. Today the same girl invited him over to her place to enjoy a dinner she just cooked for him… and he didn’t come back till next morning. See, I used to wonder “Why do I seem to pick up so many sluts?” I think I found the reason. I didn’t want to talk to the girls I met. I wanted to have sex. I would talk to a girl for a bit, and then make my move. Most of the time it was just a one night thing. No wonder the same girl goes out and has sex with another guy a week later, she barely knew you so she doesn’t think you guys are trying to establish a relationship. I still bust my friend’s balls for talking too much to girls, but it seems like I could learn a thing or two. Next time I meet a cutie, I think ill get to know her better first, and not rush it just for some quick action.
Let her come to you, instead of chasing her away.
