"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Two things: A Hook-Up and a Question

Ice882

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1. Ok, so today I hooked up for the first time with one of my plates. About 10 minutes under a tree next to the soccer field, no big deal. Couldn't escalate cuz I had to get to class. I think I did a really good job of escalating to the makeout, though.

She was holding my phone and looking at it, and as she was looking at it I slid around in front of her and put my hands on her sides. When she was done she put it into my shirt pocket and buttoned it closed. I didn't want my phone there so I told her, "no, put it in my pocket" and looked down to the left front pocket of my jeans. She laughed and said okay. She had to unbutton my shirt pocket to get at my phone again, at which point I said "button for button" and unbuttoned her sweater. We spent a while looking at her shirt, because it had a lot of different funny phrases and images. I slowly got closer and closer as we were laughing, and then she looked away for a second and BAM looked back and we were making out. It was really abrupt hahaha. So that's that

2. Now, this question pertains to one of my other plates:

I'm very interested in her, and I told her we were going on a date back on monday. It was unclear at the time whether or not she agreed, because I first suggested saturday and then she said she had an away soccer game up in Maine (true) so I shifted to friday, and I didn't get a clear answer before we had to part because I had to run to class.

Today, she texts me saying "sry I can't make it friday. I promised (other girl) I would go to her house like 2 weeks ago :s "

I texted her back a while later saying, "don't worry about it. we'll totes reschedule." (totes is a running joke...for those who don't know totes = totally).

So what do you guys make of that? I have no way of verifying her claim without straight up asking the other girl, which would come off as needy/weird/jealous. Should I count this as a strike? This girl has been very receptive to me since I started actually getting to know her (I "knew" her but not really).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ice882

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Bump. Thoughts on part 2, please?
 

NewGuy72

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That definitely counts as a strike. Ask again, if she cancels again then it game over for her.
 
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