"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Two plates might meet tomorrow.. wth do i do

jay07

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Okay so ive been talking to these two girls lately

Girl 1: Very clingy despite not having sex yet, obviously wants a relationship when its not what i want. I've even told her this, but it seems like shes still trying. So i invite her to my buddies birthday party tomorrow and my plan was to chill with her and lay off the flirting so she gets the hint, so far shes confirmed going. She meets girl number 2 last weekend at a party (met girl 2 here actually) and when girl 2 suggested sleeping with her friend with me and my buddy, she freaks out and starts crying. The talk the next morning was when i broke it to her im not looking for a relationship, she said she understood and was embarassed but i know shes still trying. Personality is amazing but im just not that attracted to her, which i think is mainly because she made it to easy for me, no chase whatsoever.

Girl 2: Met her at the party. Slept in living room with her me and her b/sd for an hour before she left, she gets my number from someone and starts texting me. We start hanging out and im more interested in her, but my buddy invites her and her friend up to the bar tomo. despite me telling them they can not come, but i think they think i was joking. Personality is kind of b*tchy and stuck up but shes hott as hell.

Some may ask why this is a problem. Because i hate breaking girls hearts. I told girl 1 what it was, and my plan was to hang out with her and all our firends as just friends, but shes sending me all these sexts and cleavage photos. She did not get the hint. I tried passing my boy on to her and he tried but she is still all into me. Shes a real cool chick and awesome to hang with but if girl 2 shows up im afraid shes gonna cry again and my nights gonna be ruined.


Any advice on how to deal with this. Yea im a pvssy if thats what you need to tell me. If i could fuse girl 1 personality with girl 2 looks id wife her up, but unfortunately im just an idiot.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Uncharted

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OK so here's the problem. You care how women feel.

I would say make SURE that they both see each other. Then flirt with both of them. And flirt with other HBs there too! Also take a break and talk to some of your guy friends too. Make them both see that you are valuable and they will both be trying to get your attention.

If that one chick flips out and start crying, do you really want to be around her anyway? She's sounds like a wacko.
 

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This problem is not really a "problem" in my opinion. You are making it a problem. Just bang the hot girl if that's what you want.

You told the other girl where you stand and if she isn't hot enough to f*ck I don't know why you're wasting your time "hanging out" with her. Sounds like attention wh0ring on your part. You get an ego boost from the Girl 1 so you keep her around just for that. Right?

What you probably don't even realize is that you actually like Girl 1. She is seducing your ass and you don't even realize it. I can already predict how this will play out... Girl 1 will eventually get fed up chasing you and boosting your ego and she'll drop you to chase some other dude. Then you will freak out, get jealous and chase after her like a faggot.

Girls who don't make you "chase them" can be the most dangerous. They make everything so easy and you think you have them. Then they go cold on you and you're like WTF?
 

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I agree 200% with PlayHer Man.

The party girl is clearly not relationship material and you probably just want her to run through your system before you both get bored.

Girl 1 might be a wacko for holding you in such a high opinion, but she will probably turn you into her ***** if all you enjoy is a 'good challenge' VS 'someone supportive/loyal'. Think about what you want, right now your playing too much to scarcity rules. Girl 2 is in less supply than Girl 1 therefore I like her. Oh yeah, if its all about pvssy.. who do you think is going to more willing to experiment in bed to prove their value if you keep her? Hint: Not Girl 2.

Your attraction levels are completely based on availability from what ive read so far, its understandable but you should be aware of it if your spinning plates just for attention.

Hope that helps dude.
 
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