Two instant dates & some recent approaches

[crowolf]

Last week I got an instant date from cold approach. Met her in the mall, bounced to the coffee there, then we later parted ways a couple stops ahead in the metro.

Good flirt, deep eye contact, man/woman frame, sexual tension. Overall a great seductive interaction. Let's see what will happen on our next date.

At the end I almost convinced her to invite me over to cook dinner for me. But it was indeed too early for that, as we have just met an hour ago, so it didn't happen. Maybe I could have achieved this with a better strategy but I didn't want to go that far (into tricks and schemes, or screwing the whole thing with too much pulling).

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Today I did a total of 6 approaches. First one I didn't maintain for too long, as it turned out I didn't really fancy her, and at one point she felt awkward/uncomfortable. Second one had a boyfriend, but told me that she appreciated and respected my approach & directness. Third one was too occupied walking to her job, that she didn't even stop to talk. I walked with her for 2 minutes but at one point she decided to get rid of me. Not big of a loss anyway. Forth one gave me a fake number. Fifth one had bambi eyes and perhaps a feral walk but was unfortunately taken. Since my approach was direct and everything about it signals that I am comfortable being sexual and dominant (stopping her on the street to tell her I find her attractive and that I stopped her to meet her) at one point she told me "I am not one of those girls". Whatever that means. She probably felt that I am looking for "some fun". I could stay longer in this interaction but I respect that she has a boyfriend, so I let her go.

The last meeting of tonight ended as another instant date. Maybe for 2+ hours. I met her near the main street, then we walked towards the place that she wanted to check out. It was closed. So I bounced her to the nearby coffee/bar. It was cozy, and we had a glass of wine. Sat next to each other and talked a lot about all subjects (mostly platonic but whenever I could, I sprinkled some teases). I touched her hair, hand, arm. She laughed, showed some IOIs. We didn't kiss though. She was a bit distant, and she doesn't really turn me on for some reason.

I wouldn't say that the first woman was more attractive, but she was definitely more "sexy". And turned me on a lot. Maybe it has to do with my sleep, too. This girl is too innocent. But not in the attractive way. It's like she has no game. Not that I want to play games, but how can I explain it otherwise. Maybe there needs to be some friction for attraction to happen. Or maybe I am burned out chasing red flag women, and now this decent one doesn't affect me.

Anyway, here the ending is similar - we go because its about midnight, and I have to catch transport to get home. I ask her if she lives nearby and alone. Yes, and yes. I ask her what food she has. She has some basic stuff, and eggs. Okay, you can cook me eggs. Then she is spiked and a bit on the fence about this. I sense through her body language that she is a bit uncomfortable (that's normal, we met 2 hours ago, and she is not a wild one). So I was there pondering what to do - should I invite myself more boldly to her place, or catch my metro. I decided to go home. Maybe if she turned me on I would have pushed it further. Or maybe I should have went at her place, and perhaps there things could have turned interesting...

I have her number but I don't know if it's worth it to meet again. She sounds like WM but even if that's the case, If I am not feeling it, what can I do?

 

[Clockwerk50]

When I moved to Canada at 19, most of the people I hung out with were immigrants waiting for their hearings. We smoked weed, drank, went clubbing, and eventually people started pairing off. One thing I noticed was that the guys getting laid almost always had their own place, parents who weren't home, or a car. They simply had somewhere to go. I remember one of my friends telling me when I was still carless, "You need to get a car if you want to start getting some *****." For example, one of my friends would take girls to the beach or parks even when it was freezing cold and snowy, or they would just use their car.

A couple of years later, I got a job as a roofer and bought my first car. I ended up in a situationship with a waitress/bartender from one of the Latin clubs I used to frequent, but logistics were still a nightmare because we both lived with our parents. We only had sex when one of our families happened to be away. After that ended, I started looking for women who had their own place because I knew I wasn't going to be living on my own anytime soon. I ended up dating a teacher who owned her own house. We hooked up at the club the night we met, went on a mini-golf date the following week, and after mini golf she invited me over to her place for dinner. For reference I was 24, she was 29.

My point is that I think you're putting too much weight on what you could've said or done differently. Sometimes it's just logistics. You either need a car, your own place, her own place, or the stars to align. Maybe this girl's place just wasn't an option that night, or maybe she's the type who only brings boyfriends back to her place. There are a hundred reasons that have nothing to do with your game. I don't think two hours was enough either to build trust with someone who seems a bit more reserved or someone you just met off the street.

PS: I would also entertain the girl you are not attracted to, even if it's hard to do. Sometimes you need to gain experience by ****ing ugly chicks lol.