two girls and one me...questioning my morals..

[Ntwadumela]

Okay, so i recently started talking to this girl i met at a drive through. shes 18. we've been talkin for about three weeks. and went out a couple times. all we've done is kissed though. not even makin out. she's kinda shy sexually. but she's really into me, i can tell.

Then i got another number from a customer at my work, who i met once before about a week ago. shes 18 too. haven't really talked to her much but i know she was into me too. if i didn't ask for her number she woulda given it to me.

Here's my problem. Now im pretty sure the first girl wants to be my girlfriend. shes always askin if im talkin to other girls and stuff like that. i do tell her no. im not sure what this second girl is after. but they both are hot, and i want em both. i haven't really let anyone on. the first girl knows i dont have a lot of free time because of college and work, and knows it would be hard for me to get in a real relationship just due to free time. Me, i really dont need a girlfriend. i mean, i just dont got the time and i got too much stuff im tryin to do with myself to be worryin bout someones elses feelings all the time. but i wouldn't mind a girlfriend either. mostly because ive never had one my whole life,(i dont know, just havent) and it might not be half bad. plus, its a whole lot easier that having to work for sex. once your in, your in, right?

So what are your guys opinions? I really do wanna just talk to both girls and have em both, but im not the kind of guy who likes hurtin people, and would feel bad if i got caught and hurt one of em. but at the same time, im only 19, doin my own thing, and have the i dont give a f*ck attitude. and i dont got the patience to be playin boyfriend to a trippy spoiled 18 year old. (not sayin they are, i just know a lot of girls that age are still hella immature) so what would all you DJs do in this situation. not what you think is right or cool, just what you yourself would do?

And also, can a relationship be pretty good at 19? One big reason ive never had a gf if cause i seen lot of my buddies and family members get f*cked over by girls, or see them change into whiny p*ssies who put their girls up number one in their lives. that aint me. what do you guys think bout a girlfriend? how many of you would be happier with a girl of your own, and how many of you like the lone wolf status, that no girl can tame you?

oh yeah, thanks sosuave, its better to have probs like this then be askin you guys "Im just too shy to talk to girls...whats wrong with me guys"

 

[Heart Break Kid]

Hey, glad you got past the approaching problem!

Anyhow, I don't know why that problem would arise.. I'd never consider that a moral dilemma but then again we have different friends, parents, ect. You've stated that you don't really want a gf at this time so I think you anwsered the question. Problem is you don't want to hurt them. Perhaps you should've dropped a SOI or told them exactly what you're looking for. I tell girls that I am polyamorous (poly meaning multiple and amour meaning love) and if I do it that way, explaining what it is they don't seem to mind (one thought it was a disorder actually and she agreed to let me date whoever! lmao!), however I don't know if it's too late to do that for you.

I'd say, concentrate on yourself. You don't want to make them sad, but stop worrying that much. They already have someone taking care of themselves... them. Wouldn't it be better to take care of yourself? You have needs and desires that you must consider. Another alternative is you could date both without them being girlfriends.. I find unless they're clingy it's easy to date two at once.

Just my two cents...

 

[MightyMate]

Id sarge and try to have sex with both.