"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Two dates on the same day???? Good idea or not??

Incubus

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Ok, so I had planned to meet up for lunch with this girl who I met on facebook, a while ago but never actually met her in person. Let's call her girl B. She IM'd me this week and I thought about how we had never met so asked her to lunch (because she seemed reluctant about a formal date due to getting screw over by guys). Anyway, she seems pretty interested, at least in meeting up. Looks, I'd say about a 7, though her pictures on facebook make her seem like she might be taller than me lol (I'm 5'9).

Anyway, last night one of my best friends and his gf came over to watch a movie. She brought with her a friend of hers from her sorority. Watched Super Bad and just chilled. Nothing big happened, but after her friend, girl A, left, she smacked me (playfully) and told me she thought I was really cute, and that I should have talked more. I was like wtf because we were actually trying to watch the movie and I felt it would have been rude to talk too much (not like i didn't talk at all). Anyway, I talked to girl A today and we're going out to dinner on tuesday.

Yes, tuesday, the same day I'm supposed to have lunch with girl B. Now, as far as I know about girl B, I'm pretty sure girl A is much more attractive, and I've actually met her in person.

So, should I go on both dates? lol...maybe use girl B date as a warm-up or practice date? Or should I cancel with girl B since I'm not all that interested in her. I mean, two dates in the same day would be stressful, not to mention I have two finals on wednesday haha.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alphamale1821

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why are you asking us what you should do. The more practice the better. If you can handle it then go for it. We don't know how you handle your stress, but why not go on both dates. Also i wouldn't cancel on Date B in case girl A flakes. You never know, play the game smart. You have options.
 

Rashad

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i think, if anything, double-booking will make you mentally more confident knowing you have another option..A or B lol.
 

ready123

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don't fvck up your finals. know your priorities man
 

PlaysToWin

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Agree your finals are all important. Focus on them.

But IF you are not worried about your finals... then definitely try to handle the 2 dates on the one day. It keeps you from being too desperate for either to succeed, which will in turn make you feel more in demand and more at ease. They will probably pick up this vibe and will be more attracted to you try harder to please you. Being less available and more in demand is a good thing. Give them both a shot though. Even the HB7 might turn out to be a great girl.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alittude

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Yeah do the dates man it's a good experience to have haha and yeah then you create two options in the future instead of just 1.
 

Incubus

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Thanks for the responses guys. As far as options go, I'm not concerned...I have more besides those two girls.

But yea I think I'm going to call off the lunch date. Even though I've been studied plenty, I don't want to get too unfocused. I'll just study tuesday all day then take a break from studying at night.
 
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