"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Two and a Half Men for AFCs
- Thread starter amoka
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
The_Next_Big_Thing
Don Juan
No, Charlie is an AFC. A big AFC because he went out with his girlfriend, broke up with her because she was trying to change him, and then gets back together with her. She wanted to father the baby. They were then about to get married.amoka said:
As Player_Supreme would say, What the fawk?!? The show used to be the most awesome show on the Earth with the AFC Brother and then Charlie the player, but the shows producers decided he needed a love interest. They f'ed him all up.
The_Next_Big_Thing
thesynergist
Don Juan
Yep. Then again I can only think of about a gazillion and one things that are more constructive, entertaining, enlightening, and challenging than TV. Guess it's not SO bad...Rollo Tomassi said:
Cesare Cardinali
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
diplomatic_lies
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Yes, but TV is good for relaxation. If we all did constructive, enlightening, and challenging things 24/7, we'd die of stress at the age of 30.thesynergist said:
Its nice to be able to put up your feet once in a while, and just stare blankly at something.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
brucevangeorge
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Its also nice how the radiating glow of the TV sucks the life out of you and turns you into a couch potato waiting for next season's lineup.diplomatic_lies said:
diplomatic_lies
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Kind of like the computer, huh? The irony of it all.brucevangeorge said:
dannowillbookem
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hahaha. TOUCHE!diplomatic_lies said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
avrilishot
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DUMBASS.
Anyways the show is good.