Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Twisted Sisterhood-- by Kelly Valen

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Saw this article online about Kelly Valen [kellyvalen.com] and her book Twisted Sisterhood. It's all about how women backstab and manipulate each other, nothing new! and she uses about 3,000 replies to her questionaire.

Many of these women find that their male friends are far more trustworthy and honest than their supposed girlfriends, and I know there are lots of women who have NO womenfriends at all.

This kind of puts the idea of Intellectual *****dom and being an Emotional Tampon in a different light. They don't have anyone else to turn to.
Our POV here is that this is something to avoid like the Plague. An invitation into a woman's close personal life is NOT an invitation into her panties. Either she wants us as sexual male partners, or she should go to her girlfriends, there's nothing in between.
That's just wrong.

"What we have he-ah is a failyah to communicate."
If women clearly understand in advance that approaching men for emotional support isn't the same as approaching women, we can make this a positive thing. Lay out groundrules where we do/don't have the option to date. Let us know what they intend to do with the support we offer.
Remember, these women are coming to us because they are genuinely afraid of their friends' treachery!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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