"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Twisted Sisterhood-- by Kelly Valen

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Saw this article online about Kelly Valen [kellyvalen.com] and her book Twisted Sisterhood. It's all about how women backstab and manipulate each other, nothing new! and she uses about 3,000 replies to her questionaire.

Many of these women find that their male friends are far more trustworthy and honest than their supposed girlfriends, and I know there are lots of women who have NO womenfriends at all.

This kind of puts the idea of Intellectual *****dom and being an Emotional Tampon in a different light. They don't have anyone else to turn to.
Our POV here is that this is something to avoid like the Plague. An invitation into a woman's close personal life is NOT an invitation into her panties. Either she wants us as sexual male partners, or she should go to her girlfriends, there's nothing in between.
That's just wrong.

"What we have he-ah is a failyah to communicate."
If women clearly understand in advance that approaching men for emotional support isn't the same as approaching women, we can make this a positive thing. Lay out groundrules where we do/don't have the option to date. Let us know what they intend to do with the support we offer.
Remember, these women are coming to us because they are genuinely afraid of their friends' treachery!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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