"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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May God forgive me, but I've seen the first two Twilight movies. They've been on cable TV, so I watched them out of curiousity. I mean I kind of put them on in the background while I did bills and stuff, but whatever.

Anyway, a couple of things stood out to me, as relating to discussions we've had here. I'm aware that a female writes these books, so we may be able to see something from them into their world:

First off, Bella (the young heroine) has a lover (Edward the vampire). She also has a good friend (Jacob the werewolf). Notice this:
At one point Jacob proclaims his love for her. She LJBFs him.
Jacob says "Do you want me to stop trying?". She says NO.
Now mind you, this was at a time that Edward had left her, but it still reveals the lie about girls and their "male friends".

Either she is hoping to hook up with him at some point in the future, or she is just using him as an ego boost. Even though she can't or won't give him what he wants.


Secondly, and this is a bit darker, both of these guys are "monsters".
Edward constantly craves her blood and she is always in danger of him ripping open her jugular and feeding.

Jacob has a hair trigger temper because of his werewolf state. We are shown another, older werewolf with a mortal bride. Her face is permanently scarred from where he clawed her in a fit of rage.

I'm not sure what this is all about. Do girls crave danger? Do they want guys who might abuse them? Is it just about dominance, that they want guys who are "supernaturally" more powerful than them? All of the above?
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Why Twilight is Popular

This is pretty much all you need to know about Twilight.
That pretty much nails it.

I was thinking much the same thing. That Bella girl is about as interesting as a frigging brick. She has no personality whatsoever. You keep wondering "why are these guys so interested in this chick?". The SoSuave answer would probably be these guys have oneitis because of their insecurities (they probably consider themselves misfits). They are attracted to the first girl who doesn't run from them.

But as the video notes, the real answer is that Bella has no personality because the girls watching are supposed to imagine her as themselves.
I haven't read any of the Twilight series so it was a revelation that there is never a description of how she looks in the books.
 

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When did vampires inter-breed with Keanu Reeves anyway?

They used to be creepy old guys who ran around biting girls' necks and yelling, "blah!". When did they become stylish super-ninjas?
 

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Wow, this is by far the best explanation of why Twilight is so popular.
Man having oneitis over an empty shell woman...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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