"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm in my forties and recently got the number to a twenty-two year old. I've never gone this far down the age ladder before. I've usually dated women between five and ten years younger.
What is this uneasy feeling I have? Why am I hesitant? She's nice looking.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Onlyliveonce said:
I'm in my forties and recently got the number to a twenty-two year old. I've never gone this far down the age ladder before. I've usually dated women between five and ten years younger.
What is this uneasy feeling I have? Why am I hesitant? She's nice looking.
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First of all, you only got her number. There is a high likelihood that unless you have developed solid rapport already, she will most likely flake. So, don't get too ahead of yourself. And if she does flake, don't take it personally. That is what girls do.

Second, if things do go according to plan, I suggest that you not worry about it, and actually live the nickname you gave yourself on this board.
 
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samspade said:
It's only your ego worrying about whether others will scoff and shame you for dating someone half your age. IGNORE IT!

Look, we live in an age where gays are pushing for the right to marry, but people still cast stones at someone who wants to date another grown, legal adult of the opposite sex, just because she's of a younger age. Of course, these same people see no problem with cougars picking up little Ashton Kutchers.

This "societal norm" is misinformed, and based on the following: 1. May-December relationships are unusual. 2. Older females resent having a guy their age "taken" by a younger babe. 3. Average, frustrated men of all ages resent a guy who can date anyone he pleases. People also will tell you that you're "supposed" to be settling down already. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Have fun with it and keep in mind that she's young (read: probably immature).
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great post but what do you mean about May/Dec????
 
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ok thanks, but I cannot see the link. How did that term originate?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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