Turning to the DJ Forum for help!

[gray_fox_9]

So heres my situation. There was this girl that I had one-itis for
pretty bad. Basically told the girl I liked her and wanted to be with her, blah blah. She told me the usual," I don't want a boyfriend right now and I just want to be friends with all the guys in the group so it doesn't complicate anything." Later I figured out that she is just an AW. So she leaves for two months and right before she comes back she says she needs to talk to me. Turns out for the last two months she was seeing one of my so-called "friends" behind my back and now they were dating. And another one of my best friends knew and didn't tell me. So I cut her off for two months straight. No contact at all. She would try to contact me to meet up but I would ignore it. So finally I gave in and met up with her. Told her she could be back in my life but it would never be like it was because she fvcked things up with our friendship and I couldn't trust her anymore. So now any time I hang out with my friends she is there with my friend she is dating and I have to watch them be all lovey-dovey and that kinda crap. So basically it brings me down even though I try to have a good time. So this brings me to my question. How should I deal with this situation? I try to just ignore her when we are out but then my friends ask me why I am so mean to her and etc. And I really don't think she deserves to be friends with me again after she took advantage of it the first time. So I'm turning to the forum for some suggestions. Any help would be greatly appreciated....

 

[t00dumb]

i think you really killed it when you told the girl you liked her and want to be with her. a dj will never tell a girl that he likes her even if it's killing him. and i assume that you're only digging that girl also. in order to get rid of the feelings aroung her is to look somewhere else! there are many women you can meet and put your mind elsewhere. i dont think you should be angry at her when she blew you off by saying that she is not ready for a relationship and just want to hang out with the guys. it's more of a subtle way of letting you know that she's not interested. as for me, i've been in that particular situation a year ago and yes it sucks real hard. this one girl i had oneitis told me she would never go for him blah blah blah. next thing you know she's dating him and it was right in front of my face because i chose not to believe it. i was definitely a AFC back then. i learned a lot and you should too. don't focus on your dream girl, focus on yourself and be the man you should be by getting what you want and taking life by the balls. hope this helps

 

[Kaine]

She told me the usual," I don't want a boyfriend right now

******** for I'm not attracted to YOU or I don't want to be with YOU.

Also see "I'm not ready for a relationship right now"

Also see "I'm not sure what I want"

Also see "I don't want to lose you as a friend"

 

[*29*]

What t00dumb said.

Get to know more women. I'm sure you'll find another one better than the previous. But this time, show the girl you like her instead of telling her.

I don't mean buying flowers and candy.
You can't buy "love".