Turning forty years old

[Mazer]

I am turning forty years old tomorrow and I am not sure how I feel about it. I opened up my Tinder account and it said 40 years old and not going to lie, it bothered me a little bit. Lol.

I have never been married nor do I have any kids. I have always had a bit of the "Peter Pan" syndrome, never wanted to grow up. I enjoy hanging out with people who are younger than me. I still enjoy going out to nice bars/lounges while all of my married friends go to dinner and rush home. How has turning forty been for you? Do you find it makes any difference when it comes to dating?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I am turning forty years old tomorrow and I am not sure how I feel about it. I opened up my Tinder account and it said 40 years old and not going to lie, it bothered me a little bit. Lol.

I have never been married nor do I have any kids. I have always had a bit of the "Peter Pan" syndrome, never wanted to grow up. I enjoy hanging out with people who are younger than me. I still enjoy going out to nice bars/lounges while all of my married friends go to dinner and rush home. How has turning forty been for you? Do you find it makes any difference when it comes to dating?

You can't do it like a 25 years old though, because you'll be the "old" guy in the club. Trust me this has been done. I think it's best looking back to have a strong core at your age group or within 5 years. Your attractive enough to date outside the range and you have several strong elements in SMV. You also have to be attractive to their eyes and senses too, so your not just used for $$$ and resources. You want them using you for your D1CK and fun.

 

[zekko]

How has turning forty been for you? Do you find it makes any difference when it comes to dating?

From a dating/SMV standpoint, I hardly noticed any difference in my 40s from my 30s. I'd say my value went up a bit, if anything.
I didn't really any sort of age effect until I was about in my mid 50s. Might be different for others.

 

[Spaz]

You get more girls when u r in your 40's as compared to ur 30's.

For me, base on number of lays, my teens was where I had the most lays. Driven by hormones. 20's it's basically driven by experimentations. 30's tended to slow down, mostly LTR's. 40's I'm back to my experimentation lol.

At 40 you have the mojo and also sophistication of a man to easily seduce any women.

Just keep fit and keep enjoying your life.

 

[guru1000]

I think it was Rollo that proffered that a man's SMV peaks at 38 yo. This depends on three major factors: (1) how well a man takes care and has taken care of his physicality; (2) the level of social acuity ("game") he has developed; and (3) and the level of overall progress in his life.

I can unequivocally state to you all that any man who does well in the three aspects above will attract more and hotter women in their 20s and 30s while in the man's 40s.

As to a man's 50s, I cannot speak from experience, but when I get there, I'm definitely up for the challenge.

 

[RangerMIke]

From a dating/SMV standpoint, I hardly noticed any difference in my 40s from my 30s. I'd say my value went up a bit, if anything.
I didn't really any sort of age effect until I was about in my mid 50s. Might be different for others.

I agree. Nothing really changed from me to 30s to 40s.

When I turned 50 last year, things really starting to change. But I think it is mostly me starting to feel really uncomfortable hitting on younger women. Now I'm just going after chicks in their late 30s early 40s... I feel a lot more comfortable doing this. I'm pretty sure it is in my head, but one thing I learned is that younger women in their 20s will give me high indicators of interest mostly because they feel a lot more comfortable with older men that they do not think are interested in anything but friendship.

They will flirt with you because they do not think it's serious. Then you try to make a date, and they get this look of SHOCK on their faces.... This did not happen to me until the last 3 years. I can still close with 20 year olds, but I have to go through a higher number of attempts then I did when I was 45.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I think it was Rollo that proffered that a man's SMV peaks at 38 yo.

For men, it’s 32, give or take a couple. The reason why many say it gets better is because they started improving the 3 qualities you mentioned at a much later stage in life, usually AFTER college when they realize they suck with women. That means that by the time he’s 40, he’s had around 15 years of experience developing those traits. But if you’ve been striving for excellence in all those since you hit puberty, you now have those 15 years of experience in your late twenties, early thirties. Plus, you have something that older guys don’t have: youth.

It only gets better in your 40s in the sense that a man sucked much worse prior. Everything else is just an excuse for being less prior and a defense mechanism for feeling old.

 

[The Duke]

How has turning forty been for you? Do you find it makes any difference when it comes to dating?

I don't have to work as hard to get girls these days. More approach me than ever before. I also don't make the effort to go after girls like I used to. I need more reason to get excited and take one seriously as most are a waste of time.

I've also noticed that there aren't as many attractive females in my age group as their was when I was in my early 30's. Women as a whole really decline physically as they age.

I'm in the top 15% of men in all categories that matter to women and that's a good feeling. I never felt that way in my 30's but I'm more likely to go without than ever before if need be and I'm ok with that. Once you earn your "stripes", some of the challenge that motivates you goes away. Some of the thrill is gone for me, but I do appreciate what I accomplished and all of the women I've been with. Most men never get to have those experiences.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

When I went from 40 to 41, it was like someone flipped a switch on bumble/tinder and I stopped getting matches. I'm ok with that because I need to get off OLD and learn to approach better.

Friends have kids and focus on them and their wives. I too find I hang out with a younger crowd. Nothing wrong with that.

I've always had more hobbies than time, but I chose them based on my interests alone. Now I'm selecting hobbies that I know will attract the kind of people I want to become friends with or date as the primary reason. Secondary reason is that it has to be something I'll also enjoy. So far so good. You can work backwards to find it by identifying the kind of people you want to surround yourself with and then ask yourself what kinds of activities people like that would be into.

The age itself doesn't really matter (except in OLD where it's a primary factor) - it's how you look, act and feel.

 

[Who Dares Win]

No offence to anyone but sometime this forum reminds of a girly forum where expired women talk about how they are more in charge now and how they feel more confident and empowered despite hitting the wall.

Sincere credit to the guys that manage to score 20yrs old girls in their 40s, personally I only see them showing pity over old men trying to pick them up unless their status is high as fvck.

The last thing you wanna be in the 35+ yrs old guy with a receiding hairline trying to pick up girls while they are out with their peers.

About OLD, good luck matching a 25- yrs old girl if you are above 35...in those cases social circle game or familiarity at work is almost necessary.

Not saying its not possible but you need a SMV high as fvck to make up for the age....something like napoleon or the guy who stole the jewels of the nile, maybe indiana jones.

 

[skinnyguy]

I’m 35 and I still love going to bars and clubs. Love meeting new women.

My relationships have never lasted more than six months cause I get sick of them. Being 40 means you’re wiser and you have more money. Use it to your advantage!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Nothing at all wrong with turning 40. Experience is experience. You might not get that six pack abs so easily but that’s about it. Everything else is negligible. Experience is experience.

6 pack abs are still attainable, and an older man has more sense of responsibility and carrying things through. So if you want 6 pack abs, get rid of excuses and put together a program to get it done.

There’s a saying in Spanish which translates to “the devil is wiser for his age than for being the devil”

With age comes wisdom and experience.

Some things will never change which I know I don’t need to tell you anything about. Smarter, wiser people will always sell themselves short and younger people will always think they know more than they do while not realizing they don’t know a damn thing.

The funny thing is they don't even know what they don't know. They haven't a clue.

Age for a man is just a number. What matters is what you’ve done and what you’re doing with your time.

You can’t be 40, broke, with no ambitions or direction in life and expect most good looking women to not look over you

Not 100%, you can be 40 looking 60 if your not taking care of your health. Get it in gear, no excuses responsibility.

 

[zekko]

I agree. Nothing really changed from me to 30s to 40s.

A 40 year old man looks pretty much the same as a 30 year old man. Unless you doing OLD where you list your age, there shouldn't be much difference. I see no reason whatsoever why a guy in his 40s shouldn't be able to date whoever he wants.

I've always been an "age doesn't matter" guy. But I agree with you, at some point age is going to catch up with you. Being in your 50s is not the same thing as being in your 40s. When girls fantasize about their dream man, it's not some guy in his 50s. Hugh Hefner married a playmate in her 20s when he was in his late 80s. But I don't think any of us are thinking that she wanted him because he was a hot pimp and such a sexy physical specimen. We know what was going on there.

I had girls in their early 20s crushing on me when I was in my 40s. I had a 52 year old friend who was regularly banging 18 year olds. But now that I'm in my mid/late 50s I feel like I notice a difference. It's occurred to me that it's all in my head, but it only makes sense. At a certain age, guys will begin to be viewed differently by the kind of girls talked about on this site (girls 18-24). Not all of them, but many of them.