Turning a HB down?

[dpw]

Well, i was at the pizza place and ran into this HB8 i went out w/ a couple times. Pretty casual, nothing serious. She starts talking to me and invites me to The Hall, a country/hip hop dance place.

I said, well i have a date for tomorrow but can i get your phone number? I told her i may try to meet her up there. My friends were a little baffled that i told her I had a date.

Anyways, me telling her about my date peaked her interest and she started asking me what her name was and how i met her... yada yada yada.

So what do yall think about that? Cool to let the other chick know u have a date? Makes me seem like I am the one in demand IMO. Thanks!

 

[coolguy676767]

Yes that is a great play on your part. I like it, and I think it is a good idea. But I might have said that you were just busy tomorrow, because you have to make sure this girl that you just got her number doesnt think you and her are just friends. You have to make sure you are still on a dating/sexual relationship, make sure you establish that when you call her in some way or another and especially if you go to the club with her. When your at the club dont treat it as a date, as in you can both dance with other people, but when you and her dance together make sure its not a friendly dance and instead its a sexual dance.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I've spoken to a girl in depth about what they think of the whole trying to build jealousy and social proof thing, and they said when a guy brags or mentions specifically something about being with other girls it strikes them as insecure or they just think the opposite, example if a guy say "yeah I go on a lot of dates" the girl thinks "he never goes out any dates!", etc. It is far better to remain ambiguous about it and say "well I'm getting together with someone else" or simply "I'm busy at that time", because it does a few things.

1. It is not bragging as you haven't mentioned a female specifically, though you can say it in a tone of voice where it is basically implied.

2. It leaves more for her to think about. If you say I'm going on a date with a girl, and she asks a few questions and you say her name, what you will be doing etc. it takes the mystery right out of it. If she has nothing to think about, then she won't think about you. If you imply certain things while remaining ambiguous she will spend a lot of time going through the possibilities in her mind.

3. It doesn't make you seem like a player if you use general terms instead of specifically saying date. This could be beneficial as if a girl thinks you're a player her last minute reisistance might be stronger when it comes to that or she may slot you in a different area in her life. For example, she might slot you as not relationship worthy or something.

4. Shows you are discreet. In a way, by not revealing details but being respectful about it you show that you can keep secrets and this will be good if she wants to pursue relations with you as she will know that not everyone will hear about it.

Ex.

You: "I'm seeing someone else on that day"

Her: "ooo is it a girl? whats her name?"

You: "I'd rather not talk about it, ... hold on.. wait.. are you jealous? Don't worry there is plenty of Joe Dirt to go around! omg you are jealous! Its so cute! " (avoid the potentially awkawrd situation and avoid an awkward line of questioning by turning it into a ****y funny situation)

Her:
Case 1: "no i'm not! haha" (defensive, playful)
Case 2: "oh yeaaah you know it haha" (sarcasm)

 

[dpw]

Oh ok thanks for the helpful replies guys.

Informative response Joe Dirt!

 

[cA^]

Joe Dirt knows where its at! Good post!