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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Turning a girl on on the dance floor?

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All right hey guys, this site has done a lot for me and really made me do a 180 on the direction my life was going. I'm very thankfull for that.

So i was at a club and thanks to a lot of the tips from here, i was able to muster the courage and pull some hot hb8's and higher and have a great time dancing with them.

What i want to know is do any of you guys do things that turn the GIRL on while your dancing with her. I mean the girls that i danced with had no trouble turning me on with their short skirts and hot bodys, I want to know things that i can do that will do the same for her, and hopefully in the end increasing her interest level in me for doing so.

Anyone got any stories, tricks, techniques they want to share?

What i think seemed to work a bit for me is when i go to talk to the girl, i really pull her in close and apply kino while im whispering/saying whatever it is with my lips very close to her ear.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i find that girls respond to the energy that you're sending out.
the more u enjoy urself and dances to her rhythm, the closer they dance towards u + eye contact & smile

next thing u know it's grinding time.

im no expert but this is what i learned from experience.
 

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There's a good old member whose user name is Kineti[C]harm, he made a great thread about this exact topic some time ago that can be found here.

It's literally a gold mine that can be useful to many guys who go to dance clubs. Just be aware of the fact that it's for the rather "advanced" people who are doing already pretty good at clubs but who want to make it even better. The guys who need the drunken courage and who don't know how to dance better start with the basics first.

Just for the info, this Kineti[C]harm dude is a tall good looking scandinavian guy who has no problem with women, he knows what he's talking about. So maybe, a few things here and there might not work very well for guys who are short or fat or ugly or who are not very experienced with women.

Also bear in mind that you can never turn a girl on on the dance floor if she's not at least somewhat physically attracted to you. Your job is not to create this attraction but to amplify it when it exists.

Happy reading.
 

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Le Parisien said:
There's a good old member whose user name is Kineti[C]harm, he made a great thread about this exact topic some time ago that can be found here.

It's literally a gold mine that can be useful to many guys who go to dance clubs. Just be aware of the fact that it's for the rather "advanced" people who are doing already pretty good at clubs but who want to make it even better. The guys who need the drunken courage and who don't know how to dance better start with the basics first.

Just for the info, this Kineti[C]harm dude is a tall good looking scandinavian guy who has no problem with women, he knows what he's talking about. So maybe, a few things here and there might not work very well for guys who are short or fat or ugly or who are not very experienced with women.

Also bear in mind that you can never turn a girl on on the dance floor if she's not at least somewhat physically attracted to you. Your job is not to create this attraction but to amplify it when it exists.

Happy reading.

that was a GREAT read!

Question though, he says in that thread that you should be grinding with a hardon, but at my junior prom, there was this one guy that was grinding with a hardon, and apparently, the girl got disgusted and stopped dancing with him, he then proceded to dance with another girl, got another hardon, and that girl left him too.

confused :confused:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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nvictor said:
belle de loin, mais loin d'être belle... :D
j'adore moi
Tu devrais apprendre utiliser pronoms. "Je m'adore" est plus meilleur que "J'adore moi". Me corriges si j'ai tort.
 

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CompleteShift said:
Tu devrais apprendre utiliser pronoms. "Je m'adore" est plus meilleur que "J'adore moi". Me corriges si j'ai tort.
Sorry sir, the other guy got everything (in French) right.

"J'adore moi" doesn't mean "I like/love myself", it means "I like it", because it's actually "j'adore, moi".

Plus your reply should have been:
"Tu devrais apprendre à utiliser les pronoms. "Je m'adore" est nothing here meilleur que "J'adore moi". Corrige moi si je me trompe"

"J'ai tort" is not totally wrong, it's just not idiomatic in this context.

But props for trying.:flowers:
 

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Kev07 said:
that was a GREAT read!

Question though, he says in that thread that you should be grinding with a hardon, but at my junior prom, there was this one guy that was grinding with a hardon, and apparently, the girl got disgusted and stopped dancing with him, he then proceded to dance with another girl, got another hardon, and that girl left him too.

confused :confused:
I'd say for the grinding with hardon thing, it's more suited for the "grown up" crowd. I mean by that like the college crowd, up to maybe early 30s.

I can imagine that if you do that when you are only 14 or 15, at an age when people start to discover their sexuality, you will come off as a pervert, or a player, a sexual predator. It's a little like smoking or drinking is no big deal per se, but if you see some 10 year old kid doing it, you'd be freaked out.
 

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rhon rhon les conards de merdes vont enculer les elephants roses!:yes:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Le Parisien said:
I'd say for the grinding with hardon thing, it's more suited for the "grown up" crowd. I mean by that like the college crowd, up to maybe early 30s.

I can imagine that if you do that when you are only 14 or 15, at an age when people start to discover their sexuality, you will come off as a pervert, or a player, a sexual predator. It's a little like smoking or drinking is no big deal per se, but if you see some 10 year old kid doing it, you'd be freaked out.
in hs there is smoking + drinking + ****ing
 

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dot said:
in hs there is smoking + drinking + ****ing
I'm not saying it doesn't exist, it's about the extent of things.

What might be considered the norm or acceptable in college or later could be seen as excessive or too "avant garde" in junior high or high school.
 

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Le Parisien said:
There's a good old member whose user name is Kineti[C]harm, he made a great thread about this exact topic some time ago that can be found here.

Happy reading.
Awesome that is some excellent pro info that ill definatley put into practice.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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