Turned the tables but confused bout this girl!

[Dave111]

Right , I've been hanging out with this girl whom I work with for about five months now. She is hot!!, easily the hottest women I've ever known and I want to bang her big time!

We have kissed numerous times while both being heavily under the influence of drink. I think that there is an attraction between us definatley. The thing is she told me months ago that we could never go out because we work with each other, to which I thought fair enough, even though we go out together and get totally steaming and then kiss each other. She is the type that plays hard to get games and I've figured that the reason nothing is happening is because up to this point I've been doing all the chasing

Anyway I was out with her clubbing last night and we were both pretty drunk, and then she started saying stuff like "how I was really sexy and that she was attracted to me and that we should go out with each other". I was pretty surprised by this, but instead of kissing her, I told her that we were friends and that we couldn't go out with each other because we work together, to which she looked disapointed. I tried to turn the tables and make her doing the chasing & I'm just wondering if you guys think I'm doing the right thing by acting disinterested?

 

[DEKKA]

whenever a woman tells you she can't do something because of something else she's usually full of shyt.

women don't make rules for themselves and keep them.

they are ruled by the emotions of any given moment.

if she says she doesn't go out with guys at work its generally just an excuse because you haven'y proven yourself as of yet.

ive dated 5 women from different workplaces and never had a problem... it can be done.

as for this.

Originally posted by Dave111
...I was pretty surprised by this, but instead of kissing her, I told her that we were friends and that we couldn't go out with each other because we work together, to which she looked disapointed. I tried to turn the tables and make her doing the chasing & I'm just wondering if you guys think I'm doing the right thing by acting disinterested?

no you aren't doing the right thing. first why did you imply that "going out" was even an option. you sound like one of those guys that asks her if she'll "go out with you"... BAD BAD BAD. never ask. acting disinterested works ok but i think you're probably comming off as more frustrated than anything else. you already showed how you felt and are letting her lead you around with her "cant do sh!t cuz of work" and "only does stuff when drunk" games. you need to take control of the situation or forget it all together. i can tell she's in control here.

 

[Borgia]

Guys are meant to chase - in my opinion you didn;t do the right thing by acting disinterested. In very few circumstances it may work but why make life more complicated then it is - make a move on her.

 

[BGMan]

Continue to date her, and show her a fun time -- but now do it while sober! You appear to have increased her interest level from about 52% (mildly interested) to perhaps 65%.

I wouldn't worry about what you said; after all, you both were drunk so she probably won't make too much of it. And if she does, she'll see you as more interesting. Think about it: how many guys do you think would have said what you did to her? That's right -- nobody would have. She'll be asking herself, "I thought he wanted to date me! What's up with this guy? Did he find someone else?"

Also, in between dates, keep contact with her at an absolute minimum. We need for you to continue being relatively unavailable so she'll want you more.

BGMan

 

[Dave111]

cheers for advice

I'm worried I've blown it now!, if the situation presents itself again I'll make my move, promise!

 

[DEKKA]

dave,
did i understand this right?

you wanted to be her boyfriend but she said she couldn't because you worked together.

then.

you told her later that you couldn't be her boyfriend because she worked with you?

did you use the same excuse she did?

if thats true you basically gave validity to her lame excuse by adopting it as your own. maybe i missed something.

good luck mayne i think you'll be really successful just make sure not to let dem women take the reigns. women don't like to lead. they hate it.

good luck bruh.

 

[justheretohelp]

Originally posted by Dave111
Right , I've been hanging out with this girl whom I work with for about five months now. She is hot!!, easily the hottest women I've ever known and I want to bang her big time!

I tried to turn the tables and make her doing the chasing & I'm just wondering if you guys think I'm doing the right thing by acting disinterested?

Who is the woman here? First you say you want to bang her, and when she says that you two should go out together, you bring up her previous statement? Why? True, she could have just been under the influence of alcohol, but usually alcohol makes you less inhibited and reveals your true feelings.

Why do you want her to chase you when you're already there and you have been kissing and going out? If you weren't hanging out then maybe she could do that, but why regress when you've made such progress? Hate to break it to ya but I think you're setting yourself up for a disappointment. She could be the type who doesn't like being rejected and once you do that, its over, no more time spent with her... Though I could be wrong.

 

[justheretohelp]

Originally posted by DEKKA

women don't like to lead. they hate it.

good luck bruh.

Dekka ---

How many women have you been with?

I think that you're wrong in woman not wanting to take the lead. If anything they want to take the lead all the time. They want it to seem like everything is their idea. So the whole point of this chick telling Dave that they should go out together when she had previously said NO is to feel her power and control over him and the situation!

 

[DEKKA]

Originally posted by justheretohelp
Dekka ---

How many women have you been with?

I think that you're wrong in woman not wanting to take the lead. If anything they want to take the lead all the time. They want it to seem like everything is their idea. So the whole point of this chick telling Dave that they should go out together when she had previously said NO is to feel her power and control over him and the situation!

okay dude lets sit and talk.

what women want and what women want are two very different things. does that make sense to you?

women want to be in control and they also despise being in control both at the same time. welcome to the "have your cake and eat it too" mentality of the female. i won't go into the details of all this because i believe that there is no set thing that women want besides a man that knows what he wants. women are mirrors plain and simple.... but not so simple

a woman will always try to lead. she will constantly test and prod and push for control. that layer of the female personality would have us men believe that they wanted control... after all they are always trying for it, but, alas, we would be ultimately wrong. women despise men who are not in control. deep down on a biological level they are not attracted to men who they can lead around like a puppy dog. the womans role is that of subserviance and reflection. women are happy when they have a man at the wheel. i don't give a fvck how politically correct or non-progressive that may sound in this modern era but its the goddamn truth.

bottom line. women aren't happy when they are in control or feel like they are making important decisions. they won't ever admit that, but thats life.

fvck politically correct, fvck the womens movement, fvck comformity. just because an idea isn't popular doesn't mean it's not right. thats my philosophy- tried and true by my own experience.