"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Turned down sex - again

Yo'Mama

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For the second week in a row I had a girl who wanted to go back to my place to ****.

I made up some excuse and said I had to be up early so 'Next Time'.

Before the comments come in, no i'm not gay. Reasons for turning down were:

1. I was very drunk and exhausted. Not sure that little Yo'Mama would have risen to the occasion.

2. I would have ended up ****ing this girl without a condom then stressing about it afterwards.

3. I didn't want some random chick hanging around my apartment after I was done.

Weird? I could have gone to a hotel I suppose (she lives far away) but just couldn't be bothered. She was cute but not smoking hot. Smoking hot I would probably have just drank a red bull, taken her home and raw dogged that *****!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I know the feeling. Sometimes I just don't have the motivation/energy to s3x it. Thursday some girl randomly called me (a girl I talk to occasionally, but have never done anything with her sexual) at 3 in the morning. Clearly a booty call. Instead of getting my a55 up out of bed and inviting her over, I told her I needed to sleep. Other times I get invited to something, but I just simply "don't feel like going out." So I don't. I guess I have to be in the right mindset. I'm just as flakey as most woman these days. =X

-Scars
 

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You're just a little pussie tease! I can totally relate to what you said. Nothing wrong with having the self-control or foresight to realize that having sex with some girl is not always worth the trouble or all it is cracked up to be by the male drive of wanting to bang any and every girl at every opportunity.
 

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Heh glad you guys can relate. I just had a couple of friends who said I was really weird for turning down sex. I mean I guess it's normal to turn it down sometimes with your wife or whatever but these would have been two first time lays.

The condom thing is a big problem for me. When I go out I like drinking a bit. I'll start getting it on with these girls at home, get hard but then by the time I've got the condom out of the packet and put it on I'm already starting to wilt.

PLUS even if i get it on and get up in that ***** a lot of the time I can barely feel anything. So I just went in raw a few times. Fortunately I was lucky but I know in the long run it's playing Russian roulette.

I also just hate girls hanging around my apartment. I feel like I need a trapdoor or something installed so I can just get rid of them without awkwardness.
 

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Yo'Mama said:
I need a trapdoor or something installed so I can just get rid of them without awkwardness.
Repped! I want one of those installed in my apartment!



Haha, I don't blame you cause sometimes I be too tired to get hard, so I know the feeling. Besides, I'm pretty sure you can get some sex sometime soon anyway.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks Gray. Maybe we should go into the Trapdoor business lol.

Yeah it would be funny (not) if i went through a year long drought now. I'd be looking back at these missed opportunities ha ha.
 

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She wasn't hot. what's the big deal? Why would you bang a girl who isn't hot?
 

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I said she was cute but not smoking hot. I guess you only bang smoking hot girls :rolleyes:
 

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2. I would have ended up ****ing this girl without a condom then stressing about it afterwards.

3. I didn't want some random chick hanging around my apartment after I was done.
Why don't you have a pack of condoms at your apartment? That's the big questions. No single man should live in a place and not have a couple of condoms stashed away somewhere "just in case." It's like having bottled water stored away in case of an emergency! You just gotta have it.
 

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Yo'Mama said:
I said she was cute but not smoking hot. I guess you only bang smoking hot girls :rolleyes:

Come on obviously she wasn't great looking or else you would have banged her. The last time I banged a girl I wasn't attracted to, I went limp halfway through. So I don't blame you for passing on it.

Ugly women will want to bang us since we have improved as men. Get used to it. You don't have to accept it all the time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She was cute enough to bang for sure. Otherwise I wouldn't post - 'Turned down sex with ugly woman'. As you say there'd be no point to that.

She just wasn't cute enough to compensate for all the reasons I found not to bang her. If I'd been soberish, it wasn't 5am, I could have gone to her place - then yes I definitely would have.
 

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Yo'Mama said:
She was cute enough to bang for sure. Otherwise I wouldn't post - 'Turned down sex with ugly woman'. As you say there'd be no point to that.

She just wasn't cute enough to compensate for all the reasons I found not to bang her. If I'd been soberish, it wasn't 5am, I could have gone to her place - then yes I definitely would have.

Sure, she was cute in a dark club with a pound of makeup on.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Being a DJ is not about taking EVERY opportunity to hook up. It's ok to turn some down.
^This.

If you didnt wanna smash, you dont have to justify your reasoning. Sometimes youre tired, sometimes youre not feeling the girl for whatever reason even if shes attractive, and sometimes you have no condoms.

Never raw dog a broad you dont know. Thats just asking for bad news bears.

Ive been in your position before. I am picky as hell about who I screw, and if a girl doesnt make me crazy with lust, I wont smash. I like that I am selective. Though it does get girls a lil upset sometimes, but whatever.

lol
 
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