"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Turned down sex - again

Yo'Mama

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For the second week in a row I had a girl who wanted to go back to my place to ****.

I made up some excuse and said I had to be up early so 'Next Time'.

Before the comments come in, no i'm not gay. Reasons for turning down were:

1. I was very drunk and exhausted. Not sure that little Yo'Mama would have risen to the occasion.

2. I would have ended up ****ing this girl without a condom then stressing about it afterwards.

3. I didn't want some random chick hanging around my apartment after I was done.

Weird? I could have gone to a hotel I suppose (she lives far away) but just couldn't be bothered. She was cute but not smoking hot. Smoking hot I would probably have just drank a red bull, taken her home and raw dogged that *****!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I know the feeling. Sometimes I just don't have the motivation/energy to s3x it. Thursday some girl randomly called me (a girl I talk to occasionally, but have never done anything with her sexual) at 3 in the morning. Clearly a booty call. Instead of getting my a55 up out of bed and inviting her over, I told her I needed to sleep. Other times I get invited to something, but I just simply "don't feel like going out." So I don't. I guess I have to be in the right mindset. I'm just as flakey as most woman these days. =X

-Scars
 

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You're just a little pussie tease! I can totally relate to what you said. Nothing wrong with having the self-control or foresight to realize that having sex with some girl is not always worth the trouble or all it is cracked up to be by the male drive of wanting to bang any and every girl at every opportunity.
 

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Heh glad you guys can relate. I just had a couple of friends who said I was really weird for turning down sex. I mean I guess it's normal to turn it down sometimes with your wife or whatever but these would have been two first time lays.

The condom thing is a big problem for me. When I go out I like drinking a bit. I'll start getting it on with these girls at home, get hard but then by the time I've got the condom out of the packet and put it on I'm already starting to wilt.

PLUS even if i get it on and get up in that ***** a lot of the time I can barely feel anything. So I just went in raw a few times. Fortunately I was lucky but I know in the long run it's playing Russian roulette.

I also just hate girls hanging around my apartment. I feel like I need a trapdoor or something installed so I can just get rid of them without awkwardness.
 

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Yo'Mama said:
I need a trapdoor or something installed so I can just get rid of them without awkwardness.
Repped! I want one of those installed in my apartment!



Haha, I don't blame you cause sometimes I be too tired to get hard, so I know the feeling. Besides, I'm pretty sure you can get some sex sometime soon anyway.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yo'Mama

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Thanks Gray. Maybe we should go into the Trapdoor business lol.

Yeah it would be funny (not) if i went through a year long drought now. I'd be looking back at these missed opportunities ha ha.
 

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She wasn't hot. what's the big deal? Why would you bang a girl who isn't hot?
 

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I said she was cute but not smoking hot. I guess you only bang smoking hot girls :rolleyes:
 

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2. I would have ended up ****ing this girl without a condom then stressing about it afterwards.

3. I didn't want some random chick hanging around my apartment after I was done.
Why don't you have a pack of condoms at your apartment? That's the big questions. No single man should live in a place and not have a couple of condoms stashed away somewhere "just in case." It's like having bottled water stored away in case of an emergency! You just gotta have it.
 

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Yo'Mama said:
I said she was cute but not smoking hot. I guess you only bang smoking hot girls :rolleyes:

Come on obviously she wasn't great looking or else you would have banged her. The last time I banged a girl I wasn't attracted to, I went limp halfway through. So I don't blame you for passing on it.

Ugly women will want to bang us since we have improved as men. Get used to it. You don't have to accept it all the time.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yo'Mama

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She was cute enough to bang for sure. Otherwise I wouldn't post - 'Turned down sex with ugly woman'. As you say there'd be no point to that.

She just wasn't cute enough to compensate for all the reasons I found not to bang her. If I'd been soberish, it wasn't 5am, I could have gone to her place - then yes I definitely would have.
 

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Yo'Mama said:
She was cute enough to bang for sure. Otherwise I wouldn't post - 'Turned down sex with ugly woman'. As you say there'd be no point to that.

She just wasn't cute enough to compensate for all the reasons I found not to bang her. If I'd been soberish, it wasn't 5am, I could have gone to her place - then yes I definitely would have.

Sure, she was cute in a dark club with a pound of makeup on.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Being a DJ is not about taking EVERY opportunity to hook up. It's ok to turn some down.
^This.

If you didnt wanna smash, you dont have to justify your reasoning. Sometimes youre tired, sometimes youre not feeling the girl for whatever reason even if shes attractive, and sometimes you have no condoms.

Never raw dog a broad you dont know. Thats just asking for bad news bears.

Ive been in your position before. I am picky as hell about who I screw, and if a girl doesnt make me crazy with lust, I wont smash. I like that I am selective. Though it does get girls a lil upset sometimes, but whatever.

lol
 
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