"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hey, just thought I'd introduce myself, I am Mr Plow, and I want to improve my physical shape. I am already a member on SoSuave but I wanted to make a new account to just hang around in this section (mainly). I have signed up to the gym with some friends, and have been going once or twice every week, I've had a short break due to illness but should be back on my feet soon.

I need to slim down, (not too much) but I also want to build up a muscular frame, I am 15 (as of two days ago) and I think I weigh eleven - twelve stone-ish (about 154 pounds)... (not thinkin' that's too good) but however I am 5"9 ish which is okay for my age.

What's a good way to achieve my goals, any home excercises I can do? Any special fitness routines? Time lengths also appreciated to give me some idea. I am hoping to achieve my goal within around four months (sorry if it's unrealistic I don't know much about this sort of thing)

I thank you :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Okay at 15 years old it is near impossible to make any significant physique changes as you are still developing. Your hormones will basically do what they want right now. I would not recommend anyone your age tried to lose weight unless they were severely overweight, as you are depriving yourself of the nutrients needed to grow.

However you can still go in the gym, have fun, learn the lifts, get on a structured program, build some strength, and learn good nutritional and training habits - just don't expect miracles because by the time you turn 20 your body will have changed, changed and changed some more - of its own accord.

Right now concentrate on making it change in the right direction. Eat well, train hard and have fun. :)
 

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Alex,

I just turned 18, is it now ok for me to attempt to get ripped/cut up a bit. I had some major weight loss when I was 15/16 in a short amount of time, and have kept the level of about 15% bf, since then.
 

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i'm 18 and im just following the where to start workouts, needless to say they're good workouts and even if i don't see any changes now i figure when the changes come they'll be very visible. win win situation, plus it increases str and all the rest.
 

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sam3083 said:
Alex,

I just turned 18, is it now ok for me to attempt to get ripped/cut up a bit. I had some major weight loss when I was 15/16 in a short amount of time, and have kept the level of about 15% bf, since then.
yes by 18 your development is generally complete enough to allow more significant physique changes. your major weight loss was hormone-induced which is why I tell people not to diet at that age

int3l if you're not seeing changes NOW why do you think you will see them later? are you not gaining strength with these workouts? are you getting fatter?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warboss Alex said:
Okay at 15 years old it is near impossible to make any significant physique changes as you are still developing. Your hormones will basically do what they want right now. I would not recommend anyone your age tried to lose weight unless they were severely overweight, as you are depriving yourself of the nutrients needed to grow.

However you can still go in the gym, have fun, learn the lifts, get on a structured program, build some strength, and learn good nutritional and training habits - just don't expect miracles because by the time you turn 20 your body will have changed, changed and changed some more - of its own accord.

Right now concentrate on making it change in the right direction. Eat well, train hard and have fun. :)
Thanks Alex, I wasn't sure whether I was training hard enough to start with, 'cause I have actually been going a few months with no change at all, my diet is fantastic, except for the odd snack or two (hardly ever)
 

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Mr Plow said:
Hey, just thought I'd introduce myself, I am Mr Plow, and I want to improve my physical shape. I am already a member on SoSuave but I wanted to make a new account to just hang around in this section (mainly)
why is that?
 

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Warboss Alex said:
Okay at 15 years old it is near impossible to make any significant physique changes as you are still developing. Your hormones will basically do what they want right now. I would not recommend anyone your age tried to lose weight unless they were severely overweight, as you are depriving yourself of the nutrients needed to grow.

However you can still go in the gym, have fun, learn the lifts, get on a structured program, build some strength, and learn good nutritional and training habits - just don't expect miracles because by the time you turn 20 your body will have changed, changed and changed some more - of its own accord.

Right now concentrate on making it change in the right direction. Eat well, train hard and have fun. :)
Keep in mind thoug that most teens eat like birds skipping breakfast and eat fastfood. If he actually starts eating healthy food sources with lots of protein and green carb sources, his body is likely to shread the fat without dieting the bodybuilder way. What we call a bodybuilder diet (wich makes us feel like crap) , "normal people" call that healthy eating ;) They'll gain energy from it cause theyre deprived anyways. White bread and soda, burgers ... the typical western diet is still what's considered normal.
 

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fireguy said:
Keep in mind thoug that most teens eat like birds skipping breakfast and eat fastfood. If he actually starts eating healthy food sources with lots of protein and green carb sources, his body is likely to shread the fat without dieting the bodybuilder way. What we call a bodybuilder diet (wich makes us feel like crap) , "normal people" call that healthy eating ;) They'll gain energy from it cause theyre deprived anyways. White bread and soda, burgers ... the typical western diet is still what's considered normal.
I do eat well, but I also skip breakfast which I *know* is bad : /
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Warboss Alex said:
yes by 18 your development is generally complete enough to allow more significant physique changes. your major weight loss was hormone-induced which is why I tell people not to diet at that age

int3l if you're not seeing changes NOW why do you think you will see them later? are you not gaining strength with these workouts? are you getting fatter?
lol, i didn't mean it in that way. I can see changes, they're just slow- which is likely a fault on my behalf for not eating correctly (As in 6 meals a day; i don't eat junk much anymore. occasional cookie here and there >.>;;) and all the rest. (i'd like to blame it on uni and etc but who am i kidding, i've just been lazy)
 

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yes by 18 your development is generally complete enough to allow more significant physique changes. your major weight loss was hormone-induced which is why I tell people not to diet at that age
Actually, that weight loss was me eating about 1000 calories a day, and working out (and it pains me to stay) 2-3 hours a day with slow aerobic work (about 12 - 15km's a day - Im a runner).

On that note, I've realised the error of my ways and am in the process of turning myself into a 400m runner, and a pole vaulter. (I just really lack the fast twitch muscle to be a 100 or 200, sprinter, lol)
 
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