Tudeeee's Log

[Tudeeee]

Hey,

so in the last 2 months I've made a lot of changes in my life, I initially found out about pickup and now this forum which I like a lot better than pick up. Anyway, I'm 17 years old and I'm from Germany. I used to be the typical "nice guy", hence why I'm a virgin. Like I said, found about Pickup and applying some of it, noticed some changes but nothing major yet (although I'm now trying to be a DJ not a PUA). So yeah, in this log I want to just write down my goals and keep a journal of my progress, not only for myself but also for you guys.

Goals:
1. Get at least a B average as my "graduation grade" (In germany all your grades during junior and senior year count toward this grade and you eventually have to apply for college with it)
2. Keep working out (Specific goals till graduation night (all 5 RM): Bench 225 Squat 315 Deadlift 405)
3. Get into a good university studying something I'm passionate about and love doing
4. Get more into longboarding because it seems to be really fun and should be a great hobby
5. Quit wasting time on facebook and all that shi* and start doing useful things more like reading etc
6. Keep progressing as a DJ: Become more confident, easily be able to "seduce" a girl and sleep with her and just all aspects of being a DJ
7. Become the best person I can be. This may sound cheesy but I just have this drive to always improve everything pretty much (for the guys that know Elliot Hulse: I want to become the strongest version of myself)

I think that should be it for now. I'll update this log for the first time tomorrow, for now I'm gonna go out and do some stair sprints.

Couple Questions:

1. I have sort of long hair, kind of like Justin Biebers straight hair (without gel). Not exactly like that but somewhat. I want to get a buzzcut because I think that it would help me leave my "old self" behind and just "start over" I guess. What do you guys think of this? I really wanna do it, but I don't want it to look crappy and then having to grow my hair forever. But I definitely want to make some drastic change in my hair (preferably a buzzcut)

2. Should I delete my facebook? I find myself going on there way too often and feel like it contributes to the fact that I care too much about what other people think. If I delete it, I think it could help me not give a da** about what other people think. Thoughts?

3. It's not like I don't have friends, in fact I'm decently popular, get invited to a lot of partys and so on. The problem is just that I guess girls just see/used to see me as the nice guy. I guess what I need to do about this is just approach/ask girls out and escalate instead of analyzing. Also, like I said, I just recently started changing so not everybody has noticed by now probably.

4. I'm really interested in the whole "If you want to be happy, be!" mindset and being happy regardless of cirumstances/outcome and so on. I've been trying to get into this mindset and I partly have but just not completely. Anybody have tips on this?

Thanks for reading my log and looking forward to all comments!

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Bieber doesnt have long hair, does he? Change your hair and work on it. It can only get better!

Dont delete your facebook. If you saw mine, or anyone with a high-profile 'profile', you'd see why immediately. The addiction is to wasting time. If you go off facebook, you'll waste your time doing something else. Deal with the cause.

Steady change man. Just step outside.

Affirmations and such beliefs without grounding arent effective. Read a lot on self-help and you'll understand this a lot better.

 

[Tudeeee]

It's not really that "long" I guess I just feel that it's long because I want to get it a lot shorter. It's not that it looks that bad right now, I just need a change.

I think you're right, that makes a lot of sense. I'll try to focus on not wasting time at all now and keep my facebook but just not go on it too often.

Sounds good man, any specific books you can recommend/helped you?

Also, read your journal, great stuff! Very motivating!

Edit: I really don't look like Justin Bieber very much , just didn't really know how to describe my hair

 

[Watawata]

This seems promising. Dont quit on it!

 

[NorwegianDJ]

The ones I describe in my journal.

Awaken the Giant Within, A New Earth, Mastery by Robert Greene, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, etcetera. You can check my post history, I write up about them all he time.

 

[Tudeeee]

Watawata, thanks for the reply and motivation! Read your journal, great stuff!

NorwegianDJ, thanks again, I'll try to read some of these as soon as possible!

As for my journal:

Today and yesterday were good days, I had school till late afternoon/night, when I got home I worked out/sprinted and after that I did some more school work and went to bed after that pretty much. Nothing special, but friday and saturday night should be lots of fun since I'm going out both nights!

 

[Tudeeee]

Quick Update:

Had a busy week, lot of tests and stuff. Anyway went to a party last night: There was this girl there that's really into me so I had a conversation with her and was gonna escalate but then one of my friends interrupted us and kinda ****blocked me. So I was in a terrible mood for the rest of the night. Anyway.

Over the weekend I'm visiting a friend and I'm gonna approach and try to talk to a lot of women there and just see what goes. Also, I have 2-3 girls I'm thinking about asking out (one of them being the one I was talking about last night). I'll ask out at least one of them when I get back next week.

In addition, I ordererd Awaken the Giant Within, A New Earth and a couple of other books. Going to read those soon.

Thanks for reading my log and looking forward to any tips!

Keep improving!

 

[Jack Wealthy]

Post effectively on Facebook, it's really easy to abuse the algorithm and get 100s of likes. If you're in a country where people get like 20, this makes you look like a celebrity. In my country 50 is good, I got 350, 2/3 random females added me a day. The quality of girls tends to be extremely low, but they're hot and slutty, so if you don't care about personality...

 

[Tudeeee]

Quick Update:

Everything's been going well. Going to start playing guitar again when I get my amp on tuesday, will learn wonderwall, let it be and kryptonite first.

As for girls: When I was at my friends house the other weekend I met this really cool chick at a party, good connection, so I number closed her with ease. Was gonna call her the next night and hang out but my phone died and some other shi* so ended up not seeing her again. I've been texting her a little bit, but oh well she lives too far away anyway. Going to ask one girl out this week, although one of them that I was gonna ask out has been behaving really weird and distant around me. Perhabs she wanted me to escalate the other day but I didn't cause of my friend sorta ****blocking and such ...

Anyway, I've been really noticing improvements in my confidence and "game" so to speak, since the summer. I feel like most of the girls have gotten so used to my "old self" that they don't realize I've changed a lot. But when I met some entirely new chicks, it works out good usually.

Going to keep reading Awaken the Giant Within and a New Earth. Like I said I will ask out one of three girls this week. Also I just started Madcow's 5x5 yesterday, seems promising!

Got a couple questions:

@Jack Wealthy: What do you mean by "abusing the algorithm"? Like just put up "cool" pictures at the right times so more people will like it?

1. Also in general: I was making out with this one chick the other day but we never really got to sex, which I guess is my fault for not pushing the transition. Any tips on the best way to transition from kissing/making out to sex?

2. Is it okay to ask a chick on a date via facebook? I'm thinking that would be the easy route and I should just go ask her straight up, am I right?

Thanks in advance for everyone reading my log!

Edit: Been reading "Decoding the Blueprint" because I saw NorwegianDJ mention how the Blueprint helped him. I really feel like it's helped me a bit so far!

And almost forgot: Been doing cold showers constantly for about 2 weeks now and just started meditation + nofap seriously yesterday.

 

[Watawata]

Good update!

 

[Tudeeee]

Update:

I feel like A new Earth has really helped me a lot so far already. Today was/is just a great day, I feel really happy! Couldn't go out last weekend for some personal reasons but I'm going to hang out with this girl on friday and also going to a birthday party on saturday so that should be good.

I feel amazing right now, about to go workout and then later study and read. Also, meditation and cold showers have been really good, I'm just sort of struggling with nofap (only have about 3 days) but I'm determined to keep going.

Want to just thank you guys for the motivation, helps a lot when I come in here and see people supporting and also trying to be the best they can be!

Thanks and life is great!

 

[Tudeeee]

Update:

Workout's are going strong, just hit a new PR with good form on Deads, as well as an all-time PR on OHP. Will hit PRs on both Bench and Squat as early as next Friday. Meditation is going well. Nofap not so much, although I don't think it's too bad.

The other week I made out with this other chick, set up a date with her for today. Got cold sores overnight so I had to postpone. Going to just study and read tonight. Feeling great though!

 

[Tudeeee]

So the last days I've been on break but I haven't done really done much. Finished the power of now, starting awaken the giant within now. Been really slacking on cold showers, nofap and meditation, mainly because I was in a not so great mood due to my cold sore this week.

Anyway, going to be more disciplined about everything now. Was gonna workout today but didn't get a lot of calories in yesterday because I wasn't feeling well so gonna workout tomorrow. Will be hitting PR's on Rows, Bench and Squat so that's gonna be great!

 

[Tudeeee]

Just a quick update:

Meditation is going great, can really feel how it's helping me. Workout is going great, just hit 180 on bench and 270 on squats for a triple each, should hit 405/315/225 for 5 by next summer easily.

I've been going on a few dates with this girl the last weeks. We always have very intense makeout sessions and I can tell she's really into me but we haven't had sex yet or anything. I feel like it's not that easy to go from making out to more, maybe it's because she's probably a virgin too. I'll see how it goes.

Have to get into playing guitar again and start reading more again! Also I kind of have a hard time studying for classes I don't like, biology for example. Like I usually do decent in it but I just don't care about it all, if you know what I mean?! It's just that fvuck it attitude. That's usually a good thing in my opinion but I think it might have a little negative impact on my grades in some subjects. I have to work on that as well.

I also decided I want to start writing a book, or at least a short story! I feel like it's going to be a good way to relax and such.

Last thing: I wanted to say thank you to everyone and this forum in general! Since I found out about this forum about 3-4 months ago, my life has just completely changed, my attitude on almost everything is better, I'm generally more happy and more confident! Thanks!

 

[Watawata]

Great to read this!

 

[TK-421]

Following this. What are you doing for meditation? I am interested, but don't know where to start. Keep up the no fap. It's life changing
Good luck

 

[Tudeeee]

Hey, thanks for the replies guys! For meditation I usually either count my breaths and go to like 100 or 200, or I use a mantra and repeat that any amount of times. For example if my mantra was "Everyday in every way, I am getting better and better": I would first not pronounce any of the words in a certain way, then I would put emphasis on the I and say the rest of the mantra normal. Next put emphasis only on the would and so on.

In my opinion it's not as important what exactly you do for meditation, but rather that you just get started and spend some time concentrating on anything (breath, mantra) and shutting that inner voice out. When I first started meditating with a mantra I would sometimes literally feel high. You should really start doing it, makes a huge difference!

 

[TK-421]

Books I recommend:

How to win friends and influence people. Timeless classic, really made me a better person and how I deal with others

48 Laws to Power by Robert Greene. Same as above. Gives you a backbone

DJ bible. Duh.

Ben Franklin's autobiography. Kind of dated but still is relevant. Really any autobiography is good, they allow you to really learn from another person

Siddhartha. You'll like it. Trust me

Hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy. Not really necessary, but a fun series to read. Really gave me perspective about life.

And Also, take the time to read any book on a subject you're interested in. You like history? Read a book on it. Math? Get some books.

The books I listed should be read not once, but periodically. One tends to forget their lessons.

 

[Tudeeee]

Hey guys,

so here's a quick update: I'm turning 18 this week and I don't know what it is today but something inside me just clicked. I'm sick of all the BS and although I've already been making a lot of progress in the last months I'm stepping it up now!

This is my life so it's time to stop giving a fvuck what other people think/say of me. I'm done caring about people that don't care about me and I'm done giving a fvuck about people that don't like me.
For way too long I have cared about what other people think and do and although I've said many times that I'll stop just caring I'm serious this time.
Time to be a beast and make progress!

So yeah just a quick update, had to write this down. Also working on my body language and choice of words, reading more. Have a lot of tests recently though so don't have too much time.

 

[Tudeeee]

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