Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Trying to Understand Exactly What Happened Here

Young Juan

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So this chick that I've been messin with for the past year, after our most recent encounter two Saturday's ago, texts me on Monday saying that we can't have sex anymore & she needs to work on finding a new husband which I've made obvious will never be me. I text back that that's fine with me as she's gotta do what's in her best interest, we can still hang out as just friends.

A bit of background, I caught her off the rebound after she and her previous husband split. I let her know I'm not a relationship guy from day 1.

So fast forwards to this past weekend, she wanted to hang out. We went to see a movie. In the movie she mentions she's cold so I put an arm around her. We get food and go to my place after. We eat, chat, etc. and so I play a movie I downloaded earlier. Next thing I know she's playin w/ my nipples and I'm gettin a bj about 15 minutes later. That was the first of two BJs I would recieve that night. The funny thing about all of this it that she was the one that wanted to stop messing around and ends up being the one to start everything back up again.

I obviously did something right here. I'm guessing the texts about not having sex anymore was a sh!t test ? Out of curiosity, what would you have responded?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Byezbozhniy

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Sounds like she's pretty serious about you. She has an emotional attachment to you and wants something more. The text was a sh1t test. She thought, "Hmm, I'm sure he likes me. If I threaten to break it off with him he'll realise what he's missing and confess his undying love for me."

You didn't bite, so she did the only thing she could do to win your affection back ... BJs.

I think you played it the right way. She's going to become more emotionally invested in you though the longer it goes on. Does she seem like a crazy? One of my ex F buddies threatened to kill herself because I didn't want an LTR with her.

Eventually you're going to have to get rid, and the longer it goes on the more you'll hurt her. You can justify continuing to fvck her by saying "I always told her I wouldn't have an LTR," but it looks like it will get messy.
 

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Sh!t man, you honestly didn't believe I was going to follow the rules did you? Read this punk lol Byezbozhniy

Byezbozhniy said:
Just ask yourself this question: Why does a super stud and fantastic football player like myself care about some text displayed on a website? After all, if what you say is true, you have the pick of the ladies and have much better ways of spending time.

It seems the only reason you'd stay would be if you had nothing better to live for than this website.

If the latter point is true, and I suspect it is, then you really have some soul searching to do. Ask yourself why you need to impress people here and be validated by them.

You're clearly not emotionally stable. Such pent up anger over such trifles is certainly not becoming of a DJ, wouldn't you agree?
I'm not trying to fix a problem that's non exsistant slick, that sh!t doesn't stick.. Look you can save yourself. I do well in athletics... where this aggression you say you see really works, trust me. I want this.

I'm not angry. I get even. The only thing I was looking to correct is this fool I quoted in this original thread.. Football's my passion and life. Talk sh!t and swallow your spit on me.. But don't go and stalk out my name for information about my personal past, especially relating to me playing football.. That's personal, very personal.. You might even hate on my Momma and that's nearly as bad. I realize that you people will hate. I'm a happy camper... I had an amazing weekend, and albeit I wasn't laid I still madeout with the aforementioned b!tch. Which. Is great for me not for you. I'm rather content. So talk sh!t all you want, all you're doing is escalating my name.. Like I said, it was only the sh!t this fool I originally quoted that had me even create this username. Keep your name out my mouth.. BTW

I see you're Russian, I've hooked up with an adopted Ukrainian girl.. infact we have a 3 year history, I'm at the plano public library at this moment, the very place I met her and madeout with her the second day I saw her.. Very fvckin' freaky girls, unless it's just the catholic school sexual frustration. who knows.. Russian girls are sweet, picture this brown d!ck in your b!tches pvssy. Yeah fvck you.

Chuch.
 

Young Juan

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Yeah, I know the day will come for me to move on. Its just that she's great at BJs and enjoys giving them so much, which is a turn on in itself. I don't think she's crazy, but she has mentioned that she sees a therapist, so there's definitely potential. Time will tell
 
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