"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Trying to stay out of it (need advice)

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This will probably be long, but it involves the gal that lead me here (I'll call her Girl A). I just finished my longest stretch to date of no contact, but after 4 months we met up again. We've been push/pulling for close to two years and I thought I was finally over it. It's the same thing every time. She comes on strong, tells me about who's trying to bang her, then bails. She's evil. I'm an idiot.

Right before I met Girl A there was this other gal that I had a crush on (Girl B) but she has a BF. I've been bumping into B at the grocery store and she also works in the same building. She always smiles and waves and seems like a genuine great catch.

So this last meet up with Girl A, she is telling me about this guy that's been trying to bang her. Turns out he is Girl B's man. Girl B works in my building but the dude is indirectly my superior. Not my boss but he is in Management. But this dude is getting what I want from both gals. Nudes from my old gal and dating the gorgeous girl B. I know he's just going for a pump and dump and she'd expect me to help pick up the pieces.

Any suggestions what I can do?

I should just stay out of it.

Do I talk to Girl B and find a way in?

Use the info for leverage?

Bottom line is, I know Girl A is trash, but I'm addicted to her. I pretty sure Girl B is out of my league, but is close to perfect.

Thanks in advance.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Infern0

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Bro your mindset is ****ed up.

Girl A is poison to you and you know this

Girl B most likely isnt out of your league but with your messed up brain you will make her out of your league.

Take the focus off women for a month and work on your ****. You wont get any success with women if you are ****ed up.
 
Thorninmyside

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You've been here long enough that letting A back in is poison, and white knighting for B who you have on a pedestal gets you nowhere. B has already shown you what kind of guy she dates and you think being smiley nice guy snitch is the right play? Bro. C'mon.

Leave it all alone. The chips will fall where they may. The only duty you have is the go be the best version of yourself. And go block A from everything right now.
 
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