Trying to stay focused

[In2theGame]

I guess this is geared to the older more life experienced men and entrepreneurs but anyway maybe i need some encouragement from fellow men to help me stay focused. After my devastating 5 year LTR breakup 2 years ago i went into a spiral and i didnt have a job but had my own thing going on trading the markets with clients and had money, luxury car etc... Then i lost everything and i hit a very low point in my life, i mean low as you can get. It has been hard fighting through the pain and little by little i have risen again but even better now. I was fortunate to meet a trader from Europe that taught me very good and now i have the knowledge to make some big money but for a while i was thinking of where to raise capital, No job would hire me because i hadnt worked for few years but i was then blessed out of no where when i was called up for a very very large bank by the NYSE and being paid well. My plan has been to take every paycheck and devote a large chunk of it to building Capital and assets to build wealth and put my money to work for me. All of a sudden im meeting all of these hot women and they want to go on dates but im trying to keep my plan focused and its difficult passing these chicks by lol I keep thinking... "Dont waste money right now, the reward will be much greater later when im loaded financially" I guess my question is, how do you guys in a similar situation go about this and stay focused and passing up dates with hot women

 

[ecko280]

Go on cheap dates. For example, drinks and walks. If she likes you, she would go wherever you want to go.

 

[backbreaker]

the thing is, you have to really get honest with yourself and decide what do you really want and how bad do you want it.

if you want it bad enough, you will put off the dates.

frankly, if you are not willing to put off dates with women, then, you don't really want it bad enough, and there is nothing i can really tell you.

if it was that ****ing easy, everyone would be an entrepreneur. If all you had to do was come up with an idea and wish it would happen, the world would be full of billionaires. If you aren't' willing to self sacrifice things that you would like to have utnil you can fully enjoy them later in life once you have established yourself, then you just don't deserve what it is you are going after.

and there is nothing wrong with that. maybe you don't want it. that's not a knock. it's not for everyone. not ****ing, not dressing nice, not eating right, having to work **** hours, is not cut out for everyone. maybe you just want a decent job and **** hot *****es.

but if you have a dream, that you have to fufill, then you will do anteing that it takes to fulfill that dream.


if you will allow me to be frank, i don't particularly care for your idea of entrepreneurship. You seem to be all about the money. you feel good about yourself when you have it and you feel like **** when you don't.

for real entrepreneurs, it's never, ever about the money. the money is how you keep score but that's not the point. it's about coming up wtih something and working to see it implemented. It's about wanting to do something your way and no other way but your way. it's about winning. I can honestly say In ever looked at the entire deal and said "when i get loaded i can do x or y". of course i wanted to wait until my life stabilized, but i didn't look at the end of the road as some pot of gold or anything.

i could be wrong, you could love the finance industry and if you do love it enough you will dow hat it takes to get back where you need to be.

 

[In2theGame]

the thing is, you have to really get honest with yourself and decide what do you really want and how bad do you want it.

if you want it bad enough, you will put off the dates.

frankly, if you are not willing to put off dates with women, then, you don't really want it bad enough, and there is nothing i can really tell you.

if it was that ****ing easy, everyone would be an entrepreneur. If all you had to do was come up with an idea and wish it would happen, the world would be full of billionaires. If you aren't' willing to self sacrifice things that you would like to have utnil you can fully enjoy them later in life once you have established yourself, then you just don't deserve what it is you are going after.

and there is nothing wrong with that. maybe you don't want it. that's not a knock. it's not for everyone. not ****ing, not dressing nice, not eating right, having to work **** hours, is not cut out for everyone. maybe you just want a decent job and **** hot *****es.

but if you have a dream, that you have to fufill, then you will do anteing that it takes to fulfill that dream.


if you will allow me to be frank, i don't particularly care for your idea of entrepreneurship. You seem to be all about the money. you feel good about yourself when you have it and you feel like **** when you don't.

for real entrepreneurs, it's never, ever about the money. the money is how you keep score but that's not the point. it's about coming up wtih something and working to see it implemented. It's about wanting to do something your way and no other way but your way. it's about winning. I can honestly say In ever looked at the entire deal and said "when i get loaded i can do x or y". of course i wanted to wait until my life stabilized, but i didn't look at the end of the road as some pot of gold or anything.

i could be wrong, you could love the finance industry and if you do love it enough you will dow hat it takes to get back where you need to be.

Nice post Backbreaker, I agree with what you said and yeah i definitely want it bad enough, Everytime i feel im about to get out of focus i try to see what i am shooting for and my decisions will reflect how successful i become. I love finance and markets, the money that comes along with it is great of course but i put in 14+ hour days devoting myself to be the best i can be, not by force but by passion for it. Overall solid advice and i understand its about how bad i want it.