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Don Juan
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- Apr 30, 2006
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Working on getting my game back. All opinions welcome.
Quick background:
About 2 weeks ago, I ended an LTR with a 29yo I had been seeing for 2 years. I was very successful prior to that. I have been trying to get my skills and my "state" back.
Last week I opened a 22yo hb8 and had her all over me within 20 min - then her BF showed up and dragged her out of the bar. (She had been out with her friends). Last night I opened a 4 set and number closed a 27yo hb9.
The Question:
Earlier I met up with a 25yo hb8(friend/pivot/occasional playmate) at a bar - she left early and I ran into some other friends and stayed to finish my beer. I was getting ready to leave and I saw a 26yo hb7.5 and I figured what the hell!
I went over and said hey, blah, blah, blah. We had a fun conversation. I thought I had her hooked. I thought she was showing real interest.
The signs I noticed were:
Holding eye contact, twiddling her hair, she continued the conversation when I paused, She made a point to mention the friend she was meeting was a girl, she was going on vacation in two weeks (made sure to mention it was with her sister), she doesn't go out a lot, she's a manager - can't hang out with coworkers, wants to get married have a family, asks what I do - acts interested, was fine with kino although no huge response(I touched her wrist and slid my hand to her elbows while I was being unbelievably charming), more - I can't remember now.
Anyway, I finished my beer and I thought I totally had her so I just said "hb, I have to go, this has been fun, we have to get together for a drink. (yeah, yeah I know I did not bring my A game).
She said " A drink huh ... well ah.. you come here a lot, right? well I am friends with one of the managers so I'm sure I'll see you around.
I said "cool, have a great time on vacation" and walked out.
I don't want to make excuses for myself, but please don't waste my time with "you should have said this" crap. I obviously did not have her where I thought I did. I had comebacks to her resistance but I really didn't care enough to bother.
Please don't say "forget about her" - I already forgot what she looks like and I won't remember her name by tomorrow. This is all about improving my game!
A few things I am pondering:
1) I misread her interest
2) I had 3 drinks and she only had a sip of her drink.
3) A loser friend of mine threw a peanut at me from across the bar in the middle of my routine.
4) I was too confident and/or tried to close her too soon.
5) I have absolutely no game and I should join a monastery.
Thanks for any intelligent input!
Quick background:
About 2 weeks ago, I ended an LTR with a 29yo I had been seeing for 2 years. I was very successful prior to that. I have been trying to get my skills and my "state" back.
Last week I opened a 22yo hb8 and had her all over me within 20 min - then her BF showed up and dragged her out of the bar. (She had been out with her friends). Last night I opened a 4 set and number closed a 27yo hb9.
The Question:
Earlier I met up with a 25yo hb8(friend/pivot/occasional playmate) at a bar - she left early and I ran into some other friends and stayed to finish my beer. I was getting ready to leave and I saw a 26yo hb7.5 and I figured what the hell!
I went over and said hey, blah, blah, blah. We had a fun conversation. I thought I had her hooked. I thought she was showing real interest.
The signs I noticed were:
Holding eye contact, twiddling her hair, she continued the conversation when I paused, She made a point to mention the friend she was meeting was a girl, she was going on vacation in two weeks (made sure to mention it was with her sister), she doesn't go out a lot, she's a manager - can't hang out with coworkers, wants to get married have a family, asks what I do - acts interested, was fine with kino although no huge response(I touched her wrist and slid my hand to her elbows while I was being unbelievably charming), more - I can't remember now.
Anyway, I finished my beer and I thought I totally had her so I just said "hb, I have to go, this has been fun, we have to get together for a drink. (yeah, yeah I know I did not bring my A game).
She said " A drink huh ... well ah.. you come here a lot, right? well I am friends with one of the managers so I'm sure I'll see you around.
I said "cool, have a great time on vacation" and walked out.
I don't want to make excuses for myself, but please don't waste my time with "you should have said this" crap. I obviously did not have her where I thought I did. I had comebacks to her resistance but I really didn't care enough to bother.
Please don't say "forget about her" - I already forgot what she looks like and I won't remember her name by tomorrow. This is all about improving my game!
A few things I am pondering:
1) I misread her interest
2) I had 3 drinks and she only had a sip of her drink.
3) A loser friend of mine threw a peanut at me from across the bar in the middle of my routine.
4) I was too confident and/or tried to close her too soon.
5) I have absolutely no game and I should join a monastery.
Thanks for any intelligent input!