Trying to diagnose my problem

[dj_jazzybrad]

I'm a junior in high school with pretty good game. The DJ bible and the mystery method are my bibles, and i've picked up my game quite a bit. I know that high school is quite different than the scenarios that the mystery/dj method could be applied to, but I think most of still reigns true. Though a problem remains. However much I make a girl attracted to me, however much i firt and neg and be ****y, I can never close. My rationale is that I dont want to lose a good friendship -- and thats a legitimate excuse to me. Since I started practicing my game, there's been 3 girls that i've wanted to date and each time i feel like i don't want to lose their friendship after we date. I tell myself "whats the point in dating if its just going to be over soon anyway?" I don't know if the three girls would have put out, so sex wasnt much of a motivator for me. What am I doing wrong?? Or what can I tell myself? I want a relationship but I can never bring myself to close; not out of fear of rejection but out of fear of not having that friend after the break up.

 

[War Against Betaism]

You really just need to change your mentality. That mindset is that of an AFC that you fear losing what you can easily regain back. You just have to have confidence that you can take a risk and either crash or succeed, you still have another chance. There is a million women out there, why fear of losing the friendship of one? Just dive in there not fearing that you will lose her, and if you do somehow mess up, there is always another opportunity.

 

[dj_jazzybrad]

Thanks, i think thats what I needed to hear. I'm gonna ask her out on friday, we have finals the next 4 days and dont want a hasty decision based on finals or to add any extra stress. Its the last day of school anyway.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Oh yeah I forgot to add, even if she does reject you, you should still act the same. Most people act differently and take a different approach, this gives her power because she affected you. If you act unaffected by it and act like her rejecting you never happened, it means she has no influence on you. By doing this, even if you may not succeed, it'll soften the blow by a lot.