"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Trying to better a relationship

Kidd

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I am very new to relationships, or LTR's as you would call them.

Ive been seeing this girl for about 2 months now and we hooked up and fvcked a few times. Now we've been going out for 3 weeks.

I don't think the relationship is going as well as I'd like it to.

First, she's grounded, so pretty much the only time I see her is at school, and at her house on the weekends because she's allowed to have people over. But we can't do the things we want to do (sexual and not) because of her parents. So we just end up making eachother really horny by the end of the day, and can't do anything about it.

Second, she rarely says how she feels. Just 2 days ago, she got mad at me over something that wasn't even entirely my fault, and her point was that I'm not nice enough to her. I sometimes act like an ass, but she can be a ***** too. I always apologize for when I **** up, and she, alot of the time, is too stubborn to see things from my point of view to see why I do some of the stuff I do. She also told me I don't compliment her, which I do, but not alot.

When we had that argument, I was a second away from dumping her because she only cared about how she felt, and kind of ignored my point of view. But I decided to take it easy, change some things, and see how things go.

Third, she thinks Im "cheap" because I've never offered to pay for her. The truth is, it's because I hardly ever have money. My parents stopped giving me allowance because they're in a financial jam right now, and I seriously just never have enough money to pay for both of us when we out to eat or w/e.

She shows alot of affection however, and she does like me and likes to be around me.

I need advice on how I can make this relationship better.

I think she's a great girl despite some of her flaws.

Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Roly

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Your thinking from a desperate mentality

First of all man, you're freaking 16 yrs old and should be out meeting numerous chicks. You totally don't deserve this stress and anxiety when you can be out and getting more experience with other girls.

My suggestion: Put her on hold, start enjoying your life and start meeting other women.
 

wavejams007

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Amen Roly. I am eighteen, and one of my few regrets is giving too much worth to one girl in the past, and missing uncounted opprtunities.
 

jessup

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Next time she complains you don't pay for her tell her shes gotta be ****ing joking. Tell her you have a financial problem and then tell her she can stick it and break up with her because she isn't worth your money anyway - haha.

Makes me mad just thinking about her expecting you to pay for **** when your in financial strife yourself.

Argh.
 
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look, to amend a relationship you need to realize that you need to forget the ego and know how to compromise and also give you and that other person a good reason for healing the wounds....
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Docs

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I'll have 3 dolla after I pay my parking fine. That's a financial problem XD

sad thing was..it was only $25. So much for making $1400 a month.
 
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