Trying to bang the ex... Did I do the right thing, or did I really mess it up?

[MDgood]

Last weekend I went to "visit" an ex of mine in her new apartment. She invited me over, we went out to dinner, and then came back to her place, sat down on the couch, and started watching a long movie.

The thing about this ex is that she's a sex fiend. In fact, everytime I get a wiff of the latex on a condom I automatically think about her. When we dated we did nothing but fukk. I figured this was a good opportunity to get my pipes cleaned.

I was trying to figure out if she was interested in just doing it without actually coming out and saying it, of course. I was trying to make eye contact, did as much kino as I could to test her receptiveness. She wasn't making eye contact and did not kino me back once. I figured if she wasn't giving me any signs, then she wasn't interested and it was best not to push it and seem like an ass, so after the movie I left.

I drove home really pissed at myself for not making an overt move on her. I felt like I totally chickened out. But on the other hand, I didn't get back any signs from her. Did I do the right thing?

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Maybe she was on the rag?


Hey you did the right things, however she wasn't receptive! Chalk it up, thats all.

M.A.C.

 

[ZeeOwl]

Originally posted by MDgood
I felt like I totally chickened out. But on the other hand, I didn't get back any signs from her. Did I do the right thing?

I think you did the right thing. If a woman wants sex, she'll usually give you some kind of sign, or make it as easy as possible. Especially if she already knows you and she's a sex-fiend, as you say. Of course, her inviting you back to her place for a movie could be interpreted as that (making it easy). I guess it depends on what the pre-sex behavior between the two of you was like before. Did she always wait for you to make the first move, "help" you along, or just jump you when she was in the mood?

My latest ex comes to see me for sex on a regular basis, but doesn't give any clear signals. Just says that she misses me and wants company. Though in her case, she never liked sex very much (go figure! lol).

 

[seulaxplaya]

happened to me

dont want to get into details about what happened but basically she had a new bf

 

[MDgood]

Re: happened to me

Originally posted by seulaxplaya
dont want to get into details about what happened but basically she had a new bf

Probably not what was going on in this case. She had not only moved, but she moved about two hours away and across a major toll bridge over a large body of water. This is a sort of move that requires you dump a boyfriend.

The good thing is that it's looking like I did the right thing. Makes me wonder if a better DJ than myself would have been able to hit that booty?

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Where does she live?

M.A.C.

 

[thissucks003]

You must be bold in taking action. Don't wait for eye contact, etc... You have to start with some kino. I am sure you remember what her hot buttons are. You just have to re-create those things that turns her back on. Start with a message the back of her neck. If she is digging it and she will, you escalate that with kissing her neck. She will either be into it or not. She will let you know. You can't wait for her to take the lead, because for the most part she won't, unless she is extremely bold and horny. Always lead unto she she starts to get agressive, then you can alternate.

TS

 

[seulaxplaya]

i moved an hour away and at the same time she started working two jobs. so she said she was extremely busy and didnt have time for a bf. understandable until a couple months later. hey does ur ex have a really good guy friend over where she is?