Trying to avoid a Oneitis Part Deux - ADVICE NEEDED

[Egoist]

So, my potential oneitis situation is getting more difficult.

There is this girl that sort of works in a business where I work. I'm kinda one of the bosses, but they are more independent contractors than employees. I liked this chick since i first saw her, and everyone in the company thinks she is awesome. She totally has this honest, smart, good girl vibe about her, but she is also mysterious, ultra-feminine and sexy in just the right way. She looks exactly like my type. She also had a long-term live-in bf of two years. Cool.

Anyways, I was on top of my game in the past couple of months, steady improvement, FBs, f-closes, etc. I literally had girls throw themselves at me. Some strikeouts too, but never enough to lose confidence. Yet somehow, I kept thinking about this girl more and more, and no matter how i tried to control it, its growing and growing. Fvcking other women doesn't help, clubbing doesnt help, etc.

She keeps giving me IOIs, but in a very subtle way. She kept asking me to dance at the company party despite her b/f being there; she always acts a little coy around me and so on. There is just a LOT of tension between us, and everone sees in. Lots of details and stuff that i don't want to waste time on.


At this point it sort of feels like a freight train thats lost its brakes. People at work keep gossiping about us in a harmless way, my friends tell me that we look like we belong together, all that BS. I don't really buy or care about that. Whether or not I am a DJ, i know better than to trust stupid little things like that. But the tension between us keeps growing.

We had a small company get together, and when it was over, i was talking some business to her while everyone left(helping her out and stuff) and somehow the conversation got very personal. We started talking about love, life, happiness, etc. It was a friday night, and instead of running home to her BF, she spend two hours talking to me about that stuff. ALONE, FRIDAY NIGHT, OUR OFFICE. Nobody else there. It wasn't mental tampon stuff either, more like philosophical stuff. We even sorta had a moment where I know i could have kissed her and she would reciprocate. I didnt, and I will explain why later.

HERE IS THE INTERESTING STUFF. This girl thinks like a DJs counterpart should. She wants a strong man who leads a full life, she likes men that don't act like AFCs around her, she thinks men and women have certain roles in a relationships, she understands the whole hunter thing. She is very independent, wants to keep improving herself, non-materialistic, etc. Completely different from a typical spoiled american feminist slutbrat. It's crazy how on top of everything she is.

Anyway, if she was single, it would never ever even be an issue. I would have had her a long time ago, one way or another. But since she is in a commited relationship with a live-in boyfriend AND she works with/for me, its much more complex. I have girls i can fvck so I am not desperate or something. I am actually kind of enjoying the slow seduction thing. And she keeps on giving me little hints. Like even though i don't let her talk about her relationship to avoid the LJBF route, she kind of makes it clear that she is trying to figure out if she even loves the guy. And she even drops hints about waiting and patience.

SO HERE IS DECISION TIME FOR YOU. I know that sooner or later, i am going to take a chance with this girl. I'll regret it if i don't despite the abundance of other women i can get. THe real question is whether i should accelerate the seduction process and take her from her boyfriend by DJ force, or keep being my cool calculating self and let her make her own decision to leave him and give her room to see what she wants and then see how it works out - play the waiting game.

Also, i still have my guard up with this girl, even though she seems good and everything. I don't trust her 100%. You never know what game a girl might be playing a where it will lead.

FINALLY, have i lost it? Am i reverting to total AFC because i found a girl i actually like? I mean i still act like a DJ would, and don't let it totally get to me, but maybe you guys will see something i dont.

 

[SevenOne9]

You think waay too much about her.

If you truly have other prospects and you're willing to risk the consequences of your actions.... go for it -- get that experience...

If i were the dude she was with and I found out, I'd shake your hand...and then i'd be like, "How'd did my c*m taste? I just banged her last night and she sucked my d*ck an hour ago -- good for you man *thumbs up*".

You're right, you can't really trust her 100% -- she probably just needed a 'friend' to talk to, get that attention that her supposedly commited bf isn't giving her.

Keep bangin' them hoes.

 

[Serialized3]

Yeah man, I feel ya.

There's this girl at my work, 5 years older than me, I'd give her a solid 8, and she's into the same stuff I am, seems to have her head on straight, we always vibe pretty well, and we always flirt and stuff. On top of it all, she seems to be a good person and I just have respect for her.

I tried to hit on her when I found out she broke up with her boyfriend, but I guess I went for it too soon (d'oh) because I thought she was the type of girl that isn't without a boyfriend for too long. Anyways, she said that it was too soon and she couldn't promise to be anything more than a promies for a long time...not good.

Anyways, I thought I was over one-itis, by seeing multiple girls and thinking that no girl is really special, and stuff like that, but I think one-itis is basically caused when you know a woman has a high value and you're fixated on being with her because of that, despite other things.

Most of these KJ's out here say stuff like "GO HAVE SEX WITH 10 OTHER WOMEN" or things like that, but when you realize those 10 aren't her, it doesn't matter. You just want what you want, you know? She's more to you than just "HB 8" or whatever. She's a person. And like I said before, I just respect her.

Anyways, I would get down when she paid other people more attention than me, and I felt emotional responses build up in my stomach, you know, jealousy, anger, stuff like that. I guess what helped me try to overcome those thoughts was a visualization technique where I had to close my eyes and imagine that whatever I was seeing was being burned up in my head and let go. Sounds kind of strange, but it helped me control my emotions. Another thing that helped was to realize that it was just an emotional response.

All in all, even though I still think she's great and I still respect her, I know there's lots of other cute girls out there, and I can't get hung up on just one.

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by SevenOne9
You think waay too much about her.

If you truly have other prospects and you're willing to risk the consequences of your actions.... go for it -- get that experience...

If i were the dude she was with and I found out, I'd shake your hand...and then i'd be like, "How'd did my c*m taste? I just banged her last night and she sucked my d*ck an hour ago -- good for you man *thumbs up*".

You're right, you can't really trust her 100% -- she probably just needed a 'friend' to talk to, get that attention that her supposedly commited bf isn't giving her.

Keep bangin' them hoes.

fair enough.

she might be looking for someone to understand her, she might be a monkey looking for the next branch to grab, etc. I think i know women well, but not well enough to figure that ****. But i do know them enough to see if there is a little more than just friend energy, and i do know that i could get her if i went for it full force.

But lets say i break her and boyfriend up, only to find out I don't really like her that much. That would suck for everyone involved.

 

[backbreaker]

stop "pumping up her stats"

Despite how "perfect"she appears to be.. she has flaws. She eats and ****s just like everyone else.

I mean, it's cool that you think you are compatable, but from what you described, the WAY you described it, how can you NOT have oneitis.. it sounds like you described helen of troy.

Only that much enthuisium should be had for your life ambitions and goals and **** like that.

I mean, you meet a great girl. She should be a great girl you want to get to know.

You know little to nothing about her besides the fact that she is HOT.

Everything you used to describe her, is just like a rubix cube on just saying she is HOT.

If you were onTOP of your game, you wouldn't have been posting this. Either you would be with her, or you would already know if she is not intersted. Either way is a win win.

We started talking about love, life, happiness, etc.

don't ever do this again and it not be a date. Ever.

What do you gain by laying all of your cards on the table without her doing jack ****? You have no leverage... she knows everything about you already. It takes the fun out of the situtation.

You have to not only peek her interest, but at the same time, peak her curosity. There is nothing to wonder, to imagine, to fantazise about, because all girls are about fantazing.

Regardless of how much of a loser/Jerk her BF is, she WANTS to fantatzie about this great, manly man who comes and sweeps her off her feet. You just took that away from her.

If you have to talk about something personal, DON'T

Just say "I don't talk about my personal life at work... now if we were to somehow meet under different circumstances.."

Let her chase you. Her her Want you. MAKE her want you. Leave her no options. It shouldn't be am atter of If, but WHEN she folds and gives in to temptation.

While at work, focus on work. Remiain as much of a mystery to her as possible. The less she knows about you, the better. I mean, be pleasent, show enough personality to let her mind wonder and dream, but don't do what you did.HERE IS THE INTERESTING STUFF. This girl thinks like a DJs counterpart should. She wants a strong man who leads a full life, she likes men that don't act like AFCs around her, she thinks men and women have certain roles in a relationships, she understands the whole hunter thing. She is very independent, wants to keep improving herself, non-materialistic, etc. Completely different from a typical spoiled american feminist slutbrat. It's crazy how on t

op of everything she is.

and you got this from who? Her? You believed a word that came out of her mouth?

What girl is giong to tell you "yeah, I love jerks.. I mean, they are so jerkish, I Justl ove to suck ****.. 2 at a time is better"

of course they are going to give you the little miss princess role.. that's why I don't even bother. You can always judge by a girls, or woman's actions on how she is, **** anythnig she says, make her prove herself to you.

You didn't kiss her because you were scared. I mean, that's not good, but it's even worse to lie about it.

as much as you are head over for this chick, if you KNEW you could have kissed her, you would have, plain and simple.

Dude.. you need to wake up. NO girl is worth this much trouble (trust me) not because she isn't a great person, but because no girl is worth loosing your dignity over.

It's the question I ask.. if say...miss universe came to you and said "I want a man that buys me flowers, and writes poetry and treats me like the princess I need to be, and spend all his free time with me, etc" and she then said "egoist, if you do this, you will have me all to yourself"

Would you do it? Would you not be a DJ if you KNEW itw ould give you a woman?

no woman is that damn important, it's just *****

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by Serialized3
Yeah man, I feel ya.

There's this girl at my work, 5 years older than me, I'd give her a solid 8, and she's into the same stuff I am, seems to have her head on straight, we always vibe pretty well, and we always flirt and stuff. On top of it all, she seems to be a good person and I just have respect for her.

I tried to hit on her when I found out she broke up with her boyfriend, but I guess I went for it too soon (d'oh) because I thought she was the type of girl that isn't without a boyfriend for too long. Anyways, she said that it was too soon and she couldn't promise to be anything more than a promies for a long time...not good.

Anyways, I thought I was over one-itis, by seeing multiple girls and thinking that no girl is really special, and stuff like that, but I think one-itis is basically caused when you know a woman has a high value and you're fixated on being with her because of that, despite other things.

Most of these KJ's out here say stuff like "GO HAVE SEX WITH 10 OTHER WOMEN" or things like that, but when you realize those 10 aren't her, it doesn't matter. You just want what you want, you know? She's more to you than just "HB 8" or whatever. She's a person. And like I said before, I just respect her.

Anyways, I would get down when she paid other people more attention than me, and I felt emotional responses build up in my stomach, you know, jealousy, anger, stuff like that. I guess what helped me try to overcome those thoughts was a visualization technique where I had to close my eyes and imagine that whatever I was seeing was being burned up in my head and let go. Sounds kind of strange, but it helped me control my emotions. Another thing that helped was to realize that it was just an emotional response.

All in all, even though I still think she's great and I still respect her, I know there's lots of other cute girls out there, and I can't get hung up on just one.

wow cool story.

I mean i can control myself more and basically be very professional and cold with her, etc; just to protect myself. But i dont know.

Actually I am planning on becoming more withdrawn and giving her more mixed signals. I think i have demonstrated enough value to her already, now i can make her miss me more.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Serialized3
Yeah man, I feel ya.

There's this girl at my work, 5 years older than me, I'd give her a solid 8, and she's into the same stuff I am, seems to have her head on straight, we always vibe pretty well, and we always flirt and stuff. On top of it all, she seems to be a good person and I just have respect for her.

I tried to hit on her when I found out she broke up with her boyfriend, but I guess I went for it too soon (d'oh) because I thought she was the type of girl that isn't without a boyfriend for too long. Anyways, she said that it was too soon and she couldn't promise to be anything more than a promies for a long time...not good.

Anyways, I thought I was over one-itis, by seeing multiple girls and thinking that no girl is really special, and stuff like that, but I think one-itis is basically caused when you know a woman has a high value and you're fixated on being with her because of that, despite other things.

Most of these KJ's out here say stuff like "GO HAVE SEX WITH 10 OTHER WOMEN" or things like that, but when you realize those 10 aren't her, it doesn't matter. You just want what you want, you know? She's more to you than just "HB 8" or whatever. She's a person. And like I said before, I just respect her.

Anyways, I would get down when she paid other people more attention than me, and I felt emotional responses build up in my stomach, you know, jealousy, anger, stuff like that. I guess what helped me try to overcome those thoughts was a visualization technique where I had to close my eyes and imagine that whatever I was seeing was being burned up in my head and let go. Sounds kind of strange, but it helped me control my emotions. Another thing that helped was to realize that it was just an emotional response.

All in all, even though I still think she's great and I still respect her, I know there's lots of other cute girls out there, and I can't get hung up on just one.

from the jist of things, you didn't follow that advice.

I am right now, seeing 3 women on a constant basis, and another one whenever I damn well feel like it, usually one time a month, sometimes less

I have to literarly plan what and who I am doing a week in advance. And that's just 3 women, of course my friends, my ME time.

My phone rings off the hook. I am never really wanting for attention, or sex.


Even if I really l iked one of them enough to settle down, which I don't, there is no way I could have oneitis for her, because I am not seeing ONE woman. She ****s up, ba bye.

I have an old oneitis, ironically that I ran into for the first time in about 3-4 months at Wal mart last Monday. Now is the first time I have though about her since monday. I don't have time to... why think about someone who you aren't ****ing, when you are ****ing other good looking, socially accecptable women?

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Egoist
wow cool story.

I mean i can control myself more and basically be very professional and cold with her, etc; just to protect myself. But i dont know.

Actually I am planning on becoming more withdrawn and giving her more mixed signals. I think i have demonstrated enough value to her already, now i can make her miss me more.

For the love of god, READ, STUDY, BE the DJ Bible.

There are literarly hundreds of guys, including myself, that have faught the wars and battles of the sexes and have the war wounds to prove it, and to give you the stories so you don't have to suffer like we did.

She is no different than any other girl that was a oneitis, and should be treated any differently.

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by backbreaker
stop "pumping up her stats"

Despite how "perfect"she appears to be.. she has flaws. She eats and ****s just like everyone else.

I mean, it's cool that you think you are compatable, but from what you described, the WAY you described it, how can you NOT have oneitis.. it sounds like you described helen of troy.

Only that much enthuisium should be had for your life ambitions and goals and **** like that.

I mean, you meet a great girl. She should be a great girl you want to get to know.

You know little to nothing about her besides the fact that she is HOT.

Everything you used to describe her, is just like a rubix cube on just saying she is HOT.

If you were onTOP of your game, you wouldn't have been posting this. Either you would be with her, or you would already know if she is not intersted. Either way is a win win.

We started talking about love, life, happiness, etc.

don't ever do this again and it not be a date. Ever.

What do you gain by laying all of your cards on the table without her doing jack ****? You have no leverage... she knows everything about you already. It takes the fun out of the situtation.

You have to not only peek her interest, but at the same time, peak her curosity. There is nothing to wonder, to imagine, to fantazise about, because all girls are about fantazing.

Regardless of how much of a loser/Jerk her BF is, she WANTS to fantatzie about this great, manly man who comes and sweeps her off her feet. You just took that away from her.

If you have to talk about something personal, DON'T

Just say "I don't talk about my personal life at work... now if we were to somehow meet under different circumstances.."

Let her chase you. Her her Want you. MAKE her want you. Leave her no options. It shouldn't be am atter of If, but WHEN she folds and gives in to temptation.

While at work, focus on work. Remiain as much of a mystery to her as possible. The less she knows about you, the better. I mean, be pleasent, show enough personality to let her mind wonder and dream, but don't do what you did.HERE IS THE INTERESTING STUFF. This girl thinks like a DJs counterpart should. She wants a strong man who leads a full life, she likes men that don't act like AFCs around her, she thinks men and women have certain roles in a relationships, she understands the whole hunter thing. She is very independent, wants to keep improving herself, non-materialistic, etc. Completely different from a typical spoiled american feminist slutbrat. It's crazy how on t

op of everything she is.

and you got this from who? Her? You believed a word that came out of her mouth?

What girl is giong to tell you "yeah, I love jerks.. I mean, they are so jerkish, I Justl ove to suck ****.. 2 at a time is better"

of course they are going to give you the little miss princess role.. that's why I don't even bother. You can always judge by a girls, or woman's actions on how she is, **** anythnig she says, make her prove herself to you.

You didn't kiss her because you were scared. I mean, that's not good, but it's even worse to lie about it.

as much as you are head over for this chick, if you KNEW you could have kissed her, you would have, plain and simple.

Dude.. you need to wake up. NO girl is worth this much trouble (trust me) not because she isn't a great person, but because no girl is worth loosing your dignity over.

It's the question I ask.. if say...miss universe came to you and said "I want a man that buys me flowers, and writes poetry and treats me like the princess I need to be, and spend all his free time with me, etc" and she then said "egoist, if you do this, you will have me all to yourself"

Would you do it? Would you not be a DJ if you KNEW itw ould give you a woman?

no woman is that damn important, it's just *****

WHOA THAT WAS AN AWESOME AWESOME POST.

although you misunderstood some of the details, i think its more of my fault, but hey, i need all the criticism i can get so that i can handle this better.

first of all, its actually not about looks with her. She is a solid hottie, but there are women hotter. Its more about her personality and the way she is.

My drive and ambitions for life are actually number one for me. Don't get me wrong, i write about this girl, but it doesnt mean she is what my life is about now by any means.

As far as our talk goes, you are probably right. But i didn't give away much of the really personal stuff, and she really really opened up to me in terms of her past and stuff. I do take steps to remain a mystery to her, and i think she knows that i am pretty complex. She even asked me some stuff as we were leaving, and i was like "maybe some other time"

AWESOME ADVICE on the chase and all that. I really think im gonna start having fun with this one in terms push/pull, mixed signals, etc. Just for the hell of it.

And as far as the kiss, yes i was scared, but of the situation, not the moment. I just don't wanna deal with the boyfriend, work situation, all that. There are other girls just for sex and that. If anything happens between us, i want it on my terms.

but thanks for the awesome advice. i do need to become a little bit more adamant in this situation.

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by backbreaker
For the love of god, READ, STUDY, BE the DJ Bible.

There are literarly hundreds of guys, including myself, that have faught the wars and battles of the sexes and have the war wounds to prove it, and to give you the stories so you don't have to suffer like we did.

She is no different than any other girl that was a oneitis, and should be treated any differently.

you're right dude. I know it, i understand it, but I have yet to really internalize it so its 100% natural to me. I think i get away with a lot of slack because im naturally ****y and over confident, so it helps me get girls and im used to it. But i do think I would be better if i followed through on more of the principles.

Anyways, i think i gave her a good taste, now its a matter of pulling back and letting her chase me. It will be hard, but I will be more disciplined about it. I will also put more effort into friends, FBs, and new girls in my life.

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by backbreaker
She ****s up, ba bye.

shouldn't this be true with any woman, regardless?

 

[Egoist]

p.s. backbreaker: after reading your strip club story, i think im just gonna ignore your advice from now on. :crackup:

well not exactly, but what the hell, dude?

i never had to pay for a chick to fvcking strip for me. well there was this time when we got BJs from chicks in the VIP when we had bottle service, i don't know if you consider that paying

 

[backbreaker]

first of all, you don't know who I am.. My problems are a little different than most people's here.

If you read that post, and you think I was paying for sex, you got the wrong message.. I was mad because I paid for a service that I didnt' get, not because she "didn't like me".

As far as the money, I have money, that's not of consequence to me.

Most guys here, probably like you did, see the fact that I was willing to spend that much on a woman, and they equate that to THEM spending that much on a woman, or at least her time, when it's nothing the same.

I have 1k to spend on **** like that if I choose to, and at that time, I choose to.

I didn't want to have sex with her. It's not about that.

There are alot of things I have problems with on an everyday basis, that I have do deal with myself, or at least attempt to, that I don't talk about here, or really anywhere else, becuase there aren't too many people that can relate to my problems or to me in general.

AS far as the 1k? That one could have easily been 8-10k and I wouldn't have really cared too much (well, I would have woke up the next morning and been in shock that i just spent 10k at the strip club, making it the most pointless trip of money ever, but I wouldn't have really been affected financially, at least not long term). It's not about the money, it was about me not getting a service that I paid for. The principal of the matter.

I dont bother responding to alot of people's post, because most people are I dont' want to say ignorant, that's not a good choice of words, very few take the time to understand a situtation and to see it for what it's worth.
For instance..

Strip club=Deadbeat AFC

I'm not here to explain myself to anyone. I hardley ever come here for advice. I do fine, better than most, not all but most with women on this forum.

That's why I know alot of guys can't imagine a guy going to a strip club not wanting to **** the stripper, which I mean, don't get me wrong, she was CUTE, but there is a difference between thinking someone is attractive, and the only reason you are paying them is because you hope to get some type of "extra benefit" out of the situtation.

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by backbreaker
first of all, you don't know who I am.. My problems are a little different than most people's here.

If you read that post, and you think I was paying for sex, you got the wrong message.. I was mad because I paid for a service that I didnt' get, not because she "didn't like me".

As far as the money, I have money, that's not of consequence to me.

Most guys here, probably like you did, see the fact that I was willing to spend that much on a woman, and they equate that to THEM spending that much on a woman, or at least her time, when it's nothing the same.

I have 1k to spend on **** like that if I choose to, and at that time, I choose to.

I didn't want to have sex with her. It's not about that.

There are alot of things I have problems with on an everyday basis, that I have do deal with myself, or at least attempt to, that I don't talk about here, or really anywhere else, becuase there aren't too many people that can relate to my problems or to me in general.

AS far as the 1k? That one could have easily been 8-10k and I wouldn't have really cared too much (well, I would have woke up the next morning and been in shock that i just spent 10k at the strip club, making it the most pointless trip of money ever, but I wouldn't have really been affected financially, at least not long term). It's not about the money, it was about me not getting a service that I paid for. The principal of the matter.

I dont bother responding to alot of people's post, because most people are I dont' want to say ignorant, that's not a good choice of words, very few take the time to understand a situtation and to see it for what it's worth.
For instance..

Strip club=Deadbeat AFC

I'm not here to explain myself to anyone. I hardley ever come here for advice. I do fine, better than most, not all but most with women on this forum.

That's why I know alot of guys can't imagine a guy going to a strip club not wanting to **** the stripper, which I mean, don't get me wrong, she was CUTE, but there is a difference between thinking someone is attractive, and the only reason you are paying them is because you hope to get some type of "extra benefit" out of the situtation.

relax dude, you don't need to justify yourself to me. People have different approaches.

don't take this board too seriously. the minute you start feeling the need to explain yourself to people on the net that might be posting from moms basement is when you should just walk away.

 

[backbreaker]

lol, i'm not necessarly explaining myself to you, I just didn't want you not to take good sound advice for a silly reason, if that makes any sense.

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by backbreaker
lol, i'm not necessarly explaining myself to you, I just didn't want you not to take good sound advice for a silly reason, if that makes any sense.

i know.

anyways, i'll update you dudes on how this thing goes.

 

[Egoist]

ok this is really fvcking bad.

i keep having dreams about her in my sleep. WTF??? That like never happens to me with chicks?

Also, i banged a FB last night, i mean like almost hate-fvcked, and it only made me feel worse, dirty, etc.

 

[Egoist]

CROSS POSTED WITH MATURE FORUM:

So today I was helping her out with some work stuff, and ended up going to a bunch of places with her. I've spent like 9 hours with her. As always, we've talked about everything, from love to our goals to everything together. I'm being my c&f self, and make her qualify to myself all the time. She plays back very well. We drive to like 5 different places in MY car, and have way too much fun. I do stupid little small things like I make her wear my spare pair of sunglasses because she forgot hers, and every time we get back to the car she grabs them and puts them on. She is all smiles around me, like really happy, we just joke and talk and have fun all day. She is super sweet and nice, so its actually hard for me to be an a$$ with her, but i manage somewhat.

We basically changed venues like 6 times, Had a nice relaxing lunch together complete with mojitos, starbucks, etc. Time flew way way way too fast.

Now here are things that I am wondering about.

Her Body Language: She doesn't sit there playing with her hair all day long, but she keeps smiling at me, looks me in the eyes for at least 4-5 seconds when i fixate, she does play with hair sometimes, she leans in really close, stays close to me (elbow to elbow) at times, and she kinoed me at least several times. When our hands touched, she never pulled them away right away, just kind of stayed with it. Keep in mind, she is kinda reserved and shy in a classy way.

Little Clues: We would talk about workplaces romances and stuff, and i basically said: "My two rules are - never date a girl with a boyfriend or someone at work" and she was basically like "Wow, but how do you know the girl with a boyfriend has a good relationship?" HINT?? Or am i OVERANALYZING? Kinda same thing for work as well. I mean i know its crazy, but unless she was making a hint, i dont know why she'd say that?

I dont know what to make of this chick. I really don't want to be the new branch for this monkey, i made it clear that I would never respect someone who'd cheat on a boyfriend, so that option is off, and so on. Of course, all that creates even more tension between us. I honestly don't know if i can resist her for much longer, and my intuition keeps blaring the alarm that there is definitely something going off. But what? accelerate and go for it, or chill and wait and see what happens?

I am actually thinking of withdrawing for a couple of weeks so i dont see her. You know, she saw all the good and the bad of me, and if she really likes me, its gonna make her want me even more. Or is that wrong?