Trying is ALL that matters.

[stuka1939]

Alls that matters with succeeding in life and with girls is that YOU TRY.

THE OUTCOME IS IRRELEVANT AND NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART.

If you try and fail, you will STILL BE CONTENT because you know what the outcome is.

Nothing hurts your self-esteem more that NOT TRYING (especially when you get good vibes) failing to act and constantly having to wonder "what if".

Trying is good because it puts EVERYTHING to rest despite the outcome.

Perfect examples from this past weekend.

Three HB's at the bar were standing together and I thought I was getting eye contact from 1 or 2 of them. I approached and got shot down. However, the fact that I KNEW the outcome and didn't have to go home that night wondering "what if" puts the mind at ease and raises confidence.


I also got a phone number off a HB7. Despite being nervous, I called her tonight and I TRIED, instead of wussing out and NOT calling her. If she calls, she calls. If she does not, oh well. My mind is at peace because I TRIED and my brain is not beating myself wondering "what if".


HAVE YOU TRIED RECENTLY?

 

[Privitor]

Concise and well chosen words. I liked the read.
However, there are many topics discussing this under a different title.

To answer your question: no, I haven't tried when I should have and I beat myself mentally.
Trying is the essence.

 

[ItsOnNow]

No,I don't ever really try,that's what kills me the most. It's like I sit and wish things could be better.

 

[scottfall]

Threads like these make me feel better. They let me know that this **** isnt rocket science, its really easy as pie.

 

[up_an_up]

i agree with what your saying. nothing makes me feel better than ACTUALLY trying instead of wondering what if. I get a better feeling off trying than when a girls actually says yes, gives a number or whatever.

 

[j-flex]

very good post. should be in the bible

 

[theunflushables]

I'm going to have to go all nerdy on this but remember the words of Master Yoda, do or do not there is no try.

 

[Rebound Material]

Alls that matters with succeeding in life and with girls is that YOU TRY.

THE OUTCOME IS IRRELEVANT AND NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART.

If you try and fail, you will STILL BE CONTENT because you know what the outcome is.

Nothing hurts your self-esteem more that NOT TRYING (especially when you get good vibes) failing to act and constantly having to wonder "what if".

Trying is good because it puts EVERYTHING to rest despite the outcome.

Perfect examples from this past weekend.

Three HB's at the bar were standing together and I thought I was getting eye contact from 1 or 2 of them. I approached and got shot down. However, the fact that I KNEW the outcome and didn't have to go home that night wondering "what if" puts the mind at ease and raises confidence.


I also got a phone number off a HB7. Despite being nervous, I called her tonight and I TRIED, instead of wussing out and NOT calling her. If she calls, she calls. If she does not, oh well. My mind is at peace because I TRIED and my brain is not beating myself wondering "what if".


HAVE YOU TRIED RECENTLY?

alright alright. Ill give you credit for this thread because you actually seem like you know what you're talking about...unlike the others no offense.

 

[Mistic]

"Try not! Do, or do not." Yoda

 

[KontrollerX]

http://dapook.blogspot.com/2008/02/purpose-of-life-is-to-win-not-to.html

Wrong.

Winning is all that matters.

Good post btw Mistic.

 

[It's-Me]

http://dapook.blogspot.com/2008/02/purpose-of-life-is-to-win-not-to.html

Wrong.

Winning is all that matters.

Good post btw Mistic.

By trying, you already won.

 

[DJVladdy]

to "It's-Me":

I want to add something important to this post,

You are wrong saying by trying you already succeed why? -because there are two types of trying.

And those who are like me that have done many things onthe journey of self growth and development know what I am saying.

1. Trying LIKE YOU MEAN IT. The desire to suceed has to really be in you. You do it and you really make it count because you have a goal that you truly want to achieve (get a woman, improve with females in general, lose weight, gain muscle, improve your academics etc..)

2. Trying for the sake of trying. For a mental self-pat on the back. For a "checkmark" for your ego. So you can pound yourself in the chest like a gorilla and proclaim "but I TRIED!". No. Don't bother because you better off not having tried at all.

The key is to be 100% honest with yourself to tell the difference.

Not sure what I mean? Hint: go to "the masturbation thread" to see prime examples of number two.

 

[Lexington]

And by trying you get better. Believe me, there was a time in my life when I felt absolutely HOPELESS with women. Like I just thought I didn't get it. It bothered me to see people all around me succeeding with women while I couldn't get sh*t.

But I kept at it and now I'm actually decent. I'm not a super advanced PUA. I can't pick up any girl I want. But at least now, I regularly have some success. I get shot down a lot, but I also succeed with some. That's a lot better than having ZERO success.

 

[Night Owl]

Trying?

Famous quote “Do or do not... there is no try.”