"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alls that matters with succeeding in life and with girls is that YOU TRY.

THE OUTCOME IS IRRELEVANT AND NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART.

If you try and fail, you will STILL BE CONTENT because you know what the outcome is.

Nothing hurts your self-esteem more that NOT TRYING (especially when you get good vibes) failing to act and constantly having to wonder "what if".

Trying is good because it puts EVERYTHING to rest despite the outcome.

Perfect examples from this past weekend.

Three HB's at the bar were standing together and I thought I was getting eye contact from 1 or 2 of them. I approached and got shot down. However, the fact that I KNEW the outcome and didn't have to go home that night wondering "what if" puts the mind at ease and raises confidence.


I also got a phone number off a HB7. Despite being nervous, I called her tonight and I TRIED, instead of wussing out and NOT calling her. If she calls, she calls. If she does not, oh well. My mind is at peace because I TRIED and my brain is not beating myself wondering "what if".


HAVE YOU TRIED RECENTLY?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Concise and well chosen words. I liked the read.
However, there are many topics discussing this under a different title.

To answer your question: no, I haven't tried when I should have and I beat myself mentally.
Trying is the essence. :)
 
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No,I don't ever really try,that's what kills me the most. It's like I sit and wish things could be better.
 
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Threads like these make me feel better. They let me know that this **** isnt rocket science, its really easy as pie.
 
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i agree with what your saying. nothing makes me feel better than ACTUALLY trying instead of wondering what if. I get a better feeling off trying than when a girls actually says yes, gives a number or whatever.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm going to have to go all nerdy on this but remember the words of Master Yoda, do or do not there is no try.
 
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stuka1939 said:
Alls that matters with succeeding in life and with girls is that YOU TRY.

THE OUTCOME IS IRRELEVANT AND NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART.

If you try and fail, you will STILL BE CONTENT because you know what the outcome is.

Nothing hurts your self-esteem more that NOT TRYING (especially when you get good vibes) failing to act and constantly having to wonder "what if".

Trying is good because it puts EVERYTHING to rest despite the outcome.

Perfect examples from this past weekend.

Three HB's at the bar were standing together and I thought I was getting eye contact from 1 or 2 of them. I approached and got shot down. However, the fact that I KNEW the outcome and didn't have to go home that night wondering "what if" puts the mind at ease and raises confidence.


I also got a phone number off a HB7. Despite being nervous, I called her tonight and I TRIED, instead of wussing out and NOT calling her. If she calls, she calls. If she does not, oh well. My mind is at peace because I TRIED and my brain is not beating myself wondering "what if".


HAVE YOU TRIED RECENTLY?
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alright alright. Ill give you credit for this thread because you actually seem like you know what you're talking about...unlike the others no offense.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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to "It's-Me":

I want to add something important to this post,

You are wrong saying by trying you already succeed why? -because there are two types of trying.

And those who are like me that have done many things onthe journey of self growth and development know what I am saying.

1. Trying LIKE YOU MEAN IT. The desire to suceed has to really be in you. You do it and you really make it count because you have a goal that you truly want to achieve (get a woman, improve with females in general, lose weight, gain muscle, improve your academics etc..)

2. Trying for the sake of trying. For a mental self-pat on the back. For a "checkmark" for your ego. So you can pound yourself in the chest like a gorilla and proclaim "but I TRIED!". No. Don't bother because you better off not having tried at all.

The key is to be 100% honest with yourself to tell the difference.

Not sure what I mean? Hint: go to "the masturbation thread" to see prime examples of number two.
 
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And by trying you get better. Believe me, there was a time in my life when I felt absolutely HOPELESS with women. Like I just thought I didn't get it. It bothered me to see people all around me succeeding with women while I couldn't get sh*t.

But I kept at it and now I'm actually decent. I'm not a super advanced PUA. I can't pick up any girl I want. But at least now, I regularly have some success. I get shot down a lot, but I also succeed with some. That's a lot better than having ZERO success.
 
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Trying?

Famous quote “Do or do not... there is no try.”
 
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