met this girl i really like. im really worried im gonna f it up though. our first date i was super nervous but kept it under control for the most part. after the date she texted and said she had a great time though. im worried about getting physical with her. the last three times i had sex i performed pretty well, but i worry the first time with her i wont be able to show up. bought her a little gift today. not sure if a gift will be too afc. ive been pretty c&f with her though. idk.....any thoughts guys?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
trying hard not to be afc
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Logical Player
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just keep it up, and make sure to date as many new girls as possible
you may feel like an AFC now, but take it from someone who's been there, once you get tons of EXPERIENCE, you will be in total control of your own emotions, as well as the p*ssy that you are f*cking
you may feel like an AFC now, but take it from someone who's been there, once you get tons of EXPERIENCE, you will be in total control of your own emotions, as well as the p*ssy that you are f*cking
Dont worry about that afc **** man, You were nervous on a first date along with 100% of men that go on first dates with girls they are interested in. I would bet the farm she was just as nervous.
Theres is nothing wrong with buying a girl a little gift. If you got to know her real good on the first date, then really there is nothing wrong/afc with that at all. It just depends on the girl really and it shows you thought about her(which is really what she has been thinking since the first date). I mean dont go ****ing nuts and get flowers sent to her house, and show up wearing a tuxedo on the 2nd date.
Honestly, from personal expierence from my high school and college years, worry about performing was the ONLY thing that would just give me strait up ED when it came down to it and really I've just been honest with them, and it's never ****ed up sexual relationship I've ever had, even if I was Bob Dole without the bottle the whole night.
Sounds like you like her and for her to txt you and tell you she had a great time, she sounds like you just as much if not more. Just try to have fun with her man. The physical part will open itself up when the time is right(and it wont be long at all). So, just roll with it and good luck.
Theres is nothing wrong with buying a girl a little gift. If you got to know her real good on the first date, then really there is nothing wrong/afc with that at all. It just depends on the girl really and it shows you thought about her(which is really what she has been thinking since the first date). I mean dont go ****ing nuts and get flowers sent to her house, and show up wearing a tuxedo on the 2nd date.
Honestly, from personal expierence from my high school and college years, worry about performing was the ONLY thing that would just give me strait up ED when it came down to it and really I've just been honest with them, and it's never ****ed up sexual relationship I've ever had, even if I was Bob Dole without the bottle the whole night.
Sounds like you like her and for her to txt you and tell you she had a great time, she sounds like you just as much if not more. Just try to have fun with her man. The physical part will open itself up when the time is right(and it wont be long at all). So, just roll with it and good luck.
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please tell me that this "date" consisted of you at least making out with this girl AND you not spending too much $$ on her
valid point. with experience comes confidence. i feel like im putting pressure on myself to make it work with this chick though. im tired of meeting new chicks. i just want that safety of having this girl locked up.The Logical Player said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hey, I've had alot of hot girls on first dates that I haven't made out with at the end of them. Some girls dont roll that way, and no amount of C&F, DeAngelo, DJ programming is going to change that.
But by dates 4 and 5 I would score big time. Every girl is different.
But by dates 4 and 5 I would score big time. Every girl is different.
For real Connor EVERY girl I've ever done it with. I've just been honest with them. And no, there not turned off. If it happens 10 nights in a row, maybe then. But thats never happened to me before(and it wont you either) Their first thought will be that you dont think they are hot and thats why you didn't "show up".
Dont even worry about that though, thats not going to happen if you just forget about it. Trust me. I know when I was younger that was my biggest thought, that I wouldn't show up and that was the only time it wouldn't happen. It was just because I was nervous as ****.
You like her, and your nervous. It's understandable to be worried about it, but once you get to know her. You wont even worry about it anymore. You just wont be able to wait any longer to hook up with her.
Dont even worry about that though, thats not going to happen if you just forget about it. Trust me. I know when I was younger that was my biggest thought, that I wouldn't show up and that was the only time it wouldn't happen. It was just because I was nervous as ****.
You like her, and your nervous. It's understandable to be worried about it, but once you get to know her. You wont even worry about it anymore. You just wont be able to wait any longer to hook up with her.
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Good job man! You've got everything going right for you so don't worry about screwing it up. It's a plus that she texted you right after which can mean one of two things (Maybe both): 1. She's polite 2. She's interested in you. The physical part will come on its own; Don't force it. Continue to build comfort with this girl and good luck!
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I don't get nervous. I just get stupid, around hot girls. I'm a total ass to them and treat them like they're doing something that I don't approve of. They keep laughing, but I remain calm and serious. They get mad, so be it. You must be selfish. You must be happy. And you must be in control. Girls want excitement no matter what.