Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Truth to the Hot/Crazy Scale?

RussDobs87

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I’ve never really believed in the Hot/Crazy Scale, but lately I’m even questioning myself.

For years, I’ve dated 8’s. If I’m being honest with myself, I’m probably an 8 or an 8.5 when I’m cutting and in great shape.

Lately I’ve been raising my bar and meeting with 9s or higher. Are they all crazy or something?

Case in point - I meet a girl off Bumble, and we’ve got some good flirting going on over text and later we call each other before meeting. She’s super into it, and she’s basically asking me if I can meet up sooner than later.

So we meet, the date is going well, and somewhere about an hour into the date, I notice that she’s not really smiling like she was in the beginning. We had been just asking each other personal questions to get to know each other (with some flirting and joking of course).

She then says ‘ready to walk back’? Now you have to realize, we live in NYC and our apartments are pretty much on the way home.

We start walking and she says to me ‘don’t you have to go that way?’ And I’m like ‘ha, nope my place is this way.’ She looks at me like I’m attempting to stalk her and awkwardly continues to walk, not really looking at me.

Then I remember she brought up some story during our date of this guy who stalked her all the way home one night. So I try to put her at ease and I say ‘Wait wait.. do you really think I’m trying to stalk you home from a lunch date right now?’ Again, she doesn’t even smile and says ‘I really don’t know’.

Like Jesus Christ.. broad day light in NYC and this girl is under the impression I’m stalking her home.

Anyways, we part ways with a kiss on the cheek and next thing I know I’m getting a text that says ‘I’d prefer if we don’t meet up again’.

Never in my life have I been turned down by a girl in this way. Crazy women.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Infern0

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Ugly crazy girls get zero attention

Hot crazy girls get a LOT OF attention AND get away with practically anything.

Also there may be a correlation between beauty and being "corrupted" at a young age (which is where most crazy comes from)
 

MrJack

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I’ve never really believed in the Hot/Crazy Scale, but lately I’m even questioning myself.

For years, I’ve dated 8’s. If I’m being honest with myself, I’m probably an 8 or an 8.5 when I’m cutting and in great shape.

Lately I’ve been raising my bar and meeting with 9s or higher. Are they all crazy or something?

Case in point - I meet a girl off Bumble, and we’ve got some good flirting going on over text and later we call each other before meeting. She’s super into it, and she’s basically asking me if I can meet up sooner than later.

So we meet, the date is going well, and somewhere about an hour into the date, I notice that she’s not really smiling like she was in the beginning. We had been just asking each other personal questions to get to know each other (with some flirting and joking of course).

She then says ‘ready to walk back’? Now you have to realize, we live in NYC and our apartments are pretty much on the way home.

We start walking and she says to me ‘don’t you have to go that way?’ And I’m like ‘ha, nope my place is this way.’ She looks at me like I’m attempting to stalk her and awkwardly continues to walk, not really looking at me.

Then I remember she brought up some story during our date of this guy who stalked her all the way home one night. So I try to put her at ease and I say ‘Wait wait.. do you really think I’m trying to stalk you home from a lunch date right now?’ Again, she doesn’t even smile and says ‘I really don’t know’.

Like Jesus Christ.. broad day light in NYC and this girl is under the impression I’m stalking her home.

Anyways, we part ways with a kiss on the cheek and next thing I know I’m getting a text that says ‘I’d prefer if we don’t meet up again’.

Never in my life have I been turned down by a girl in this way. Crazy women.
Maybe you said something that turned her off or made her think you were weird? Lol idk. If you did mostly everything right then I’d just chalk it up to her being crazy or bipolar.

I mean you DID meet the girl on bumble and most girls on OLD are crazy types that are best reserved for pump n dumps anyways IMO
 

flowtheory

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Maybe you said something that turned her off or made her think you were weird? Lol idk. If you did mostly everything right then I’d just chalk it up to her being crazy or bipolar.

I mean you DID meet the girl on bumble and most girls on OLD are crazy types that are best reserved for pump n dumps anyways IMO
I’m really starting to notice this since becoming a member here.

OLD and real world are insanely different. Just from the types of women who actually like or send positive signals. It blows my mind
 

Mazer

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Did she look at her phone while she was on your date? Maybe Chad a “10” hit her up or an old ex and had to cut your date short.

Maybe she wasn’t ready to date and it dawned upon her mid date.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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