Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Truth to ever joke?

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I heard someone say this to me. I jokingly said to this person " your such a dumbass". This person got mad and I told them i was only joking. They reply "there is always some truth to every joke"

I though about this for a while and this person is kind of a dumbass in my eyes. Im wondering about the truth to this statement though. "There is always some truth to every joke"

Why do we tell jokes like this? Is it to make everyone laugh or is it deeper than that? For instance, when i tell my girl "If you sit on the couch any longer, you will sink into it an never get up" When i say this im only joking but really its true in some way. She spends way too much time on the couch.

What if I'm getting personal with someone and he or she says jokingly "I dont know if i should tell you because you may run off and tell everyone and their mothers". Even though this person is joking is this person suggesting he/she doesent trust me?

Just something ive been thinking deeper about. Any thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My way of joking is to tell the truth. It's the funniest joke in the world.
George Bernard Shaw (1856 - 1950) English dramatist, critic
John Bull's Other Island," II


Be not affronted at a joke. If one throw salt at thee, thou wilt receive no harm, unless thou art raw.
Junius (1740 - 1818) English political author
In "Wisdom of the Ages at Your Fingertips," MCR software, 1995.


I've also heard that "there is truth in many a jest". Meaning that alot of jokes are based in truth.
 

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I tell girls that I can't tell them something trivial (for instance, what I do for a living) because I don't know them well enough. It's 100% joking. There might be some truth in some jokes but by no means every single one.
 

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a man and his friend, a giraffe walk into a bar. they drink long into the night. just as the bar man begins closing up the giraffe passes out on the floor.
the barman says to the man "you can't leave that lie'n there" the man replies "thats not a lion, its a giraffe"

-doesn't work so well in text..

but theres surely no truth in it.
 

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Originally posted by quest
a man and his friend, a giraffe walk into a bar. they drink long into the night. just as the bar man begins closing up the giraffe passes out on the floor.
the barman says to the man "you can't leave that lie'n there" the man replies "thats not a lion, its a giraffe"
:down:

*cricket chirp*
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by DrMetallica
:down:

*cricket chirp*
beleive me.. its one of the "so corny its funny" type jokes.. i've told it to alot of girls, after a big build up, they love it :up:
 

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Watch Seinfeld if you want jokes stepped in truth.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dont confuse the 2....

Normally these statements which you refer to as "jokes" are NOT jokes really, they are just a "nice" / "friendly" way of telling someone the "truth" that they might take as an insult if you say it bluntly to them.

Eg: Skel said:

What if I'm getting personal with someone and he or she says jokingly "I dont know if i should tell you because you may run off and tell everyone and their mothers". Even though this person is joking is this person suggesting he/she doesent trust me?
Thats not a joke! Thats just telling the person that you dont trust them, in a nice way so that they will not get insulted.

Now compare THAT with:

a man and his friend, a giraffe walk into a bar. they drink long into the night. just as the bar man begins closing up the giraffe passes out on the floor..............
Now eventhough thats a rather weak+lame attempt at a joke ( :rolleyes: ), THATS what a JOKE is.

There is a difference between telling the "insulting" truth to someone in a friendly way, and telling a PROPER joke which has no other meaning other than to make others laugh. ;)


Laterz...
 

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I should have been more specific. I mean when you say something jokingly to a person as in not why did the turtle cross the road.
 

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umm.....

Originally posted by Skel
I should have been more specific. I mean when you say something jokingly to a person as in not why did the turtle cross the road.
I said:
Thats not a joke! Thats just telling the person that you dont trust them, in a nice way so that they will not get insulted.
There is your answer, in MY opinion, that is;)


Laterz...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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