Truth or lie

[Nn877]

So couple days ago I set up a date for tmw night with old fwb/gf it's complicated anyways, I've already gone out for drinks with her so this isn't first date session. Her son got sick couple days back, and tonight she texts me that she thinks she caught her sons flu or whatever.

Interest has been up lately, hasn't been really distant as well as I've been somewhat aloof and then give in to validation sparingly. I just find it kinda weird the night before all of sudden she's sick? Even said she threw up. Did also say she was excited for tmw and hope she feels better. What do you guys think? How should I play it? I was texting her earlier today, didn't mention feeling ill

 

[sylvester the cat]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqBY2D_2ESw

 

[Die Hard]

Solution: stop caring so much. Keep your outcome dependency in check!

Either she comes to the date or she doesn't. Nothing you say or do in the meantime will change the outcome anyway, so stop thinking about it.
The only thing that thinking about it will do, is RAISE your emotional investment and outcome dependency, which will only hurt your game (and your game needs to be tight in case she does show up).

Focus on something other than this woman/date and feel great (because you ARE great!) regardless of whether she's flaking or not. Your happiness is not determined by her, keep your mind straight!

 

[Nickface]

Die hard pretty much nailed it here. Maintain relationship with girl and do things to keep yourself busy. Simple as that. The more you think about it, the more your going to lose. If she cancels, smile and say ok next time!

Don't come off needy and don't give ultimatums. She's lucky to have you. Next time you hang, this situation will be obsolete and your going to wonder to yourself why you even stressed in the first place my man.

 

[Nn877]

Yeah I feel you guys. I notice myself getting emotionally invested in her outcome. I need to step back. She even text last night around midnight that she can't sleep and feels like crap. Seems like overselling to me but maybe that's just my insecurities talking. If she does cancel, I'll play it cool. Don't talk abt a reschedule right? Let her notify me when she's free? Thoughts?