"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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truth is, since i joined here my confidence has sky rocketed! I can joke around with girls i dont even know, i can cold aprooch etc.

The site had done a lot for me, i am popular, people, girls especialy seem to 'obses' over me the whole time, they just really take to me well.

Whilst there are a few girls that i odnt like which have asked me out, i seriously have a problem, iv tryed to get iwht girls i like, multiple times, often it seems to be going real well and then it turns out they dont like me! I really nned help i sit here thinking im all that with my high oppinion of myself, but even thou people really take to me and everything, i just cant get with any hot girls!

If you have any ideas, or better yet have experinced this and got past it, i would really apreciate your input!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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does no one want to help me?
 

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk

Whilst there are a few girls that i odnt like which have asked me out, i seriously have a problem, iv tryed to get iwht girls i like, multiple times, often it seems to be going real well and then it turns out they dont like me! I really nned help i sit here thinking im all that with my high oppinion of myself, but even thou people really take to me and everything, i just cant get with any hot girls!
so you can joke around with girls and you feel confident which is great. This can help your overall game but if you want to get the HB's you need to turn up the ****y + funny/jerk factor. From your post I see you have become confident and a guy that people like to be around with. This happens to all of us in our quest to become DJs, but to get the Hb's you need to step up your game.
 

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girls flake, keep improving your game and realize that its a total numbers game
 

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I think you let yourself seem needy and clingy when u like a chick, and thats where u go wrong. DO NOT COME OUT LOOKING DESPERATE IN ANY WAY. ... Otherwise, just keep it up, u'll suceed SOMETIME, neveer give up.


Laterz...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You say you are popular, and that and i quote "people, girls especialy seem to 'obses' over me the whole time, they just really take to me well." and that you "confidence has sky rocketed! I can joke around with girls i dont even know, i can cold aprooch etc." But you can't game the hot chicks you like...hmm I think either your not being really honest with us and to yourself or your all talk and no bite.

I think its alittle bit of both. Your probably one of those kids in HS that crack everyone up and the girls say aww isn't he funny and all that shyt but then when push comes to shove when you try to game them they squish you like a scrub cuz to them you were nothing but mr. funny man and they don't think you can be serious.

Also when you say, "it seems to be going real well and then it turns out they dont like me!" That tells me that they were intrested, when out on a date with you, but in time you either showed all your cards and told them you like them and no longer a mystery so they moved on or they may think your funny and all that in the class but when alone with her your not all that. Something your doing is effecting your game.

Find it, fix it, and try again.
 

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OneArmDeeJay its not like that exactly, theres a lot of girls that like me a lot as freinds and a few htta like me as more but none are up to my standards, its the fact that the ones i like just dont like me!
 

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How do you know this for sure?

Thinking isn't knowing.

So unless your asking them "Hey do you like me?" then you don't know that for sure, now do you?
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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Originally posted by OneArmDeeJay
How do you know this for sure?

Thinking isn't knowing.

So unless your asking them "Hey do you like me?" then you don't know that for sure, now do you?
because they have asked me out
 

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Man is it me or your not making any since. You post people love you yet you can't get any hot girls you like. then you post they don't like you then later you post they asked you out??

:confused:

Whatever ok, so the girls that ask you out all of a sudden are no longer intrested correct? So my question is, what are you doing to make them say that?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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no thats not it, there are girls that like me but they arent good enough. The ones that i like, well i try to get iwht them and then at the early stages things are going smothley and then when i make my intentions more clear, often verbaly, i relaise they dont like me!
 

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Well see thats your problem, your telling them how you feel instead of showing it. Lose lips sink ships.
 

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
things are going smothley and then when i make my intentions more clear, often verbaly, i relaise they dont like me!
Basic stuff.

Actions not words. Too serious too soon. You can freak a girl out so easily by "making your intentions clear" verbally.

However, I suspect that isn't the only problem. But it IS one you need to fix.
 
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