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Senior Don Juan
I've been a member of our group here for quite some time now; so long in fact, I can remember when Pook was still here. It's been a long journey for me, I started as the guy no guy wants to be; I've been the guy that I always thought I wanted to be, but I've also been the guy I've always hated. A great deal of transformation has taken place in my life over the past several years and I want to pass on the main thing that I've learned from it all.
You don't need this website. There are some good people here with good advice don't misunderstand me, but the main problem with that is that in being here, you're wanting someone else to tell you how you should be and what you should do. What it comes down to is a lack of self-approval and the fear of staring failure directly in the face and cementing that negative self-image in your mind. I believe it's partly a consequence of growing up in a country that throws around so many ideas of what greatness is. The solution to your problem is with you even at this very moment. You have to accept who you are, faults and everything. It doesn't matter that there are things you don't have that others do whether it's women, money, popularity, or whatever. I can tell you from first hand experience that having these things won't make you content. You're not unhappy and self-conscious because you don't have those things. You don't have those things because you're unhappy and self-conscious.
If you start accepting who you are, instead of trying to force yourself to accept who you want to be, it won't be near as difficult as you think it is and you'll be happy regardless of whether each venture is successful or not. This finally came to me when I was trying real hard to find a solution because nothing seemed to make things feel good enough, and I felt like giving up until I finally realized that there was no answer because there was no problem to solve in the first place.
Skip this paragraph if you're not interested because I know some of you aren't religious, but these things began to dawn on me after reading certain bible verses.For example, this isn't an exact quote, but some seem to suggest that God doesn't want you to beat yourself up because you've failed or done something wrong. God knows that worrying can make things worse, and that there is enough things to be more concerned about in each day. All that is expected is that you let yourself be happy, enjoy existence, and try to aim towards being good and fulfilling your full potential; in doing that you honor God because goodness, happiness, and human existence are all his creation.
You'll never have everything you want and you'll never be exactly how you want to be; but if you quit criticizing yourself and your performance you'll be happy and you'll progress more than you expected. You have to throw caution to the wind and jump into the middle of things, I don't care what it is, git 'er done as the saying goes. No matter what you'll have a bad experience with everything at some point or another but you can't let those things hold you back. You're as capable and as valuable as anyone else is; deep down you know it, but you have to start believing it. Yeah, you see other people who don't seem to have as hard of a time as you with certain things and the truth is some don't, but many actually do you just don't see, the major difference is that they don't judge themselves, they just keep at it until success is achieved. I quit trying to be a certain kind of man, if I lost everything I would still be as much of a man as I was before. Although I will say that there are some guys out there that don't deserve to carry the title in the first place.
Don't worry about women. It's as simple as this: relax, be comfortable with yourself, if you see a girl you're attracted to, talk to her. There is no right thing to say, so don't think that what you say is important. It's not disarming a bomb. If you like her, get her number, call her when you want to and make plans to hang out. Don't try to impress her or win her over with extravagant actions and quit thinking with your junk and its fear of not getting any, just enjoy getting to know someone. If sexual attraction is there, don't be nervous about it like if something happens you might mess it up and it's the only shot you'll get for the rest of your life. If sex happens, again: enjoy it, focus on the moment, explore her, want to please her, and I guarantee you she'll love it.
But please show some self-restraint. If you get into a relationship honor it, break up with someone before you cheat, and do it for the right reason. Going from girl to girl and thinking you're a "pimp" doesn't impress anyone except those who are too afraid to do that, and the ones who know better will see you as a fool because the wise know that if you go on a chocolate eating marathon, eventually chocolate just won't be as appealing as it used to. Anyway, I'll stop rambling now. Just quit caring so much and enjoy who you are, what you have, and where you're at. Enjoy life itself, be good to people, and start taking everything else a day at a time.
You don't need this website. There are some good people here with good advice don't misunderstand me, but the main problem with that is that in being here, you're wanting someone else to tell you how you should be and what you should do. What it comes down to is a lack of self-approval and the fear of staring failure directly in the face and cementing that negative self-image in your mind. I believe it's partly a consequence of growing up in a country that throws around so many ideas of what greatness is. The solution to your problem is with you even at this very moment. You have to accept who you are, faults and everything. It doesn't matter that there are things you don't have that others do whether it's women, money, popularity, or whatever. I can tell you from first hand experience that having these things won't make you content. You're not unhappy and self-conscious because you don't have those things. You don't have those things because you're unhappy and self-conscious.
If you start accepting who you are, instead of trying to force yourself to accept who you want to be, it won't be near as difficult as you think it is and you'll be happy regardless of whether each venture is successful or not. This finally came to me when I was trying real hard to find a solution because nothing seemed to make things feel good enough, and I felt like giving up until I finally realized that there was no answer because there was no problem to solve in the first place.
Skip this paragraph if you're not interested because I know some of you aren't religious, but these things began to dawn on me after reading certain bible verses.For example, this isn't an exact quote, but some seem to suggest that God doesn't want you to beat yourself up because you've failed or done something wrong. God knows that worrying can make things worse, and that there is enough things to be more concerned about in each day. All that is expected is that you let yourself be happy, enjoy existence, and try to aim towards being good and fulfilling your full potential; in doing that you honor God because goodness, happiness, and human existence are all his creation.
You'll never have everything you want and you'll never be exactly how you want to be; but if you quit criticizing yourself and your performance you'll be happy and you'll progress more than you expected. You have to throw caution to the wind and jump into the middle of things, I don't care what it is, git 'er done as the saying goes. No matter what you'll have a bad experience with everything at some point or another but you can't let those things hold you back. You're as capable and as valuable as anyone else is; deep down you know it, but you have to start believing it. Yeah, you see other people who don't seem to have as hard of a time as you with certain things and the truth is some don't, but many actually do you just don't see, the major difference is that they don't judge themselves, they just keep at it until success is achieved. I quit trying to be a certain kind of man, if I lost everything I would still be as much of a man as I was before. Although I will say that there are some guys out there that don't deserve to carry the title in the first place.
Don't worry about women. It's as simple as this: relax, be comfortable with yourself, if you see a girl you're attracted to, talk to her. There is no right thing to say, so don't think that what you say is important. It's not disarming a bomb. If you like her, get her number, call her when you want to and make plans to hang out. Don't try to impress her or win her over with extravagant actions and quit thinking with your junk and its fear of not getting any, just enjoy getting to know someone. If sexual attraction is there, don't be nervous about it like if something happens you might mess it up and it's the only shot you'll get for the rest of your life. If sex happens, again: enjoy it, focus on the moment, explore her, want to please her, and I guarantee you she'll love it.
But please show some self-restraint. If you get into a relationship honor it, break up with someone before you cheat, and do it for the right reason. Going from girl to girl and thinking you're a "pimp" doesn't impress anyone except those who are too afraid to do that, and the ones who know better will see you as a fool because the wise know that if you go on a chocolate eating marathon, eventually chocolate just won't be as appealing as it used to. Anyway, I'll stop rambling now. Just quit caring so much and enjoy who you are, what you have, and where you're at. Enjoy life itself, be good to people, and start taking everything else a day at a time.
. It's not wrong to have guidance in life, but I know that there are people here trying all these things in the dj bible who aren't looking deep enough into what it is suggested that they do. They just want a means to an end and sometimes follow blindly. I don't necessarily mean that the site is bad, I was just saying that being on here day after day, following advice that could be horribly wrong, can be less than beneficial. To be honest I think the majority of the dj bible is actually useless information.